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The Kivin Method AKA Sideways Oral with Pics and Animations

You’ve probably heard that oral sex is the easiest way to get a woman off, but if you’re struggling to make it work for you woman, the kivin method might be exactly what you need.

Traditional cunnilingus positions only deliver a fraction of pleasure potential and often to the wrong place. The kivin method provides way more pleasure and does so exactly where it’s needed, resulting in much stronger and quicker orgasms.

What is the kivin method?

The kivin method is more of a position than a technique. Here’s how it works.

Like usual, your woman lies on her back, legs spread. But instead of lying on your stomach and coming straight on from in between her legs, you come in from the side. Here’s what it looks like:

Now, when you lick up and down, it’s going to stimulate her side to side instead of up and down. It might not seem like it at first, but this is a total game changer.

Here’s why:

Your tongue makes contact with much more of the clit at once. It takes a lot less time to cover the entire clit and make its way back. Take a look and both these animations. Imagine the blue line is your tongue making its way up and down. Notice how long it takes to cover the entire clit in the first version and how quickly you engage the entire clit in the second. A lot more pleasure, faster.

All this extra pleasure is only delivered where it’s welcome so you don’t overstimulate her. Until your woman is really aroused, the clitoral head is often too sensitive for direct contact. Traditional oral ignores this by licking up and down, head to shaft. This can deliver short bursts of pleasure interspersed with shorter hits of too much sensitivity. Not good. By going sideways, you can ignore the head and focus only on the shaft until her arousal is up and her clitoral head is eager for action. Then you can move over towards the head and include it in your play to provide direct stimulation to both parts instead of just one at a time.

You can add labia licks too! The labia (aka outer lips) are the female equivalent of the male testicles. Not knowing this, most guys completely ignore them. When you start licking your girl kivin style, you can send your tongue a little further with every stroke, including her labia in the fun.

Easier access for your hands. In the old school (between both legs) position, incorporating your hands can be a challenge. Your chin is in the way on the bottom, and playing on top just requires a odd and uncomfortable placement for you hands. But kivin makes hand play easy. When performing sideways oral, both sides are unobstructed and easy to access.

Many women report cumming much faster and easier when introduced to the kivin.

Take reddit user PokerBabe25 for example.

In this post about the kivin, she expresses her frustration in not making her wife cum from cunnilingus. ‘I’ve always enjoyed performing oral sex on my partners, often with “good results” but with my wife my usual techniques almost never bring her completely to orgasm. She gets very close, but I could barely ever get her there.’

Before finding kivin, she poured in tons of effort while falling short to deliver: ‘I often go 15-20 minutes and have her teetering on the edge without managing to get her to come.’

After a bit of tweaking with the kivin method: ‘She came within about 5 minutes of me finding the rhythm and best hand positon! This was definitely a big change’

With results like that, the kivin is a must try!

Is the Kivin Method guaranteed to work?

Maybe, with some women. For others, no. It’s such a radically different experience for a woman that you just need to try it. It can be the difference between giving her light, playful orgasms that ‘feel good’ vs earth shattering eruptions of bliss that literally change her life forever. So for gods sake, try it!

Press a fingertip or thumbpad against her taint. — Pressing the taint

How can you tell if your woman likes it more? Well relying solely on your girls feedback is not always the best move. She might bend the truth to spare your feelings or she might not know that more pleasure is possible. While you should absolutely encourage feedback, you want to learn the pleasure signals that do not lie. The physical cues she can’t control. In the make her come first formula, you learn all these unconscious ‘tells’ but for now, here is one of the easiest to use in the kivin method.

Place your thumbpad or finger tip on her taint (the area right between her vaginal opening and anus.) As she approaches orgasm, her taint will produce involuntary contractions. In other words, you’ll feel it pulsate. She can’t fake this. Once you’ve done this a few times, you’ll also start to notice some other tells she does naturally when nearing her peak. Maybe her eyes roll back in some unique way or her lips do something funny. Tuck that nugget of info in your memory to read her orgasm next time you don’t have a finer on her taint.

Conclusion:

The kivin method will either prove to be the best way to go down on your girl or not. Either way, you owe it to yourself to try it out. It just might have the biggest impact on your sex life of anything you ever do.

When you’re ready to master every aspect of going down, check out the make her come first formula and give your girl the best oral of her life, guaranteed!

Splitting The Bamboo Position Is The Ultimate Smooth Move

Splitting the Bamboo position might just be one of the most underrated on the entire roster. Sure, unobstructed access to both holes, the potential for DEEP penetration, and many opportunities for clitoral stimulation are all great. But best of all, using this position (the way you’re about to see) makes you the king of “smooth moves’. More on that in a minute.

Splitting The Bamboo position is the ultimate twist on missionary… literally.

To get into Splitting the bamboo, begin in the classic missionary position, straddle one of your woman’s legs, and twist her torso. Lift her upper leg straight into the air and rest it against your chest.

Caution: Avoid putting all your weight on her thigh. It might feel like the path of least resistance, but it can put her leg to sleep and kill any chance of orgasm.

Getting Started: You might find that your naughty bits don’t line up quite right. You might be a little too high (or low) to enter your woman. Try spreading your legs wider to lower yourself to the right height. You can also put a pillow under her butt to lift her up. Just keep in mind that this will change her angle. More on that below.

Optimize for Orgasms

If you’ve been using all star positions for a while, you already know the importance of targeting your woman’s orgasm zones. If you have a particular bend in your penis or your woman is taller than most (for example), you might have to adapt your position in order to make her come.

How?

Test Angles

If you lean over her in a pushup position, it’ll feel completely different from being upright. Try both and see what she responds to best. Lean back a little or twisting your core to one side vs the other. Test a slight shift in her angle. Lying perfectly on her side or mid way between her side and on her butt can make all the difference. The slightest shift in your positions can be the difference between “I was close” and “OMG!! No one has ever made me come so hard!”

Once you nail her position, amplify it.

One of the great benefits you get from splitting the bamboo is the easy access. You both have plenty of access to all her naughty bits with plenty of room to play.

While holding her airborne leg against your chest with one hand, make use of the other. Play with her clit. Grab a boob. Pull her favorite vibrator out the drawer and give her double the pleasure.

If she’s into it, switch hands and use your free one to play with her ass. Lick your thumbpad and lightly rub against her anus. Tease it while SLOWLY and gradually making your way in. Use some anal beads or a butt plug.

Encourage her to play with herself or invite her favorite toy. Heck, you can have her play with her clit, while you toy her anus, grab a boob, and penetrate her deep spot.

Splitting the Bamboo is the Ultimate ‘Smooth Move’

Not much kills the mood like awkwardly fumbling around between positions. It shows a woman that you’re not totally confident and comfortable and it passes those arousal killing emotions on to her. Not good.

Instead, you want to use smooth moves that don’t add any breaks into the mood.

One of the easiest ways to pull this off is by smoothly transitioning between positions. Far too many guys mess this up and it’s such an easy fix.

Splitting the bamboo is the ultimate ‘smooth transition’ position and demonstrates the strategy perfectly.

The way to switch positions smoothly is by making small, subtle, sub movements… one at a time. Trying to flip your woman around, bending her knees, and putting her legs behind her head creates lots of opportunity for you to fumble. Instead, make the smallest movements possible. One. At. A. Time.

For example, you might start in the classic missionary. From here, grab one of her wrists and putt it across her body, twisting her upper body on its side. Enjoy that position for a minute.

Now lift your pelvis, straddle one of her legs and pull her other leg to the same side you did her arm. Now her entire body is on its side.

From here you can easily lift her leg up in the air and enjoy splitting the bamboo.

Maybe you lean forward for a while before returning to the classic version.

Without having to move much at all, you can easily grab her airborne ankle and move it down towards the bed, turning her fully onto her stomach and into the prone bone.

Notice how all these small shifts can lead you from one position to another with very little room for awkward stumbling.

This is what it means to have smooth moves.

Master the Art of Smooth Moves

Now this was just one example of how to go from missionary to prone bone but the fact is that you could run through almost every position on this site by using this same principle.

Now even if you’ve nailed the art of the smooth move, there is 1 mistake almost all men make in bed that ruins a woman chance at orgasm.

HINT: Even the most experienced guys still make this costly blunder.

Try this 30 second dirty thought experiment to find out if you’re making this deadly mistake and what to do instead.

Pass “The Wall” with the Upside Down Deepthroat Position?

If you want to experience the pinnacle of submissiveness while taking your man deeper down your throat than you ever have before, you need to try the upside down deepthroat position. The sensations of being face fucked deep down your throat without any gagging and nowhere to go is an exceptionally liberating experience.

In this epic blowjob position, you lie on your back with your head hanging over the edge of the bed. Your man stand in front of you and enters your mouth and aligned throat. The tilt of your head aligns your mouth and throat, making it easier to take a man down your throat without hitting “the wall.”

Why He Loves It:

If your blowjobs have become stale and routine, this pose is a sure fire way to mix it up by giving your man some incredibly alluring views from an angle he isn’t used to. Take it to the next level by placing yourself in front of a mirror and letting him catch a reflection of you playing with yourself as he effortlessly slides down your throat. Depending on the angle and his size, he might also see his cock make a bulge in your throat. Intoxicatingly hot!

Side note: Unlike regular blowjobs, the sensations your man feels during deepthroat come from the tightness of your throat, not the suction of your lips. This along with the psychological thrill of having his entire manhood taken and embraced makes deepthroating an experience unlike any other.

Critical Warning: The Upside Down Deepthroat Position is advanced and requires practice, patience, and trust.

The upside down deepthroat position is advanced. While it can help you get past “the wall” and get better at deep throating, it’s not going to turn a rookie into a deepthroating queen overnight. This isn’t a position for newbies and those who still lack a certain level of confidence and skill. Hanging upside down results in a headrush sensations that can add excitement but can also feel disorientating and overwhelming. A common occurrence for first time upside down deepthroaters is spit running down the face potentially into their nose. All this leads to the fact that you MUST establish a ‘safe gesture’ before hand, and it’s highly recommended you start with a beginner version of the position.

Beginner version of the upside down deepthroat position:

If you’re not already taking your man to the depths of your throat, try a slightly modified version of the upside down deep throat and ease your way to pro level.

Lie down on your bed. Using a pillow, folded towel, or other comfy prop, tilt you head back half way. Your man can kneel over you as you get accustomed to taking him deep. Instead of your head hanging completely over the edge of the bed, it’ll hang halfway over your prop. Your man can kneel on the bed and tilt over you as if he was going into a 69 position.

Keep tilting gradually until you’re hanging over the edge of the bed and devouring him entirely.

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Superman Sex Position – Make Your Woman Fly High

If you’re getting bored of walking tightropes or performing ariel artistry at the Cirque du Soleil, try the superman sex position.

Note: This position is not to be confused with the sexual act called superman when you cum on a girls back and stick a sheet to it so that it stays stuck like a cape.

Also note the term “Superman doggy-style sex position” was coined on the reality show Love Island when a participant was asked about his favorite position. He did not expand on this but it’s assumed he meant doggy style with a superman style finish (as described above).

Getting back to the position… imagine taking the wheel barrow position to the next level by lifting you woman up off the ground and holding her in the air.

If wrapping your arms around her belly and literally holding her in the air isn’t enough of a challenge for you acrobatic specimens, you can hold onto her hips while she uses her abs to hold her upper body up.

Thinking about it now, this should really be called the superwoman position cause it’s going to require your woman have abs of steel to pull it off. Might also help if she can actually fly. Then again, I don’t make the rules.

If you’re both truly hell bent on trying this acrobatic feat, it’s highly recommended to do over a bed or pile of pillows. Assume you’re going to drop your girl or she’s going to thrust back so hard you will fall. Can you do so safely? Without dropping her on her head? Without hurting her?

Pro tip: It might sound simple but by simply leaning back slightly, you’ll change the center of gravity and make everything MUCH easier for you.

Finally, you can make the superman even safer by practicing the position over a high table kitchen island, or any surface that will make any fall much shorter for your brave super hero in training.

Remember this position is more of a challenge of sex bucket list item than anything else. You’re not going to make her come in this position and it almost certainly will not become her favorite pose.

Have your fun trying the superman and giving her a few seconds of flight. When you’re ready to make her come, check out Penetration Orgasms Made Easy.

Bridge Sex Position – Crab Yoga Pose In Bed

It looks like it belongs in an advanced yoga class, but the bridge sex position can have a profound impact on your sex life.

Look, it’s not easy.

If comfort is what you’re after, this is not the pose you’re looking for.

But, there are 3 reasons you should try it.

1. It’s a great way to add variety to a stale routine.

2. It gives the woman a mid session stretch that’ll get her primed for the second half.

3. It can help a woman discover new depths of herself that lead to pleasure and potentially, orgasms!

First, a quick look at the basics.

The woman gets on all fours, but in reverse.

Instead of facing the bed, couch, or grass (you wild adventurer), she’s on her feet and hands, with her back facing the bed or ground.

She starts by laying down, then lifts her knees, bends them, and places her feet flat on the floor.

Using the muscles in her legs, she lifts her butt off the floor.

At the same time, she puts her hands on the ground (behind her) and uses them to lift her upper body. Told ya, it’s not an easy one.

The man gets on his knees between her legs and holds her hips for support.

Different Ways To Thrust

It might look like you don’t have many options in this position but there are a few.

One way to mix it up is for the man to try different ways of thrusting.

Different thrusts can create completely different sensations.

So try these 3 variations to find out what works for you.

1. He thrusts back and forth while she holds herself in the same position.

2. He man puts his hands on the woman’s hips and pulls her onto him.

3. Instead of either partner moving back and forth, the man grinds his pelvis against the woman’s clitoris.

All 3 of these variations will feel completely different for the woman so make sure to give each one a fair trial.

A Bridge Sometimes Needs Help

Even the most acrobatic woman won’t be able to hold this position for long. But if she enjoys it, using a prop for support can help her last longer.

Place something under her back for support. You can use a literal (not really) ton of pillows, a sex wedge, an exercise ball, or a workout bench.

Now she can relax and enjoy without having to exert so much energy to hold the position.

A Bridge Isn’t Built In A Day

If she can’t pull off the full bridge sex position yet, work your way up to it.

These variations don’t require as much work, yet still deliver most of the benefits.

You might also find one of these modified versions actually delivers more pleasure than the traditional pose.

Instead of her upper body being held up by only her hands, she can lean on her elbows and forearms.

If she does this while resting her shoulder blades on the bed, she also frees up her hands to play with herself.

If the man grabs her butt, he can hold all the weight and the woman can enjoy with little if any effort on her part at all.

It’s like an amplified version of missionary. She’ll feel tighter (from the flexing of her core) and also be able to play with herself.

Taking The Bridge Sex Position To The Next Level

One of the main reasons women never orgasm from penetration is that the man thrusts straight in and out. This basic thrusting doesn’t stimulate the clit, g-spot or any other orgasm educing areas.

If you want to make your woman come during penetration, you’ve got to hit the right spots.

One of these spots is the upper wall of the vagina.

This is where the g-spot and deep spot are.

The bridge sex position is great for introducing your woman to this type of thrust.

By leaning his upper body back and aiming his thrusts upward, the guy can make sure he hits all the right spots that make her toes curl.

Viennese Oyster Yoga Pretzel Sex Position

The Viennese Oyster (sometimes called the Oystered Missionary) is an advanced position where the woman turns herself into an erotic, human pretzel while the man enters her from above.

The woman lies on her back and brings her legs all the way up and places her feet behind her head.

The man can lean over her or kneel in front.

The main benefit to this position is that it allows the guy to go very deep, even if he’s not well endowed.

The disadvantage is that most women won’t be able to pull it off. Even if she’s a hardcore yoga junkie, she still may not be able to get into full pretzel position. If she can, it won’t be the most comfortable position for her and it’s highly unlikely she’ll be able to relax enough to reach an orgasm.

While this position does allow the guy to dive into her deepest depths, it’s really more of an experience to check off your sex position bucket list.

What the Man Does

The man has 2 basic options when it comes to his positioning.

He can kneel in front of her and penetrate back and forth, or he can lean over her and penetrate up and down.

The kneeling version is more likely to stimulate the woman’s g-spot (especially if he has that magic, upward curve), while the leaning version allows the guy to go deep.

In the kneeling version, the man can (GENTLY) press down on his woman’s legs to help her stretch into the position. But make sure you know where her limit is and respect it.

In the leaning version, the guy has to hold himself up with his hands on the bed.

DO NOT let any of your body weight press down on her pretzeled legs. That’s a recipe for disaster. She MUST be able to let go of her position in a split second if it gets too uncomfortable. She can’t do that if your body weight is pressing down on her.

How The Woman Can Pull Off The Full Viennese Oyster

Rule number one… always make sure you’re warmed up first!

Just like any type of stretching, you want to make sure your body is warmed up before you start. Never stretch cold muscles!

So don’t start off your romp session with the Viennese Oyster.

Have sex in other positions and buildup a sweat before you start contorting your body.

The real trick to this position is to be realistic, start where you are and build up to the full version. There are lots of variations of the Viennese Oyster that don’t require her to be as bendy. Start in one of these simpler versions and build up her flexibility so that she can eventually get there.

If you’re determined to try this position and not yet doing yoga, you’d better start.

You can find lots of videos on youtube to get you started.

A great starter pose to train for the Viennese Oyster is the Happy Baby.

Get yourself as close to the happy baby pose and have sex in that position.

Your guy can help you by pressing down on your thighs.

Gradually, lift your legs higher and higher to stretch and increase your ability.

With time and practice, you’ll be able to reach your legs further and further back until your knees can touch the bed.

Great job!

Now just keep on gradually and regularly stretching you legs closer to the ideal position.

Twist your thighs so that your feet make their way closer to your head.

Once there, work on placing behind you.

Just like yoga, you want to make extra sure to breathe fully and deeply. The more intense versions of this position will constrict your breathing to some degree so make sure you don’t hold your breath.

You can also let out some sexy ohhh’s and arrrrghs. Let out whatever sounds your body wants to release. Not only do they help you with the necessary flow of oxygen, it’ll also turn your guy on to see you completely immersed in the experience.

Final Thoughts

While the Viennese Oyster does allow for very deep penetration, it’s unlikely the woman will be able to orgasm in this position.

So just have fun with it.

Don’t push past the woman’s limits and be patient.

Enjoy!

Amazon Sex Position – Pinnacle of Role Reversal

Men: If you’ve ever wanted to get banged without having a dildo shoved up your butt… you need to try the amazon sex position!

Women: If you’ve ever fantasized about how powerful you’d feel pounding your man, the amazon is for you!

The amazon position is one of the most challenging you’ll ever try. Both physically and emotionally.

In this advanced, woman-on-top position, the man lies on his back with his legs spread, while the woman towers over him and does the bump and grind.

She thrusts.

She dominates.

She runs the show.

This spiced-up cowgirl is role-reversal at its finest.

The man must be comfortable enough to get into such a submissive position and “get fucked”, while some women can find it difficult to take charge and dominate.

In terms of physical challenges, the man must be flexible and the woman needs endurance.

The 2 keys to this position are to get in the right mindset, and find the ideal variation of the position.

Step 1. Ease into role reversal gradually

If the man is used to being dominant, it can be a challenge to let go and be the submissive.

The easiest way to do this is for the woman to start taking the lead in less dominant ways.

Tell your man to lie down.

Tie him up.

Give him a lap dance.

Show him (through your actions) that you’re in charge and it’s okay for him to submit to his goddess.

Get on top of him and rub yourself against his manhood.

Ask him “Who’s cock is this?”

If he tries to enter himself into you, grab you, or take control in any way, slap his hand away and let him know you’re in charge!

Before you start to penetrate him, take a moment to get present and really feel the shift in power dynamic.

You might start with a dominant blowjob while you pin his arms down.

Don’t blow him like you usually would.

Instead, fuck him with your mouth.

Show him how much pleasure he can experience when you take control.

Step 2. Find your ideal version of the position

There are lots of variations to the Amazon sex position.

Some are more challenging than others…

Some will hit the right spot just perfectly…

And some will have you falling over.

Keep testing and tweaking until you find the one that works for the two of you.

Here’s something you must keep in mind when testing out new variations.

This position can put a tremendous amount of strain on your guys Penile Suspensory Ligamant (PSL).

Too much strain and it could tear, putting him out of commission for months.

So please, BE CAREFUL and always be conscious of his angle.

In this first variation of the man’s position, you can see that his cock is straight up.

This is as far back as he can comfortably go.

Now take a look at what happens (in the second image) when his pelvis is tilted with the help of a prop such as a pillow or his hands.

If the prop is placed under his butt, his pelvis tilts towards his face.

His erection can’t go as far back but this could be much more stimulating for you if you’re going to be leaning over him.

If the prop is placed under his lower back (see the third image), it makes the pelvis tilt away from his head and his erection can go back further.

This version might be ideal if the woman is going to face away from him.

Again, the key is to find your ideal version and always be conscious (and careful) of how far back his erection can comfortably go.

The second variation for the man’s position comes down to his leg placement.

Are his legs spread wide and low (around the woman’s waist?).. are they closer together by her upper body… or are they straight out as close to his head as possible?

Again, each variation makes a huge difference in the sensations you both feel as well as the comfortable tilt in his penis.

Now, let’s take a look at variations in the woman’s position.

She can kneel, be on her feet, or have one knee and one foot grounded.

She can face her man, face sideways, or face away from him.

She can be straight up, leaning away from him or leaning over him.

There are an endless number of ways to enjoy the amazon sex position.

Again, the key is to find the variation that works for you and your partner.

Step 3. Know your role and play it!

Now that you’ve gotten into the right mindset and found your ideal position, play your role.

Guys, being submissive is not about being “less than” or being dictated to… it’s about letting go of control and putting all your focus on the sensations that you’re woman is making you feel.

Allow yourself to fully FEEL whatever emotions and sensation come up for you.

If you start to judge or label what you’re feeling IE: “This is emasculating” or “This isn’t right, I’m the man. I need to take charge”… let that go.

Stop thinking.

Get back to feeling.

Enjoy the sensations.

Enjoy the fact that your woman is taking control of your (and her) pleasure.

Ladies, you’re in control here so play it up a bit.

Lead.

Show your man how much you want him and how he makes you lose control.

Pin his hands down.

If he tries to touch you or move you in a way other than what you truly want, slap his hand away and tell him that you’re the boss.

Let him know that you’re in charge, not just with your actions, but also your words.

Talk dirty to him.

Tell him you’re in charge.

Tell him how good it feels when you ride him.

This is what the amazon sex position is all about.

Remember, his erection can only bend so far back comfortably and when you’re in the heat of the moment, it can be easy to lose sight of this.

So make sure you establish a safe word before using this position and if he ever uses it, respect it immediately, ease up on the pressure and stop right away until you know what the problem is.

When you’re done in this position, give your man some aftercare and make sure he knows this was just a role you were playing.

Maybe return to a male-dominant position and let him return to taking the lead.

Finally, have fun!

Don’t set high expectations.

Like any position, the amazon sex position isn’t for everyone.

You might tumble.

You might not find the perfect version.

Don’t worry about it.

Laugh it off and get into another, easier female-dominant position like cowgirl.