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The Kivin Method AKA Sideways Oral with Pics and Animations

You’ve probably heard that oral sex is the easiest way to get a woman off, but if you’re struggling to make it work for you woman, the kivin method might be exactly what you need.

Traditional cunnilingus positions only deliver a fraction of pleasure potential and often to the wrong place. The kivin method provides way more pleasure and does so exactly where it’s needed, resulting in much stronger and quicker orgasms.

What is the kivin method?

The kivin method is more of a position than a technique. Here’s how it works.

Like usual, your woman lies on her back, legs spread. But instead of lying on your stomach and coming straight on from in between her legs, you come in from the side. Here’s what it looks like:

Now, when you lick up and down, it’s going to stimulate her side to side instead of up and down. It might not seem like it at first, but this is a total game changer.

Here’s why:

Your tongue makes contact with much more of the clit at once. It takes a lot less time to cover the entire clit and make its way back. Take a look and both these animations. Imagine the blue line is your tongue making its way up and down. Notice how long it takes to cover the entire clit in the first version and how quickly you engage the entire clit in the second. A lot more pleasure, faster.

All this extra pleasure is only delivered where it’s welcome so you don’t overstimulate her. Until your woman is really aroused, the clitoral head is often too sensitive for direct contact. Traditional oral ignores this by licking up and down, head to shaft. This can deliver short bursts of pleasure interspersed with shorter hits of too much sensitivity. Not good. By going sideways, you can ignore the head and focus only on the shaft until her arousal is up and her clitoral head is eager for action. Then you can move over towards the head and include it in your play to provide direct stimulation to both parts instead of just one at a time.

You can add labia licks too! The labia (aka outer lips) are the female equivalent of the male testicles. Not knowing this, most guys completely ignore them. When you start licking your girl kivin style, you can send your tongue a little further with every stroke, including her labia in the fun.

Easier access for your hands. In the old school (between both legs) position, incorporating your hands can be a challenge. Your chin is in the way on the bottom, and playing on top just requires a odd and uncomfortable placement for you hands. But kivin makes hand play easy. When performing sideways oral, both sides are unobstructed and easy to access.

Many women report cumming much faster and easier when introduced to the kivin.

Take reddit user PokerBabe25 for example.

In this post about the kivin, she expresses her frustration in not making her wife cum from cunnilingus. ‘I’ve always enjoyed performing oral sex on my partners, often with “good results” but with my wife my usual techniques almost never bring her completely to orgasm. She gets very close, but I could barely ever get her there.’

Before finding kivin, she poured in tons of effort while falling short to deliver: ‘I often go 15-20 minutes and have her teetering on the edge without managing to get her to come.’

After a bit of tweaking with the kivin method: ‘She came within about 5 minutes of me finding the rhythm and best hand positon! This was definitely a big change’

With results like that, the kivin is a must try!

Is the Kivin Method guaranteed to work?

Maybe, with some women. For others, no. It’s such a radically different experience for a woman that you just need to try it. It can be the difference between giving her light, playful orgasms that ‘feel good’ vs earth shattering eruptions of bliss that literally change her life forever. So for gods sake, try it!

Press a fingertip or thumbpad against her taint. — Pressing the taint

How can you tell if your woman likes it more? Well relying solely on your girls feedback is not always the best move. She might bend the truth to spare your feelings or she might not know that more pleasure is possible. While you should absolutely encourage feedback, you want to learn the pleasure signals that do not lie. The physical cues she can’t control. In the make her come first formula, you learn all these unconscious ‘tells’ but for now, here is one of the easiest to use in the kivin method.

Place your thumbpad or finger tip on her taint (the area right between her vaginal opening and anus.) As she approaches orgasm, her taint will produce involuntary contractions. In other words, you’ll feel it pulsate. She can’t fake this. Once you’ve done this a few times, you’ll also start to notice some other tells she does naturally when nearing her peak. Maybe her eyes roll back in some unique way or her lips do something funny. Tuck that nugget of info in your memory to read her orgasm next time you don’t have a finer on her taint.

Conclusion:

The kivin method will either prove to be the best way to go down on your girl or not. Either way, you owe it to yourself to try it out. It just might have the biggest impact on your sex life of anything you ever do.

When you’re ready to master every aspect of going down, check out the make her come first formula and give your girl the best oral of her life, guaranteed!

Splitting The Bamboo Position Is The Ultimate Smooth Move

Splitting the Bamboo position might just be one of the most underrated on the entire roster. Sure, unobstructed access to both holes, the potential for DEEP penetration, and many opportunities for clitoral stimulation are all great. But best of all, using this position (the way you’re about to see) makes you the king of “smooth moves’. More on that in a minute.

Splitting The Bamboo position is the ultimate twist on missionary… literally.

To get into Splitting the bamboo, begin in the classic missionary position, straddle one of your woman’s legs, and twist her torso. Lift her upper leg straight into the air and rest it against your chest.

Caution: Avoid putting all your weight on her thigh. It might feel like the path of least resistance, but it can put her leg to sleep and kill any chance of orgasm.

Getting Started: You might find that your naughty bits don’t line up quite right. You might be a little too high (or low) to enter your woman. Try spreading your legs wider to lower yourself to the right height. You can also put a pillow under her butt to lift her up. Just keep in mind that this will change her angle. More on that below.

Optimize for Orgasms

If you’ve been using all star positions for a while, you already know the importance of targeting your woman’s orgasm zones. If you have a particular bend in your penis or your woman is taller than most (for example), you might have to adapt your position in order to make her come.

How?

Test Angles

If you lean over her in a pushup position, it’ll feel completely different from being upright. Try both and see what she responds to best. Lean back a little or twisting your core to one side vs the other. Test a slight shift in her angle. Lying perfectly on her side or mid way between her side and on her butt can make all the difference. The slightest shift in your positions can be the difference between “I was close” and “OMG!! No one has ever made me come so hard!”

Once you nail her position, amplify it.

One of the great benefits you get from splitting the bamboo is the easy access. You both have plenty of access to all her naughty bits with plenty of room to play.

While holding her airborne leg against your chest with one hand, make use of the other. Play with her clit. Grab a boob. Pull her favorite vibrator out the drawer and give her double the pleasure.

If she’s into it, switch hands and use your free one to play with her ass. Lick your thumbpad and lightly rub against her anus. Tease it while SLOWLY and gradually making your way in. Use some anal beads or a butt plug.

Encourage her to play with herself or invite her favorite toy. Heck, you can have her play with her clit, while you toy her anus, grab a boob, and penetrate her deep spot.

Splitting the Bamboo is the Ultimate ‘Smooth Move’

Not much kills the mood like awkwardly fumbling around between positions. It shows a woman that you’re not totally confident and comfortable and it passes those arousal killing emotions on to her. Not good.

Instead, you want to use smooth moves that don’t add any breaks into the mood.

One of the easiest ways to pull this off is by smoothly transitioning between positions. Far too many guys mess this up and it’s such an easy fix.

Splitting the bamboo is the ultimate ‘smooth transition’ position and demonstrates the strategy perfectly.

The way to switch positions smoothly is by making small, subtle, sub movements… one at a time. Trying to flip your woman around, bending her knees, and putting her legs behind her head creates lots of opportunity for you to fumble. Instead, make the smallest movements possible. One. At. A. Time.

For example, you might start in the classic missionary. From here, grab one of her wrists and putt it across her body, twisting her upper body on its side. Enjoy that position for a minute.

Now lift your pelvis, straddle one of her legs and pull her other leg to the same side you did her arm. Now her entire body is on its side.

From here you can easily lift her leg up in the air and enjoy splitting the bamboo.

Maybe you lean forward for a while before returning to the classic version.

Without having to move much at all, you can easily grab her airborne ankle and move it down towards the bed, turning her fully onto her stomach and into the prone bone.

Notice how all these small shifts can lead you from one position to another with very little room for awkward stumbling.

This is what it means to have smooth moves.

Master the Art of Smooth Moves

Now this was just one example of how to go from missionary to prone bone but the fact is that you could run through almost every position on this site by using this same principle.

Now even if you’ve nailed the art of the smooth move, there is 1 mistake almost all men make in bed that ruins a woman chance at orgasm.

HINT: Even the most experienced guys still make this costly blunder.

Try this 30 second dirty thought experiment to find out if you’re making this deadly mistake and what to do instead.

Lap Dance Sex Position – How To Let Her Seduce Herself

If you want to learn how your woman comes, watch what she does when she gets on top. The exception to this is when she’s in a service-top moves such as the lap dance sex position.

Wait…

What’s A Service Top Position?

Traditional girl-on-top positions (like cowgirl) are highly educational because you can relax and observe how your woman moves in order to orgasm. You can feel and watch the precise motion, rhythm, and speed she uses in order to get herself off.

Service-top positions are different because your woman doesn’t move in ways that will make her come. She moves in ways that *she thinks* will make you come. Or in ways she thinks will tease, please, and turn you on. She’s on top and in full control but she doesn’t use that power to pleasure herself, she uses it to pleasure and service you.

As you’ll learn in Penetration Orgasms Made Easy, the type of fucking that makes men come is very different from the type that makes women come.

So, if the lap dance sex position isn’t useful at teaching you what makes your woman come, what is it good for? The answer is turning her on and priming her for stronger orgasm in other positions.

Here’s why.

Nothing Turns Her On More Than Turning You On.

The only reason a woman gives you a lap dance (other than cold hard cash) is to turn you on. It’s to get you thinking with your little head instead of your big one. Why does she want to have this power? Because it makes her feel sexy, beautiful, and wanted.

So give her those feelings.

Make her feel beautiful, sexy, and wanted, by giving her the rise she’s trying to get out of you. When she sees (and feels) that her seductive moves are working, it makes her confident, wet, and liberates her to do all the nasty things you want without feeling any shame or guilt.

When she gets on top and gives you a lap dance:

Stroke and caress every inch of her body.
Compliment the way she moves.
Let out NON-EXAGERAATED moans and groans of pleasure and arousal.

A Quick Warning On The Danger of Trying To Get A Rise Out Of You

Have you ever been with a woman and taken her moans, groans, and movements as a sign to go harder, faster, or deeper… only to have your change in pace absolutely butcher her mood?

The same thing can happen here.

If you’re doing a great job of letting her know she’s turning you on, she might feel the urge to crank things up a notch.

As I said a minute above, the type of fucking that makes men come is usually very different from the type that makes women come. When You Watch Penetration Orgasms Made Easy, I’ll Show You That Difference. If a woman gets on top of you in the lap dance sex position and starts going in the way most likely to make you come (fast, full length, and hard), it could be very dangerous. One tiny slip and you could be in prime position for a major accident.

So make sure to keep the lap dance sex position going at a safe pace where the risk of an accident is reduced as much as possible.

If she does get too excited, grab a hold of her by the waist, hold her back, and tell her to slow down.

Pro Tip: Telling her that she’s making you too excited can fuel her confidence but telling her that SHE is getting too excited gives you a great segue to switch into a more dominant position where you can safely take back control of the thrusting.

So let’s get to it…

Variations of The Lap Dance Sex Position

As with all positions, there are many different versions. Here are a few of the most common your woman might try and what you can do to level up on them.

Champagne Room Position

This is the closed leg version of the lap dance where she’ll feel the tightest. It’s extremely difficult (if not impossible) to get into so she might have to spread her legs at first, get in position, and then close her legs once you’re inside.

In my experience, most women opt for a subtle grind instead of bouncing up and down. Match this pace by ‘hugging’ her from behind, putting your arm around her neck, or placing a hand on her pubic bone and applying a bit of pressure.

This is the ultimate “trying to turn you on” version so remember to encourage her and help her feel successful. Breath and moan, whisper in her ear how much she’s turning you on, and let her know how sexy her body feels as you caress every inch of it.

Reverse Lap Dance

This version is so good at making women come, that it made it onto my top 3 g-spot positions article.

As the name suggests, it’s similar to the regular lap dance only your woman is facing you instead of facing away. She puts her feet on the couch on each side of your butt and rocks her pelvis up and down.

If she leans back while doing this move, she’ll “drop” her g-spot directly onto your shaft, making her come fast and hard. The key here is that she will need some support to hold that position. She can put her hands on your thighs, you can wrap your arms around her waist and back, or she can hold up on a table or other furniture.

Spread Lap Dance Sex Position

Unlike the previous version where she keeps her legs closed tight, this version has her legs spread wide and open to all kinds of extra stimulation. This version actually can be all about her pleasure and making her come if you aren’t intimated by a little extra help.

Yup, I’m talking about using a toy or your hand to give her clitoral stimulation while she sits relatively still on your cock. You can actually make her come quite easily while you’re inside of her if you let your shaft sit still and let a toy do the work.

Swiss Ball Blitz Sex Position

Alright, this one is really more of a sex bucket list position for the very fit and sexually curious.

It’s lap dance on an exercise ball.

What more is there to say here other than BE EXTREMELY CAREFUL with this one. The risks we talked about above are even more present here so you might want to tell your woman not to pull off more then half way. The less length you’re working with, the more I would recommend you stay away from this version.

The Position Most Likely To Make Her Come

This entire blog is about studying different positions and finding the best ones for every scenario.

Depending on your size, your shape, how you and your woman “fit” with each other, some positions will naturally make her come more easily than others.

But there is one sex strategy that’s even more orgasmic than the positions you use.

Women from around the world agree it’s more important than the positions you use, your size, or even your stamina.

Use this 1 fucking technique and give any woman the most powerful orgasms of her life… guaranteed!

Face Sitting Femdom Position – The ultimate BDSM kink to learn…

Face sitting AKA queening is when a woman sits on your face and allows or forces oral. It’s often associated with femdom and bdsm.

Your woman can kneel, squat, or sit on a throne. Yes there are actually “thrones” made and sold for the sole purpose of face sitting.

She can face your head, a side, or your feet.

Although there is one issue with the latter.

Facing towards your feet can take away from the pleasure for her because seeing your lonely cock sit there unattended can make her feel like she should bend over and please you too.

On the other hand, if going down on your girl makes you hard, seeing you progressively get harder and she sits on your face can be a major turn-on.

One way to get the benefit while avoiding the con here is to use this version of the position while you’ve got your underwear still on. A barrier that prevents her from going down while also being loose or thin enough for your erection to be obvious through them.

WARNING ABOUT FACE SITTING:

Safe words are a must with risky positions like this. In the case of face sitting, safe words don’t cut it since you might not be able to get any words out. So make sure you get clear on a safe ACT. Tapping out on her thighs is a simple a effective one that should do the trick.

There are 2 main techniques for face sitting. She can sit still while you work your magic. Not easy since your neck will have to fight gravity the entire time.

Or you stay still while she grinds away and fucks your face. Relax, pay attention to her movements, and this can be the most exciting reconnaissance mission of your life.

Use this experience to learn everything you can about your girls oral preferences. Notice the speed, pressure, and rhythm she uses to grind your tongue. Notice if or how these elements change as she gets more and more into it. Take not of every move she makes and your oral game will have no choice but to level up immediately.

If you want to discover the exact move that’ll make her pussy come hardest, watch my Make Her Come First video now.

Make Her Come Fast With The Coital Alignment Technique CAT Position

If you want to make sure your girl comes first, you need to start using the coital alignment technique.

It’s a twist on the classic missionary that was first discovered by reichian psychotherapist Edward Eichel, and it’s been scientifically proven to make guys last longer while making women come faster.

Despite its exceptional abilities, you won’t see this highly effective position used in porn cause it’s nothing special to look at. The rare times it’s talked about online or in books, it’s usually difficult to understand and leaves you with more question than answers.

We’re going to fix that today.

Now, is the C.A.T. going to give your woman the strongest orgasms she’s ever had?

No. That’s not what this position is for.

The Coital Alignment Technique is used to:

Get her first orgasm out of the way fast
Prime her body for multiple orgasms
Make you Last Longer

These are the main reasons why…

The Coital Alignment Technique

Is One Of The Most Valuable Sex Positions

In The All-Star Lovers Arsenal

Anytime I’m with a new girl for the first time, I almost always start our session with the C.A.T.

Why?

Cause I want to get that first orgasm out of the way ASAP.

I don’t care if it’s not a strong orgasm… I only care that it happens.

See the longer it takes a girl to come, the less likely it is to happen.

She wants to please you just as much as you want to please her and she knows that her orgasm pleases you.

The longer it takes her to have that first orgasm, the more time she has to start wondering why it’s not happening… and once she reaches this point, it’s much less likely to happen.

That’s why the C.A.T. is so awesome.

Makes it easy for you to give her that first orgasm fast because it creates the perfect type of clitoral stimulation a woman needs to orgasm.

It also makes you last longer because it does NOT provide the type of stimulation that makes guys orgasm.

It doesn’t matter what size you are either because her orgasm doesn’t come from internal stimulation, rather outer stimulation.

Finally, by getting that first orgasm out of the way, your woman’s brain gets flooded with oxytocin (the pleasure chemical) and she goes into “orgasm mode” where multiple orgasms happen MUCH more easily.

How To Use The Coital Alignment Technique To Give Your Woman Her First Orgasm Fast

The majority of women don’t orgasm during penetration.

But the odds a woman will come skyrocket when clitoral stimulation is added.

This is why many women prefer to grind your pubic bone when they get on top instead of hopping up and down.

In non girl-on-top positions, your woman can get the required clitoral stimulation by rubbing herself with her fingers or a toy. If you’ve ever had sex with a girl while she’s vibing her clit, you know just how fast and easy she can come.

The C.A.T. creates a similar sensation except you get all of the credit.

The CAT position makes you the hero by giving her the clitoral stimulation she needs to come while you’re inside of her. No toys or self stimulation needed.

Here’s how it works.

Get into the missionary position.

Go all the way inside of her and stay there.

Do NOT thrust in and out.

Instead, stay all the way in, forget about your penis, and focus on rubbing your pubic bone against her clit.

Your pubic bone is the area above your penis that has (hopefully well trimmed) pubic hair.

The excitement of having you inside her while you’re “rubbing” her clit gives her both the emotional and physical stimulation she needs to come.

Depending on your size and shape, this movement can also make you hit some (often neglected) feel-good spots deep inside of her.

Instead of creating a sensation of on and off “pulsing” pleasure… you’re providing continuous pleasure that doesn’t takes breaks or stop until she gets off!

Making the switch from thrusting to grinding is often the key factor in turning a non-orgasmic woman into a cum machine.

If you want to reach god mode, here’s how to take it to the next level.

Split Test These 4 Motions In The C.A.T. Position

Watch 100 women play with themselves and you’ll notice 1 thing very quick.

All women masturbate differently.

Some rub their clit side to side.

Some prefer up and down.

And some like circles.

Watching your girl play with herself before you get into the cat can let you know exactly what type of motion you should use.

But if you don’t have that precious info yet, try each of these motions out to see and see what works best for you girl.

Up and down. Little blurb here
Side to side. This one is harder and usually only possible if you’re between her legs.
This one will give you a great core workout.

Another way to find her ideal motion is to let her get on top and watch how she grinds you. Check out my post on the cowgirl position to see exactly how it works.

Position Variations

You can have your legs on the outside of hers or the inside. Some swear by one version while stating the other doesn’t work for them so (as always), try both out and see what works best for your woman.

Keep in mind both are slightly different.

When her legs are open, it’s quite easy to rub your pubic bone against her clit. You might need to shift your bodies angle a bit, or move higher or lower compared to her body… but it’s not hard to figure out.

In the closed leg version, it’s not so easy. Instead of focusing on rubbing your pubic bone against her… you’ll likely have to the base of your shaft.

As always, play with this.

Take your time.

And find what works best for you and your woman.

How To Get Into Closed Leg C.A.T.

Getting into the closed leg version can be next to impossible, unless you know this one simple trick.

Lift one of your legs while she slides hers under you.

Then repeat.

What To Do After The C.A.T. To Really Blow Her Mind

At the start of this article I said the orgasms your girl will have in this position aren’t the strongest.

What this position does is give her first orgasm and prime her body for much more intense orgasms after.

Like the C.A.T. there are other positions and thrusting patterns that give women MUCH more powerful orgasms.

We cover these positions and exactly how they work inside Penetration Orgasms Made Easy. Plus you’ll learn a whole lot more tips, tricks, and techniques to blow your girls mind after the CAT.

Check out Penetration Orgasms Made Easy now to give your girl the best penetration of her life… regardless of your size!