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Lap Dance Sex Position – How To Let Her Seduce Herself

If you want to learn how your woman comes, watch what she does when she gets on top. The exception to this is when she’s in a service-top moves such as the lap dance sex position.

Wait…

What’s A Service Top Position?

Traditional girl-on-top positions (like cowgirl) are highly educational because you can relax and observe how your woman moves in order to orgasm. You can feel and watch the precise motion, rhythm, and speed she uses in order to get herself off.

Service-top positions are different because your woman doesn’t move in ways that will make her come. She moves in ways that *she thinks* will make you come. Or in ways she thinks will tease, please, and turn you on. She’s on top and in full control but she doesn’t use that power to pleasure herself, she uses it to pleasure and service you.

As you’ll learn in Penetration Orgasms Made Easy, the type of fucking that makes men come is very different from the type that makes women come.

So, if the lap dance sex position isn’t useful at teaching you what makes your woman come, what is it good for? The answer is turning her on and priming her for stronger orgasm in other positions.

Here’s why.

Nothing Turns Her On More Than Turning You On.

The only reason a woman gives you a lap dance (other than cold hard cash) is to turn you on. It’s to get you thinking with your little head instead of your big one. Why does she want to have this power? Because it makes her feel sexy, beautiful, and wanted.

So give her those feelings.

Make her feel beautiful, sexy, and wanted, by giving her the rise she’s trying to get out of you. When she sees (and feels) that her seductive moves are working, it makes her confident, wet, and liberates her to do all the nasty things you want without feeling any shame or guilt.

When she gets on top and gives you a lap dance:

Stroke and caress every inch of her body.
Compliment the way she moves.
Let out NON-EXAGERAATED moans and groans of pleasure and arousal.

A Quick Warning On The Danger of Trying To Get A Rise Out Of You

Have you ever been with a woman and taken her moans, groans, and movements as a sign to go harder, faster, or deeper… only to have your change in pace absolutely butcher her mood?

The same thing can happen here.

If you’re doing a great job of letting her know she’s turning you on, she might feel the urge to crank things up a notch.

As I said a minute above, the type of fucking that makes men come is usually very different from the type that makes women come. When You Watch Penetration Orgasms Made Easy, I’ll Show You That Difference. If a woman gets on top of you in the lap dance sex position and starts going in the way most likely to make you come (fast, full length, and hard), it could be very dangerous. One tiny slip and you could be in prime position for a major accident.

So make sure to keep the lap dance sex position going at a safe pace where the risk of an accident is reduced as much as possible.

If she does get too excited, grab a hold of her by the waist, hold her back, and tell her to slow down.

Pro Tip: Telling her that she’s making you too excited can fuel her confidence but telling her that SHE is getting too excited gives you a great segue to switch into a more dominant position where you can safely take back control of the thrusting.

So let’s get to it…

Variations of The Lap Dance Sex Position

As with all positions, there are many different versions. Here are a few of the most common your woman might try and what you can do to level up on them.

Champagne Room Position

This is the closed leg version of the lap dance where she’ll feel the tightest. It’s extremely difficult (if not impossible) to get into so she might have to spread her legs at first, get in position, and then close her legs once you’re inside.

In my experience, most women opt for a subtle grind instead of bouncing up and down. Match this pace by ‘hugging’ her from behind, putting your arm around her neck, or placing a hand on her pubic bone and applying a bit of pressure.

This is the ultimate “trying to turn you on” version so remember to encourage her and help her feel successful. Breath and moan, whisper in her ear how much she’s turning you on, and let her know how sexy her body feels as you caress every inch of it.

Reverse Lap Dance

This version is so good at making women come, that it made it onto my top 3 g-spot positions article.

As the name suggests, it’s similar to the regular lap dance only your woman is facing you instead of facing away. She puts her feet on the couch on each side of your butt and rocks her pelvis up and down.

If she leans back while doing this move, she’ll “drop” her g-spot directly onto your shaft, making her come fast and hard. The key here is that she will need some support to hold that position. She can put her hands on your thighs, you can wrap your arms around her waist and back, or she can hold up on a table or other furniture.

Spread Lap Dance Sex Position

Unlike the previous version where she keeps her legs closed tight, this version has her legs spread wide and open to all kinds of extra stimulation. This version actually can be all about her pleasure and making her come if you aren’t intimated by a little extra help.

Yup, I’m talking about using a toy or your hand to give her clitoral stimulation while she sits relatively still on your cock. You can actually make her come quite easily while you’re inside of her if you let your shaft sit still and let a toy do the work.

Swiss Ball Blitz Sex Position

Alright, this one is really more of a sex bucket list position for the very fit and sexually curious.

It’s lap dance on an exercise ball.

What more is there to say here other than BE EXTREMELY CAREFUL with this one. The risks we talked about above are even more present here so you might want to tell your woman not to pull off more then half way. The less length you’re working with, the more I would recommend you stay away from this version.

The Position Most Likely To Make Her Come

This entire blog is about studying different positions and finding the best ones for every scenario.

Depending on your size, your shape, how you and your woman “fit” with each other, some positions will naturally make her come more easily than others.

But there is one sex strategy that’s even more orgasmic than the positions you use.

Women from around the world agree it’s more important than the positions you use, your size, or even your stamina.

Use this 1 fucking technique and give any woman the most powerful orgasms of her life… guaranteed!

Master the Kneeling Blowjob Position with These 2 Power Plays

Few things turn a man on more than watching you tie up your hair, push him up against a wall, and drop to your knees before devouring him. The kneeling blowjob position might just be the most powerful tool in your sexual arsenal. Try the positions and power plays on this page to make your man melt and get him to do every nasty thing you want!

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Why Guys Love The Kneeling Blowjob Position

Sexual Psychology – It doesn’t matter if we’re talking about the most vicious predator in the animal kingdom, a bloodied soldier at war, or the most hardcore male feminist. Men are hardwired to seek higher ground and dominate. By getting on your knees and servicing him, you smack the power dynamic and trigger your mans deepest, most primal desire to dominate.

Blood Flow – Ever notice how a mans erection just doesn’t look the same when he’s lying down? It’s because the blood flow in his member pushes his erection down in the same direction as gravity. There’s no resistance. No pressure. No pleasure. But when your man stands and his erection fights against gravity, it amplifies the sensation and makes his hard on that much… harder.

His Most Sensitive Spot is RIGHT THERE – In case you didn’t know it already, the frenulum (the area where his head meets the shaft on the underside) is the most sensitive spot on the entire penis. When giving a blowjob from the kneeling position, your tongue is in the perfect place to rub against his frenulum and give him the most blissful sensations he can experience.

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It Gives Your Neck A Break

In the laying on your stomach blowjob position, your neck can get sore very quick. There are some quick fix tips that can help but sometimes you just can’t take it anymore and need a break. That’s where these kneeling blowjob positions are a life saver.

The flip side is that these positions can be hard on your knees. Obviously a pillow or exercise matt will make a huge difference but here are a few more tips you might have not considered before.

Consider investing in a meditation bench. Simply put, these miracle benches take most of the weight off your knees and increase your kneeling stamina.

Try switching between feet flat on the floor and bent at the ankle. Simply switching back and forth between the two a few times during your session can prolong your session by many multiples.

What To Do With Your Hands In The Kneeling Blowjob Position

The first thing to consider in a kneeling blowjob is what you’re going to do with your hands. You might have never given it much though but simple shifts here can make all the difference for both of you. Be willing to try each of these out and find what works best for you and your man.

Submit & Get Restrained – The beginner version is to simply hold your hands behind your back voluntarily. You can get cuffed or tied (in ways that are easy to escape from or not). Or, my personally favorite, lift your arms up to the sky and have your man pin your wrists against a wall. All of these add to the male dominant power dynamic we all know and love about blowjobs.

Handy Additions AKA Add Handjob Techniques – Use you hands to give him a handjob blowjob combination. There are so many ways to amplify a blowjob with your hands (all covered inside Blow His Mind of course). The 2 most popular are the corkscrew and ball play. For the corkscrew handjob technique, make an ok sign with your thumb and index finger. Place the O against your lips, then slide it back and forth along the full length of his shaft while your mouth works his head. As for ball play, I highly recommend you stick to gently cupping his balls until you know his preferred techniques and intensity.

Hug and Pull him close – This simple little move is an absolute mind fuck that triggers deep loving feelings in any man. Don’t just hold onto his hips when going down on your guy. Hug his hips or thigh and pull him body into your mouth. Grab a handful of his ass, squeeze, and pull him his body and cock into your mouth. This makes him feel (at a deep psychological level) that you really want him in your mouth and don’t want him to back up and away.

Positions for Both Power Dynamics

Way to many people still think of a blowjob as degrading to women and empowering for men. The truth is that it can be empowering to the giver or receiver. You choose. If your blowjobs are getting a little state, try switching the power dynamic to the one you’re not used to. A quick and easy way to establish this is by using a wall. WHO has their back against the wall?

Givers back against the wall is great for facefucking. If you trust your partner, have established boundaries and a safe act (cause safe words aren’t a great option when your mouth is full), then kneeling with your back against the wall is a great position to get face fucked. He can take this to the next level by restraining you with cuffs or pinning your hands against the wall.

Receivers back against the wall is great for fucking him with your mouth. Push him against a wall, pin his wrists to the wall, and take charge. Instead of him controlling the thrusting, you get to fuck him with your mouth. Pin him against the wall and he’ll be your helpless, decadent toy to fuck with your throat.

Threeway Bj Positions

When you start giving expert blowjobs, the desire for more cock might strike. When it does, you have several options.

Invite a dildo to your session. Working 2 live cocks can certainly be intimidating. Before you take that plunge, get a feel for double cocks by bringing a dildo into your session. It’ll give you a feel for what a MFM threesome would be like with a lot less pressure. Dildo threesomes is a fun way to get double the cock without making your man jealous. Just make sure he knows that you don’t need this dildo because he’s not enough to satisfy you. Rather because he just makes you THAT horny. You can blow your dildo while your man fucks you, or the other way around. Take it to the next level by putting a suction cup dildo against a mirror. Weather your fucking or sucking the dildo, you’ll give your man the greatest view of his life!

Want two live cocks? Ahh the double barrel blowjob AKA double bj. No literally, open up as wide as you can and say ahhh. If they’re bi guys or simply don’t have any issues with frotting (rubbing both their cocks together), you can literally squeeze the two together and take them both in your mouth. Depending on their size, this might be impossible. If it is, simply squeeze them together and lick their tips back and forth with your tongue or puckered lips. This move isn’t so much about physical pleasure and sensation rather the thrill or watching you adore 2 cocks simultaneously. The much more common and pleasurable thing to do is simply swap back and forth between both cocks.

Give Your Man the Royal Treatment with a FMF blowjob. The royal treatment AKA heaven on earth is when a man is serviced by 2 women at the same time. One services him from the front with a blowjob, while the other services him from the back with some analingus. This is the most “full body” sexual experience a man can have and it’s guaranteed he’ll remember and fantasies about it forever.

Sit and Lean Kneeling Blowjob Position

Standing straight up while getting head is a rush. From the view to the sensations provided by the gravity vs blood flow… but it will eventually get tiring. At some point, your man will want to switch positions and start fucking, or take some weight off his feet. Stay on your knees while he assumes one of these positions to keep up the fun while allowing his to relax even more.

He leans against the edge of a bed, counter, or table. It might not seem like much but this little shift alone can make a huge difference by getting your mans attention off his tired feet and back onto you and the mind melting sensations you’re providing.

He sits in the boss’s chair position. This is the favorite of many men as he still gets to enjoy the sensations of gravity vs flow while also being in a comfy position. If he sits correctly, your range of movement will be limited because of his stomach and thighs. Fix this by having him lean back in the chair and put his feet up on a table or other surface behind you.

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Bi Guy Reveals: Mastering The Laying On Your Stomach Blowjob

If you want to make your man erotically obsessed with you, there aren’t many moves that can compete with the laying on stomach blowjob position.

It’s sometimes referred to as the pose or the prone position blowjob.

This seemingly basic (yet incredibly powerful) BJ pose makes it easy to:

Use your hands in a variety of ways
Tease your man with visual stimuli that’s just not possible in other positions
Keep control over your depth, speed, and rhythm
Make him feel truly loved and even trigger deep feelings of devotion

For many guys, blowjobs are a sign of love. The only thing better than a great blowjob is a great blowjob that you enjoy giving him. When he’s convinced that you love taking him in your mouth, your man will go to the ends of the earth and slay dragons for you.

Whether your mission is to make him cum, make him forget about his ex, or make him so hard he loses all control, flips you over, and fucks you senseless… the laying on your stomach bj position is a must in every goddesses sexual repertoire.

What is the Laying On Stomach Blowjob Position?

As the name suggests, whatever version you use, you are on your stomach in the prone position.

Your man can lie down, lean, stand or sit, but the crux of it is that your stomach is always laying flat on the surface beneath you.

Your hands can be restrained behind your back, grabbing him in a variety of ways, or playing with yourself, but you are always on your belly.

How To Use Your Hands While Laying On Your Stomach

Unlike giving head while you’re on all fours, laying on your stomach offers a lot of creative options with your hands. You’ll still have to hold up a bit of your body weight, but the amount is massively reduced and can be done with as little as a single elbow or forearm.

This means you get to use your hands in some fun and tantalizing ways. Here are a few of my favorites.

Pull his erect shaft down (towards his feet) with a finger or your mouth. When he’s fully erect, a little bit of downward pressure makes a high reaching erection feel even more intense. Don’t pull too much. Just enough to create a slight resistance.
Pin him down. In the laying on stomach blowjob position, you’re running the show. You’re in charge. Make sure he knows it. Interlocking fingers and holding each others hands might be ok in the beginning while he’s still soft and getting worked up, but once he’s hard, pin his hands to his sides and make it known he’s not going anywhere.
Grab, hold and pull on his thighs. Again, simply holding onto him subconsciously says you don’t want to stop. Add some slight pulling to subconsciously tell him you love what you’re doing and don’t want it to end.
Right before he cums, make an ok sign with your fingers around his balls and carefully pull them away from his body. Like an orgasm prolonging magic trick, this lengthens the trip his semen needs to take, making his orgasm last just a wee bit longer.

Right after he cums, wrap a hand around his shaft, press your thumb tip against his corpus spongiosum and drain out every drop like a tube of toothpaste.

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Create Hypnotic Views He Can’t Look Away From

Everyone knows how visual men are. Even a slightly suggestive sight can make a man hard as steel.

When getting a blowjob, there’s no hotter view then to see your giver adore what they’re doing. Watching you smirk, smile, and laugh while working our cock can put us in a trance faster than anything else.

Creating Views When He Can See Your Face

In the standard version of this position, your man can see your face. Eye contact is possible, even easy with a slight head tilt on his part.

Pull his shaft down (like shown/talked about above), tilt your head, and:

Look him in the eyes
Smile with your mouth and eyes
Take him as deep as you can while looking him in the eyes and wink at him
When you need to come up for air, lick his shaft and let him see your tongue. Yup, guys are suckers for a clean, wet tongue lapping up their shaft.

Creating Views When He Can’t See Your Face

Below we’ll go over some of the best variations for the laying on stomach blowjob position. Some of these variations make it hard (even impossible) for him to see your facial expressions. In these versions, the tips above won’t be much help.

Here’s how to give him a killer view when you’re on your stomach but can’t see each others face:

Lift your feet up in the air to trigger his foot fetish. Maybe he has a foot fetish and he doesn’t know it yet. Seeing your sexy soles while he’s deep in a state of bliss might just awaken that hidden fetish.
Enhance your ass with a whale tail. If he’s sitting or standing, he’s going to have a rare upside down view of your butt. A timeless way to enhance this view is with bright and/or sexy underwear. If you still have pants on, pull your undies up slightly to give him a whale tail view.
Let him be a voyeur. This one is kind of sneaky, but it works like gangbusters. Position yourself in front of a mirror so that he can look over and see between your legs. Rub yourself while devouring him. Stop for a second every now and then to let out a moan. While searching for the cause, he’ll eventually catch the reflection in the mirror and have a voyeurs view of just how turned on you’re getting from tasting him.

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Different Ways To Do The Laying On Stomach Blowjob Position

When it comes to the way you’re positioned, there isn’t much room for variation.

Rest your forearms on the bed in front of you, or you place them behind your back. Clasp them together, grab your ankles, or get restrained with ropes or cuffs. Hug his hips or hold onto him in a variety of ways.

The real variants of this pose come down to his position. Here are the most common variants.

He Lies Down with you Between His Legs

In the most common version of this position, your man lies on his back starfish style while you lay between his spread legs. Compared to coming in from the side, your tongue is directly under his frenulum which is by far the most sensitive part of the entire penis. Swish your tongue from side to side or up and down while pressed against his frenulum and feel him absolutely melt.

Lean on your elbows and reach your hands up to fondle his balls and shaft. Switch things up by sliding your arms under his knees and reach his belly, pubic bone, and shaft from above.

When you’re ready to move on, pick yourself up and go into all fours – or – turn your body perpendicular to his so that…

He Lies Down while you Come In From the Side

Same as the previous version except you’re perpendicular to each other. From this angle he still gets to see your face and expressions, and he also gets to see (and play with) the rest of your body. He can caress your ass, explore between your legs, reach your boobs or hold and play with your hair.

Unlike other version, you can use all the visual tricks from both categories above. Take advantage of that well placed mirror off to the side of your bed and give him a show of you rubbing yourself while worshipping his instrument.

He Stands AKA Prone Face Fucking

This is the ideal version to submit for some face fucking. Contrary to previous version, he’s running the show now. Not you. He’s got total control over the thrusting and you don’t have any.

He can see your entire backside, lean over and spank you, fuck you with a finger or toy, or just admire the view while thrusting in and out of your mouth. Once he’s earned your absolute trust, he might restrain your hands behind your back while using your throat. OR you can restrain yourself by reaching back and grabbing your ankles.

He Sits AKA Game’s On

This one is similar to the sideways version of the laying on your stomach blowjob pose only he’s sitting instead of laying down. There’s a bit less room for you to work your magic since his thigh and belly are in the way. Try placing one hand behind his back and the other over his thigh. You can also try sliding your second hand under his thigh and reach his cock and balls from below. Just beware this version can put your arm to sleep fairly quick if he’s too heavy with his leg.

Use this pose while he’s playing a video game and challenge him to see how long he can keep his character alive. Or just use it while watching a movie when you’re in the mood to Netflix and chill.

Prone Dildo BJ Threesome

Finally, because I’ve been asked over and over about dildo threesomes and practicing blowjobs with dildos, I figured I’d share this gem.

Imagine practicing your blowjob skills and opening your throat on a dildo while your man gets on top and enters you from behind.

It’s a great way to get some sensations of a threesome without the jealousy. Do it in front of a mirror so he can see you suck a toy while he plows deep inside of you. Also opens up your throat and prepares you for the switch.

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The Clapper Position – The Best Twerking Sex Position?

If watching women twerk turns you on, you’re going to love the clapper position.

If your girl likes shaking her ass, giving a show, and taking control, she’s gonna wanna try this one.

The clapper is similar to the reverse cowgirl only she has a much greater range in motion because of the variation in leg placement. This allows you to go much deeper.

You get the best view in the house. She gets the comfort of being on her knees without having to spread wider than the width of your hips.

To get into the clapper, just bend you knees slightly to let her legs go under yours.

You can get on your back, spread your legs, and let her scoot back onto you doggy style. Or she can get in doggy first, then you get on your back with legs spread, and scoot down.

Clapper All Star Play:

The clapper is a service top position, meaning it’s about your pleasure. Many women feel too self conscious in this position to truly enjoy it. When she can’t see your facial expressions and get positive reinforcement from your expressions, it’s easy for her to get in her head and start worrying about how her ass looks.

Take this opportunity to build her confidence and make her more comfortable having her ass in your face. Compliment her ass, the way she’s moving it, and how hard it’s making you. Fortunately, this position is great at keeping you hard. Because it bends your cock back slightly, it “pulls” on your erection and keeps it at attention.

Transitioning to a 69 or sliding out from under her and into a forbidden fruit pose because you just can’t resist her ass anymore will surely keep her confidence high.

Start by enjoying her ass. Telling her how sexy it looks in this position. Slap, grab, and caress her ass. Wet your thumb tip and rub her asshole without going in. Tell her how much you want to taste it, till the point you can’t take it anymore and need her to get into forbidden fruit to devour her.

If she’s really uncomfortable, she can always keep her panties and move them to the side just enough so you can slide in. It’ll give her rear some cover while she gets used to being in such a vulnerable position and you work on building her confidence.

If either of you need a break in the clapper, she can pull up off of you and give you a reverse foot job. AKA a sole job.

Face Sitting Femdom Position – The ultimate BDSM kink to learn…

Face sitting AKA queening is when a woman sits on your face and allows or forces oral. It’s often associated with femdom and bdsm.

Your woman can kneel, squat, or sit on a throne. Yes there are actually “thrones” made and sold for the sole purpose of face sitting.

She can face your head, a side, or your feet.

Although there is one issue with the latter.

Facing towards your feet can take away from the pleasure for her because seeing your lonely cock sit there unattended can make her feel like she should bend over and please you too.

On the other hand, if going down on your girl makes you hard, seeing you progressively get harder and she sits on your face can be a major turn-on.

One way to get the benefit while avoiding the con here is to use this version of the position while you’ve got your underwear still on. A barrier that prevents her from going down while also being loose or thin enough for your erection to be obvious through them.

WARNING ABOUT FACE SITTING:

Safe words are a must with risky positions like this. In the case of face sitting, safe words don’t cut it since you might not be able to get any words out. So make sure you get clear on a safe ACT. Tapping out on her thighs is a simple a effective one that should do the trick.

There are 2 main techniques for face sitting. She can sit still while you work your magic. Not easy since your neck will have to fight gravity the entire time.

Or you stay still while she grinds away and fucks your face. Relax, pay attention to her movements, and this can be the most exciting reconnaissance mission of your life.

Use this experience to learn everything you can about your girls oral preferences. Notice the speed, pressure, and rhythm she uses to grind your tongue. Notice if or how these elements change as she gets more and more into it. Take not of every move she makes and your oral game will have no choice but to level up immediately.

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Make 2 Women Cum in the Double Cowgirl?

The Double Cowgirl is a fun threesome position that can be done by any combination of genders but for this blog, we’ll focus on the mff version.

One girl rides your cock (in cowgirl or reverse cowgirl) while the other rides your face in a queening or face sitting position.

If you set boundaries (IE: penetration only with the couple) this position makes it easy to stick to your agreement.

Both women can easily kiss, play with, and enjoy each other. They can switch positions while you stay on your back, or they can change into many different possible positions. Either one can face either direction, or they can straight up change positions. For example the Cowgirl can get up off your cock, turn around, and bend over to give and receive oral in a standing Daisy Chain position.

As I stated in blog on cowgirl… LET HER RIDE. Don’t try to “fuck from the bottom”. This is key!

Establish a safe act with your face sitter. You can’t count on a safe word here since you’ll likely have trouble talkin. Make sure you get crystal clear on a safe act such as tapping out on her thigh.

Unless you want your women to start dominating you, I recommend you use some male dominant positions and techniques after the double cowgirl. Remind them that you’re in charge and also comfortable and confident enough to let them have a taste of some dominance once in a while.

If one girl is your long term partner and the other isn’t, make sure that stronger bond is present. Ask your woman what version of position she wants and tell the other girl to follow suit.

Even though this is a very submissive position, you are leading the encounter while your woman leads next.

#1 Most Dangerous Mistake Men Make In The Cowgirl Sex Position

According to some scientific studies, the cowgirl sex position is one of 2 most likely to lead women to penetration orgasms.

But even the best lovers, using the best positions, can make mistakes.

In fact, there’s one major mistake many men make in cowgirl that completely ruins a woman’s chance at reaching a climax.

On this page, you’re going to learn exactly what this costly mistake is, why we make it, and most important, what to do instead so that you can make your woman come every time.

Or more accurately, so that you don’t prevent your woman from making herself come on you.

But before we get to that…

Here’s how the cowgirl position works.

You lie on your back while your woman gets on top and rides you to bliss.

Like most sex position, there are many different variations of the cowgirl.

Which one you use is not a matter of what you’re in the mood for, rather what will lead your woman to orgasm.

Well get to that in a minute, but first…

Let’s get to the single most important thing you need to know about cowgirl, and virtually every woman on top position.

The Biggest Mistake Men Make In The Cowgirl Sex Position Is: Fucking From Below

Here’s the deal…

The type of penetration that makes men come, typically doesn’t do the job for women.

What’s needed for men to orgasm is a simple and consistent in and out motion.

For women, that motion doesn’t do much other than tease and eventually frustrate them.

Going straight in and out doesn’t make you rub against her clit, g-spot, or a-spot.

Unless you’re huge, she won’t feel much at all.

And if you are bigger than average, she’ll only feel a fraction of the pleasure she could.

When a woman gets on top to ride, her natural instinct will be to grind you.

Why?

Cause that’s the type of motion that makes her come.

The mistake so many men make is that once she starts grinding, we grab onto her and start fucking from the bottom.

We hold her in place and start pounding straight in and out.

Imagine how frustrating this is for women.

She gets on top and has full control.

She starts grinding in the way that feels incredible to her and will eventually bring her to orgasm.

But all of a sudden, the guys she’s on top of grabs her and starts penetrating in a completely different way.

A way that feels nowhere near as good as what she felt when she was in control.

How do you think that makes her feel?

She feels like he’s taking pleasure away from her. This breeds resentment.
He doesn’t understand what she wants and needs. This breeds a lack of trust.
She’s not getting the pleasure she knows is possible. This makes her feel frustrated.
She feels like he doesn’t care about pleasing her and is only using her for his pleasure.

Now think about it…

How likely do you think she is to want sex with him again.

In fact, you don’t have to imagine.

Take a look at this reddit user who posted about her frustration with guys who don’t let their woman ride.

And here’s another with some equally insightful responses from other women…

The bottom line is, when your woman gets on top, let her get off on you.

Keep your hips and pelvis still.

Now this does NOT mean you should play the role of a dead fish.

On the contrary.

Here’s What To Do In The Cowgirl Sex Position

Many women get insecure and nervous when on top.

Unlike the majority of positions, when she’s on top, she feels an added pressure to perform.

Add to this the fact that many women have never been able to find the motion that feels best for them.

Either she doesn’t know exactly what to try, or her past lovers were making the mistake we talked about earlier and didn’t allow her to try.

What you’re left with is a woman who doesn’t know exactly what to do and on top of that, she isn’t confident in her ability to do it without interference.

Your mission in cowgirl is twofold:

Allow and encourage her to discover what feels best
Reward her with positive reinforcement when she does so

When guys first hear me say “encourage her to discover what feels best”, they often think that just telling their woman “do whatever feels right to you” will do.

The problem is that she might not know what feels best or know how to figure it out.

Below, I’m going to show you what’s most likely to feel best to her and how to encourage her with your words as well as your actions.

Woven into each move, I’m going to give you some advanced techniques to reward her for doing so.

Here’s a hint: the most effective rewards have little to do with the words you use.

So let’s get to it.

Cowgirl Position for Clitoral Orgasms

Her position: She leans on your chest (as if she’s hugging you).

Ideal motion for her orgasm: A twerking motion that slides her clit up and down against your shaft and/or pubic bone.

Encourage her to find her bliss: It’s quite simple in this position. If she’s on her knees, there isn’t much she’ll be able to do other than twerk.

Reward her: Since your heads are so close together, you’re in the perfect position to use some dirty talk. Hold her close to you and tell her how much you love the way she moves her ass on you.

Cowgirl for Clitoris and A-Spot (AKA Deep-Spot) Stimulation

Her position: She gets upright with a slight lean and places her hands on your chest (as if giving cpr).

Ideal motion for her orgasm: Keeping you all the way inside while grinding herself back and forth, rubbing her clit against your pubic bone.

Encourage her to find her bliss: Again, if she’s on her knees, she should be able to figure out her ideal motion quite easily. If she doesn’t, put your hands on her hips and tilt them back and forth. Imagine grabbing a keyboard by the sides. Hold it straight up. Now tilt it slightly and then return to starting position. This is the motion you want to make.

Reward her: Once she nails the movement and is really enjoying it, know that she’s moving for her pleasure. Make her feel confident in her moves and get her to focus on her pleasure by telling her to. Say “You look so sexy the way you ride me. Use that cock, baby. Get that pleasure. Fuck yeah baby, get it!”

Cowgirl Sex For G-Spot Orgasms

Her position: She gets on top and leans back, putting her hands on your knees, thighs, or the bed.

Ideal motion for her orgasm: Imagine her staying completely still while tilting her pelvis up and down. Each time, she basically drops her g-spot on your tip.

Try this version lying down, and also try it sitting up in a couch or against the head of the bed. It’ll put your shaft at an angle and make g-spot stimulation even more dramatic.

Encourage her to find her bliss: When she’s on top, just tell her how sexy it would look if she leans back for a bit.

Reward her: Again, tell her how sexy she looks when she rides you. Moan, groan and let her know not just with your words, but also your sounds and facial expressions.

Keep in mind this position is tough and she likely wont be able to last very long.

If you’re close enough, try putting your arms around her and giving her that extra support to make her last a bit longer.

Cowgirl For Your Pleasure

Her position: She squats on top of you and bounces up and down on your cock.

Ideal motion: If she’s doing this version, it’s all about your pleasure. She’s going to be squatting up and down on your cock so she won’t get much in terms of physical pleasure but you will.

Just know that she’s unlikely to come in this version but if she keeps going long enough, you will.

If she’s already come in another version or position, this can be a fun way for you to finish.

The Betty Rocker

The betty rocker is a reverse cowgirl sex position which provides completely different types of stimulation.

Use the same principals of letting her find the ideal motion for her pleasure and use positive reinforcement.

The real key to making this position great for her is to make her feel confident about her ass.

Slap her it and let her know how sexy it looks.

Let her know how hard she’s making you.

Since she can’t see you or your facial expressions, get a little louder with your words and sounds.