clitoral stimulation

The Kivin Method AKA Sideways Oral with Pics and Animations

You’ve probably heard that oral sex is the easiest way to get a woman off, but if you’re struggling to make it work for you woman, the kivin method might be exactly what you need.

Traditional cunnilingus positions only deliver a fraction of pleasure potential and often to the wrong place. The kivin method provides way more pleasure and does so exactly where it’s needed, resulting in much stronger and quicker orgasms.

What is the kivin method?

The kivin method is more of a position than a technique. Here’s how it works.

Like usual, your woman lies on her back, legs spread. But instead of lying on your stomach and coming straight on from in between her legs, you come in from the side. Here’s what it looks like:

Now, when you lick up and down, it’s going to stimulate her side to side instead of up and down. It might not seem like it at first, but this is a total game changer.

Here’s why:

Your tongue makes contact with much more of the clit at once. It takes a lot less time to cover the entire clit and make its way back. Take a look and both these animations. Imagine the blue line is your tongue making its way up and down. Notice how long it takes to cover the entire clit in the first version and how quickly you engage the entire clit in the second. A lot more pleasure, faster.

All this extra pleasure is only delivered where it’s welcome so you don’t overstimulate her. Until your woman is really aroused, the clitoral head is often too sensitive for direct contact. Traditional oral ignores this by licking up and down, head to shaft. This can deliver short bursts of pleasure interspersed with shorter hits of too much sensitivity. Not good. By going sideways, you can ignore the head and focus only on the shaft until her arousal is up and her clitoral head is eager for action. Then you can move over towards the head and include it in your play to provide direct stimulation to both parts instead of just one at a time.

You can add labia licks too! The labia (aka outer lips) are the female equivalent of the male testicles. Not knowing this, most guys completely ignore them. When you start licking your girl kivin style, you can send your tongue a little further with every stroke, including her labia in the fun.

Easier access for your hands. In the old school (between both legs) position, incorporating your hands can be a challenge. Your chin is in the way on the bottom, and playing on top just requires a odd and uncomfortable placement for you hands. But kivin makes hand play easy. When performing sideways oral, both sides are unobstructed and easy to access.

Many women report cumming much faster and easier when introduced to the kivin.

Take reddit user PokerBabe25 for example.

In this post about the kivin, she expresses her frustration in not making her wife cum from cunnilingus. ‘I’ve always enjoyed performing oral sex on my partners, often with “good results” but with my wife my usual techniques almost never bring her completely to orgasm. She gets very close, but I could barely ever get her there.’

Before finding kivin, she poured in tons of effort while falling short to deliver: ‘I often go 15-20 minutes and have her teetering on the edge without managing to get her to come.’

After a bit of tweaking with the kivin method: ‘She came within about 5 minutes of me finding the rhythm and best hand positon! This was definitely a big change’

With results like that, the kivin is a must try!

Is the Kivin Method guaranteed to work?

Maybe, with some women. For others, no. It’s such a radically different experience for a woman that you just need to try it. It can be the difference between giving her light, playful orgasms that ‘feel good’ vs earth shattering eruptions of bliss that literally change her life forever. So for gods sake, try it!

Press a fingertip or thumbpad against her taint. — Pressing the taint

How can you tell if your woman likes it more? Well relying solely on your girls feedback is not always the best move. She might bend the truth to spare your feelings or she might not know that more pleasure is possible. While you should absolutely encourage feedback, you want to learn the pleasure signals that do not lie. The physical cues she can’t control. In the make her come first formula, you learn all these unconscious ‘tells’ but for now, here is one of the easiest to use in the kivin method.

Place your thumbpad or finger tip on her taint (the area right between her vaginal opening and anus.) As she approaches orgasm, her taint will produce involuntary contractions. In other words, you’ll feel it pulsate. She can’t fake this. Once you’ve done this a few times, you’ll also start to notice some other tells she does naturally when nearing her peak. Maybe her eyes roll back in some unique way or her lips do something funny. Tuck that nugget of info in your memory to read her orgasm next time you don’t have a finer on her taint.

Conclusion:

The kivin method will either prove to be the best way to go down on your girl or not. Either way, you owe it to yourself to try it out. It just might have the biggest impact on your sex life of anything you ever do.

When you’re ready to master every aspect of going down, check out the make her come first formula and give your girl the best oral of her life, guaranteed!

Splitting The Bamboo Position Is The Ultimate Smooth Move

Splitting the Bamboo position might just be one of the most underrated on the entire roster. Sure, unobstructed access to both holes, the potential for DEEP penetration, and many opportunities for clitoral stimulation are all great. But best of all, using this position (the way you’re about to see) makes you the king of “smooth moves’. More on that in a minute.

Splitting The Bamboo position is the ultimate twist on missionary… literally.

To get into Splitting the bamboo, begin in the classic missionary position, straddle one of your woman’s legs, and twist her torso. Lift her upper leg straight into the air and rest it against your chest.

Caution: Avoid putting all your weight on her thigh. It might feel like the path of least resistance, but it can put her leg to sleep and kill any chance of orgasm.

Getting Started: You might find that your naughty bits don’t line up quite right. You might be a little too high (or low) to enter your woman. Try spreading your legs wider to lower yourself to the right height. You can also put a pillow under her butt to lift her up. Just keep in mind that this will change her angle. More on that below.

Optimize for Orgasms

If you’ve been using all star positions for a while, you already know the importance of targeting your woman’s orgasm zones. If you have a particular bend in your penis or your woman is taller than most (for example), you might have to adapt your position in order to make her come.

How?

Test Angles

If you lean over her in a pushup position, it’ll feel completely different from being upright. Try both and see what she responds to best. Lean back a little or twisting your core to one side vs the other. Test a slight shift in her angle. Lying perfectly on her side or mid way between her side and on her butt can make all the difference. The slightest shift in your positions can be the difference between “I was close” and “OMG!! No one has ever made me come so hard!”

Once you nail her position, amplify it.

One of the great benefits you get from splitting the bamboo is the easy access. You both have plenty of access to all her naughty bits with plenty of room to play.

While holding her airborne leg against your chest with one hand, make use of the other. Play with her clit. Grab a boob. Pull her favorite vibrator out the drawer and give her double the pleasure.

If she’s into it, switch hands and use your free one to play with her ass. Lick your thumbpad and lightly rub against her anus. Tease it while SLOWLY and gradually making your way in. Use some anal beads or a butt plug.

Encourage her to play with herself or invite her favorite toy. Heck, you can have her play with her clit, while you toy her anus, grab a boob, and penetrate her deep spot.

Splitting the Bamboo is the Ultimate ‘Smooth Move’

Not much kills the mood like awkwardly fumbling around between positions. It shows a woman that you’re not totally confident and comfortable and it passes those arousal killing emotions on to her. Not good.

Instead, you want to use smooth moves that don’t add any breaks into the mood.

One of the easiest ways to pull this off is by smoothly transitioning between positions. Far too many guys mess this up and it’s such an easy fix.

Splitting the bamboo is the ultimate ‘smooth transition’ position and demonstrates the strategy perfectly.

The way to switch positions smoothly is by making small, subtle, sub movements… one at a time. Trying to flip your woman around, bending her knees, and putting her legs behind her head creates lots of opportunity for you to fumble. Instead, make the smallest movements possible. One. At. A. Time.

For example, you might start in the classic missionary. From here, grab one of her wrists and putt it across her body, twisting her upper body on its side. Enjoy that position for a minute.

Now lift your pelvis, straddle one of her legs and pull her other leg to the same side you did her arm. Now her entire body is on its side.

From here you can easily lift her leg up in the air and enjoy splitting the bamboo.

Maybe you lean forward for a while before returning to the classic version.

Without having to move much at all, you can easily grab her airborne ankle and move it down towards the bed, turning her fully onto her stomach and into the prone bone.

Notice how all these small shifts can lead you from one position to another with very little room for awkward stumbling.

This is what it means to have smooth moves.

Master the Art of Smooth Moves

Now this was just one example of how to go from missionary to prone bone but the fact is that you could run through almost every position on this site by using this same principle.

Now even if you’ve nailed the art of the smooth move, there is 1 mistake almost all men make in bed that ruins a woman chance at orgasm.

HINT: Even the most experienced guys still make this costly blunder.

Try this 30 second dirty thought experiment to find out if you’re making this deadly mistake and what to do instead.

Lap Dance Sex Position – How To Let Her Seduce Herself

If you want to learn how your woman comes, watch what she does when she gets on top. The exception to this is when she’s in a service-top moves such as the lap dance sex position.

Wait…

What’s A Service Top Position?

Traditional girl-on-top positions (like cowgirl) are highly educational because you can relax and observe how your woman moves in order to orgasm. You can feel and watch the precise motion, rhythm, and speed she uses in order to get herself off.

Service-top positions are different because your woman doesn’t move in ways that will make her come. She moves in ways that *she thinks* will make you come. Or in ways she thinks will tease, please, and turn you on. She’s on top and in full control but she doesn’t use that power to pleasure herself, she uses it to pleasure and service you.

As you’ll learn in Penetration Orgasms Made Easy, the type of fucking that makes men come is very different from the type that makes women come.

So, if the lap dance sex position isn’t useful at teaching you what makes your woman come, what is it good for? The answer is turning her on and priming her for stronger orgasm in other positions.

Here’s why.

Nothing Turns Her On More Than Turning You On.

The only reason a woman gives you a lap dance (other than cold hard cash) is to turn you on. It’s to get you thinking with your little head instead of your big one. Why does she want to have this power? Because it makes her feel sexy, beautiful, and wanted.

So give her those feelings.

Make her feel beautiful, sexy, and wanted, by giving her the rise she’s trying to get out of you. When she sees (and feels) that her seductive moves are working, it makes her confident, wet, and liberates her to do all the nasty things you want without feeling any shame or guilt.

When she gets on top and gives you a lap dance:

Stroke and caress every inch of her body.
Compliment the way she moves.
Let out NON-EXAGERAATED moans and groans of pleasure and arousal.

A Quick Warning On The Danger of Trying To Get A Rise Out Of You

Have you ever been with a woman and taken her moans, groans, and movements as a sign to go harder, faster, or deeper… only to have your change in pace absolutely butcher her mood?

The same thing can happen here.

If you’re doing a great job of letting her know she’s turning you on, she might feel the urge to crank things up a notch.

As I said a minute above, the type of fucking that makes men come is usually very different from the type that makes women come. When You Watch Penetration Orgasms Made Easy, I’ll Show You That Difference. If a woman gets on top of you in the lap dance sex position and starts going in the way most likely to make you come (fast, full length, and hard), it could be very dangerous. One tiny slip and you could be in prime position for a major accident.

So make sure to keep the lap dance sex position going at a safe pace where the risk of an accident is reduced as much as possible.

If she does get too excited, grab a hold of her by the waist, hold her back, and tell her to slow down.

Pro Tip: Telling her that she’s making you too excited can fuel her confidence but telling her that SHE is getting too excited gives you a great segue to switch into a more dominant position where you can safely take back control of the thrusting.

So let’s get to it…

Variations of The Lap Dance Sex Position

As with all positions, there are many different versions. Here are a few of the most common your woman might try and what you can do to level up on them.

Champagne Room Position

This is the closed leg version of the lap dance where she’ll feel the tightest. It’s extremely difficult (if not impossible) to get into so she might have to spread her legs at first, get in position, and then close her legs once you’re inside.

In my experience, most women opt for a subtle grind instead of bouncing up and down. Match this pace by ‘hugging’ her from behind, putting your arm around her neck, or placing a hand on her pubic bone and applying a bit of pressure.

This is the ultimate “trying to turn you on” version so remember to encourage her and help her feel successful. Breath and moan, whisper in her ear how much she’s turning you on, and let her know how sexy her body feels as you caress every inch of it.

Reverse Lap Dance

This version is so good at making women come, that it made it onto my top 3 g-spot positions article.

As the name suggests, it’s similar to the regular lap dance only your woman is facing you instead of facing away. She puts her feet on the couch on each side of your butt and rocks her pelvis up and down.

If she leans back while doing this move, she’ll “drop” her g-spot directly onto your shaft, making her come fast and hard. The key here is that she will need some support to hold that position. She can put her hands on your thighs, you can wrap your arms around her waist and back, or she can hold up on a table or other furniture.

Spread Lap Dance Sex Position

Unlike the previous version where she keeps her legs closed tight, this version has her legs spread wide and open to all kinds of extra stimulation. This version actually can be all about her pleasure and making her come if you aren’t intimated by a little extra help.

Yup, I’m talking about using a toy or your hand to give her clitoral stimulation while she sits relatively still on your cock. You can actually make her come quite easily while you’re inside of her if you let your shaft sit still and let a toy do the work.

Swiss Ball Blitz Sex Position

Alright, this one is really more of a sex bucket list position for the very fit and sexually curious.

It’s lap dance on an exercise ball.

What more is there to say here other than BE EXTREMELY CAREFUL with this one. The risks we talked about above are even more present here so you might want to tell your woman not to pull off more then half way. The less length you’re working with, the more I would recommend you stay away from this version.

The Position Most Likely To Make Her Come

This entire blog is about studying different positions and finding the best ones for every scenario.

Depending on your size, your shape, how you and your woman “fit” with each other, some positions will naturally make her come more easily than others.

But there is one sex strategy that’s even more orgasmic than the positions you use.

Women from around the world agree it’s more important than the positions you use, your size, or even your stamina.

Use this 1 fucking technique and give any woman the most powerful orgasms of her life… guaranteed!

Face Sitting Femdom Position – The ultimate BDSM kink to learn…

Face sitting AKA queening is when a woman sits on your face and allows or forces oral. It’s often associated with femdom and bdsm.

Your woman can kneel, squat, or sit on a throne. Yes there are actually “thrones” made and sold for the sole purpose of face sitting.

She can face your head, a side, or your feet.

Although there is one issue with the latter.

Facing towards your feet can take away from the pleasure for her because seeing your lonely cock sit there unattended can make her feel like she should bend over and please you too.

On the other hand, if going down on your girl makes you hard, seeing you progressively get harder and she sits on your face can be a major turn-on.

One way to get the benefit while avoiding the con here is to use this version of the position while you’ve got your underwear still on. A barrier that prevents her from going down while also being loose or thin enough for your erection to be obvious through them.

WARNING ABOUT FACE SITTING:

Safe words are a must with risky positions like this. In the case of face sitting, safe words don’t cut it since you might not be able to get any words out. So make sure you get clear on a safe ACT. Tapping out on her thighs is a simple a effective one that should do the trick.

There are 2 main techniques for face sitting. She can sit still while you work your magic. Not easy since your neck will have to fight gravity the entire time.

Or you stay still while she grinds away and fucks your face. Relax, pay attention to her movements, and this can be the most exciting reconnaissance mission of your life.

Use this experience to learn everything you can about your girls oral preferences. Notice the speed, pressure, and rhythm she uses to grind your tongue. Notice if or how these elements change as she gets more and more into it. Take not of every move she makes and your oral game will have no choice but to level up immediately.

If you want to discover the exact move that’ll make her pussy come hardest, watch my Make Her Come First video now.

Make Her Come Fast With The Coital Alignment Technique CAT Position

If you want to make sure your girl comes first, you need to start using the coital alignment technique.

It’s a twist on the classic missionary that was first discovered by reichian psychotherapist Edward Eichel, and it’s been scientifically proven to make guys last longer while making women come faster.

Despite its exceptional abilities, you won’t see this highly effective position used in porn cause it’s nothing special to look at. The rare times it’s talked about online or in books, it’s usually difficult to understand and leaves you with more question than answers.

We’re going to fix that today.

Now, is the C.A.T. going to give your woman the strongest orgasms she’s ever had?

No. That’s not what this position is for.

The Coital Alignment Technique is used to:

Get her first orgasm out of the way fast
Prime her body for multiple orgasms
Make you Last Longer

These are the main reasons why…

The Coital Alignment Technique

Is One Of The Most Valuable Sex Positions

In The All-Star Lovers Arsenal

Anytime I’m with a new girl for the first time, I almost always start our session with the C.A.T.

Why?

Cause I want to get that first orgasm out of the way ASAP.

I don’t care if it’s not a strong orgasm… I only care that it happens.

See the longer it takes a girl to come, the less likely it is to happen.

She wants to please you just as much as you want to please her and she knows that her orgasm pleases you.

The longer it takes her to have that first orgasm, the more time she has to start wondering why it’s not happening… and once she reaches this point, it’s much less likely to happen.

That’s why the C.A.T. is so awesome.

Makes it easy for you to give her that first orgasm fast because it creates the perfect type of clitoral stimulation a woman needs to orgasm.

It also makes you last longer because it does NOT provide the type of stimulation that makes guys orgasm.

It doesn’t matter what size you are either because her orgasm doesn’t come from internal stimulation, rather outer stimulation.

Finally, by getting that first orgasm out of the way, your woman’s brain gets flooded with oxytocin (the pleasure chemical) and she goes into “orgasm mode” where multiple orgasms happen MUCH more easily.

How To Use The Coital Alignment Technique To Give Your Woman Her First Orgasm Fast

The majority of women don’t orgasm during penetration.

But the odds a woman will come skyrocket when clitoral stimulation is added.

This is why many women prefer to grind your pubic bone when they get on top instead of hopping up and down.

In non girl-on-top positions, your woman can get the required clitoral stimulation by rubbing herself with her fingers or a toy. If you’ve ever had sex with a girl while she’s vibing her clit, you know just how fast and easy she can come.

The C.A.T. creates a similar sensation except you get all of the credit.

The CAT position makes you the hero by giving her the clitoral stimulation she needs to come while you’re inside of her. No toys or self stimulation needed.

Here’s how it works.

Get into the missionary position.

Go all the way inside of her and stay there.

Do NOT thrust in and out.

Instead, stay all the way in, forget about your penis, and focus on rubbing your pubic bone against her clit.

Your pubic bone is the area above your penis that has (hopefully well trimmed) pubic hair.

The excitement of having you inside her while you’re “rubbing” her clit gives her both the emotional and physical stimulation she needs to come.

Depending on your size and shape, this movement can also make you hit some (often neglected) feel-good spots deep inside of her.

Instead of creating a sensation of on and off “pulsing” pleasure… you’re providing continuous pleasure that doesn’t takes breaks or stop until she gets off!

Making the switch from thrusting to grinding is often the key factor in turning a non-orgasmic woman into a cum machine.

If you want to reach god mode, here’s how to take it to the next level.

Split Test These 4 Motions In The C.A.T. Position

Watch 100 women play with themselves and you’ll notice 1 thing very quick.

All women masturbate differently.

Some rub their clit side to side.

Some prefer up and down.

And some like circles.

Watching your girl play with herself before you get into the cat can let you know exactly what type of motion you should use.

But if you don’t have that precious info yet, try each of these motions out to see and see what works best for you girl.

Up and down. Little blurb here
Side to side. This one is harder and usually only possible if you’re between her legs.
This one will give you a great core workout.

Another way to find her ideal motion is to let her get on top and watch how she grinds you. Check out my post on the cowgirl position to see exactly how it works.

Position Variations

You can have your legs on the outside of hers or the inside. Some swear by one version while stating the other doesn’t work for them so (as always), try both out and see what works best for your woman.

Keep in mind both are slightly different.

When her legs are open, it’s quite easy to rub your pubic bone against her clit. You might need to shift your bodies angle a bit, or move higher or lower compared to her body… but it’s not hard to figure out.

In the closed leg version, it’s not so easy. Instead of focusing on rubbing your pubic bone against her… you’ll likely have to the base of your shaft.

As always, play with this.

Take your time.

And find what works best for you and your woman.

How To Get Into Closed Leg C.A.T.

Getting into the closed leg version can be next to impossible, unless you know this one simple trick.

Lift one of your legs while she slides hers under you.

Then repeat.

What To Do After The C.A.T. To Really Blow Her Mind

At the start of this article I said the orgasms your girl will have in this position aren’t the strongest.

What this position does is give her first orgasm and prime her body for much more intense orgasms after.

Like the C.A.T. there are other positions and thrusting patterns that give women MUCH more powerful orgasms.

We cover these positions and exactly how they work inside Penetration Orgasms Made Easy. Plus you’ll learn a whole lot more tips, tricks, and techniques to blow your girls mind after the CAT.

Check out Penetration Orgasms Made Easy now to give your girl the best penetration of her life… regardless of your size!

#1 Most Dangerous Mistake Men Make In The Cowgirl Sex Position

According to some scientific studies, the cowgirl sex position is one of 2 most likely to lead women to penetration orgasms.

But even the best lovers, using the best positions, can make mistakes.

In fact, there’s one major mistake many men make in cowgirl that completely ruins a woman’s chance at reaching a climax.

On this page, you’re going to learn exactly what this costly mistake is, why we make it, and most important, what to do instead so that you can make your woman come every time.

Or more accurately, so that you don’t prevent your woman from making herself come on you.

But before we get to that…

Here’s how the cowgirl position works.

You lie on your back while your woman gets on top and rides you to bliss.

Like most sex position, there are many different variations of the cowgirl.

Which one you use is not a matter of what you’re in the mood for, rather what will lead your woman to orgasm.

Well get to that in a minute, but first…

Let’s get to the single most important thing you need to know about cowgirl, and virtually every woman on top position.

The Biggest Mistake Men Make In The Cowgirl Sex Position Is: Fucking From Below

Here’s the deal…

The type of penetration that makes men come, typically doesn’t do the job for women.

What’s needed for men to orgasm is a simple and consistent in and out motion.

For women, that motion doesn’t do much other than tease and eventually frustrate them.

Going straight in and out doesn’t make you rub against her clit, g-spot, or a-spot.

Unless you’re huge, she won’t feel much at all.

And if you are bigger than average, she’ll only feel a fraction of the pleasure she could.

When a woman gets on top to ride, her natural instinct will be to grind you.

Why?

Cause that’s the type of motion that makes her come.

The mistake so many men make is that once she starts grinding, we grab onto her and start fucking from the bottom.

We hold her in place and start pounding straight in and out.

Imagine how frustrating this is for women.

She gets on top and has full control.

She starts grinding in the way that feels incredible to her and will eventually bring her to orgasm.

But all of a sudden, the guys she’s on top of grabs her and starts penetrating in a completely different way.

A way that feels nowhere near as good as what she felt when she was in control.

How do you think that makes her feel?

She feels like he’s taking pleasure away from her. This breeds resentment.
He doesn’t understand what she wants and needs. This breeds a lack of trust.
She’s not getting the pleasure she knows is possible. This makes her feel frustrated.
She feels like he doesn’t care about pleasing her and is only using her for his pleasure.

Now think about it…

How likely do you think she is to want sex with him again.

In fact, you don’t have to imagine.

Take a look at this reddit user who posted about her frustration with guys who don’t let their woman ride.

And here’s another with some equally insightful responses from other women…

The bottom line is, when your woman gets on top, let her get off on you.

Keep your hips and pelvis still.

Now this does NOT mean you should play the role of a dead fish.

On the contrary.

Here’s What To Do In The Cowgirl Sex Position

Many women get insecure and nervous when on top.

Unlike the majority of positions, when she’s on top, she feels an added pressure to perform.

Add to this the fact that many women have never been able to find the motion that feels best for them.

Either she doesn’t know exactly what to try, or her past lovers were making the mistake we talked about earlier and didn’t allow her to try.

What you’re left with is a woman who doesn’t know exactly what to do and on top of that, she isn’t confident in her ability to do it without interference.

Your mission in cowgirl is twofold:

Allow and encourage her to discover what feels best
Reward her with positive reinforcement when she does so

When guys first hear me say “encourage her to discover what feels best”, they often think that just telling their woman “do whatever feels right to you” will do.

The problem is that she might not know what feels best or know how to figure it out.

Below, I’m going to show you what’s most likely to feel best to her and how to encourage her with your words as well as your actions.

Woven into each move, I’m going to give you some advanced techniques to reward her for doing so.

Here’s a hint: the most effective rewards have little to do with the words you use.

So let’s get to it.

Cowgirl Position for Clitoral Orgasms

Her position: She leans on your chest (as if she’s hugging you).

Ideal motion for her orgasm: A twerking motion that slides her clit up and down against your shaft and/or pubic bone.

Encourage her to find her bliss: It’s quite simple in this position. If she’s on her knees, there isn’t much she’ll be able to do other than twerk.

Reward her: Since your heads are so close together, you’re in the perfect position to use some dirty talk. Hold her close to you and tell her how much you love the way she moves her ass on you.

Cowgirl for Clitoris and A-Spot (AKA Deep-Spot) Stimulation

Her position: She gets upright with a slight lean and places her hands on your chest (as if giving cpr).

Ideal motion for her orgasm: Keeping you all the way inside while grinding herself back and forth, rubbing her clit against your pubic bone.

Encourage her to find her bliss: Again, if she’s on her knees, she should be able to figure out her ideal motion quite easily. If she doesn’t, put your hands on her hips and tilt them back and forth. Imagine grabbing a keyboard by the sides. Hold it straight up. Now tilt it slightly and then return to starting position. This is the motion you want to make.

Reward her: Once she nails the movement and is really enjoying it, know that she’s moving for her pleasure. Make her feel confident in her moves and get her to focus on her pleasure by telling her to. Say “You look so sexy the way you ride me. Use that cock, baby. Get that pleasure. Fuck yeah baby, get it!”

Cowgirl Sex For G-Spot Orgasms

Her position: She gets on top and leans back, putting her hands on your knees, thighs, or the bed.

Ideal motion for her orgasm: Imagine her staying completely still while tilting her pelvis up and down. Each time, she basically drops her g-spot on your tip.

Try this version lying down, and also try it sitting up in a couch or against the head of the bed. It’ll put your shaft at an angle and make g-spot stimulation even more dramatic.

Encourage her to find her bliss: When she’s on top, just tell her how sexy it would look if she leans back for a bit.

Reward her: Again, tell her how sexy she looks when she rides you. Moan, groan and let her know not just with your words, but also your sounds and facial expressions.

Keep in mind this position is tough and she likely wont be able to last very long.

If you’re close enough, try putting your arms around her and giving her that extra support to make her last a bit longer.

Cowgirl For Your Pleasure

Her position: She squats on top of you and bounces up and down on your cock.

Ideal motion: If she’s doing this version, it’s all about your pleasure. She’s going to be squatting up and down on your cock so she won’t get much in terms of physical pleasure but you will.

Just know that she’s unlikely to come in this version but if she keeps going long enough, you will.

If she’s already come in another version or position, this can be a fun way for you to finish.

The Betty Rocker

The betty rocker is a reverse cowgirl sex position which provides completely different types of stimulation.

Use the same principals of letting her find the ideal motion for her pleasure and use positive reinforcement.

The real key to making this position great for her is to make her feel confident about her ass.

Slap her it and let her know how sexy it looks.

Let her know how hard she’s making you.

Since she can’t see you or your facial expressions, get a little louder with your words and sounds.

How To Give A Woman Multiple Orgasms With The Anvil Sex Position

Of all the positions on this site, the anvil sex position hits our top 10 list because of how easy it can be used to string together a series of intense, multiple orgasms that reverberate throughout her entire body.

With just a few small tweaks, you can give her a clitoral, g-spot, and deep spot orgasm, one after the other.

There are 3 types of multiple orgasms:

Repetition Orgasms – This is when you give her the same type of orgasm over and over again.
Simultaneous Orgasms – This is when you give her different types of orgasms at the same time. It’s also the most difficult to achieve because your timing has to be just right.
Varied Orgasms – The easiest to give, this is when you give her different types of orgasms in one session.

On this page, you’re going to learn why it’s so easy to give a woman varied orgasms in the anvil position and exactly how you can do it tonight!

But first…

A WARNING On The Anvil Sex Position:

Before we get started, I have to warm you to START SLOW in this position.

The anvil position makes you go DEEP! Much deeper than most positions.

There are only 2 reasons some positions make you go deeper than others:

Nothing is in the way that prevents you from going balls deep (such as her ass stopping your hips and leaving out some of your length).
Her position “folds” her body in a way that compresses and shortens the distance of her vaginal canal.

When it comes to the anvil position, BOTH of these are true.

So even if you’re not very big, you will go very deep inside of her.

Sounds great (especially if you’re not very large) but the problem is that you might hit her cervix and that’s very painful for most women.

So when you first start using the anvil, GO SLOW!

Very slow.

Until you know that you’re not going to hurt her.

If you do hit her cervix, you might be too big for this position or… you can modify the position using some of the examples below until you find the one that’s just the right fit.

Now that you know what to watch out for, let’s move onto why you’re here.

How To Give Her Multiple Orgasms In The Anvil Sex Position

First things first.

The most extreme version of this position will require your woman to be a little flexible.

And as with anything requiring flexibility, you should never stretch cold muscles.

So make sure she’s warmed up first.

Before using the anvil, build up a sweat in another, less demanding sex position.

Ideally, you’ve already given her at least one orgasm before penetration.

Foreplay In The Anvil

Start by laying her down on her back and climb on top of her.

Pin her arms above her head with one hand and start kissing her.

Pinning her arms down is a sign of that you’re in control and lets her know that it’s okay to submit to you.

You’re going to need her total submission if you’re going to make her come multiple times.

Now gently pull her hair so that her head tilts to one side and kiss her neck on the other.

Work your way down by kissing her collarbone, breasts, belly, and pubic bone.

When you get to her vulva, skip over it.

Skip to her thighs.

Spread her legs a little and spend a bit of time on each of her inner thighs. This hot spot is one of the most sensitive and erotic erogenous zones on a woman’s body so take advantage.

Now get on your knees and lift one of her legs in the air.

Kiss and caress her ankle, calf, and thigh.

Repeat on the other leg.

The point here is to get her relaxed and turned on while her legs are up in the air and stretching.

Now hold both her legs in the air and switch back and forth between the two.

Work your way between her legs and use your mouth to warm her up and really get her craving more.

PRO TIP: Something that really helps to give you better access during oral is to put a pillow under her pelvis. It gives you a lot more access and will help with the penetration when you get to it. More on that below.

Go down on her for a bit.

Don’t make her come just yet. Instead, build up an orgasm and get her close.

ADVANCED: If you don’t know exactly how to bring her to the brink of orgasm without using your dick, watch this video now.

By this point she’ll be begging to feel you inside her.

Tease Penetration Before Giving It To Her

Free up one of your hands by using the other to hold both her feet together, or have her hold them.

Because of the pillow under her butt, her pelvis will be raised up in the air and should align with yours quite well.

Gently swipe the tip of yourself against her opening.

Swipe up and down.

Between her lips.

DO NOT ENTER HER YET.

Get your tip wet with her juices and use it to rub her clit.

Rub it up and down.

Side to side.

And in circles.

Now go back to gliding just your head in between her lips.

As she’s breathing heavy and likely begging for it… SLOWLY enter her.

Slowly enter her with the head of your cock, then slowly pull back out.

Do this a few times and go back to rubbing her clit in between.

This will drive her wild and get her throbbing to feel you inside.

Start thrusting just your tip into her again.

With every thrust, start to gradually go deeper until you’re going balls deep.

How To Give A Clitoral Orgasm In The Anvil Position

By now her clit is warmed up and ready tome come.

Now you’re going to give it to her in a way that’ll also “warm up” her g-spot and deep spot.

Lift her legs and spread them wide.

Get on your knees and lean over her.

Now here’s the trick…

Instead of thrusting in and out, stay all the way in and grind your pelvis against her clit and vulva.

It’s that simple!

Now just find what movement makes her come.

Up and down.

Side to side.

Or circles.

Also remember that the clitoral head is just one part of the clitoral anatomy.

The sensitive nerve endings in her clit that lead to orgasm run throughout her entire vulva.

So make sure you’re rubbing her clit and the entire region surrounding it.

If you did a good job of building up and teasing her clit with oral and rubbing your shaft against it, she will come FAST!

Now, it’s time to give her clit and legs a rest while you…

Give Her A G-Spot Orgasm In The Anvil Sex Position

Because the clitoris and g-spot and connected through the sensitive nerve endings that make women come, it’ll be easier to giver her a g-spot orgasm now that’s she’s already come with her clit.

For this version of the anvil, you’re going to get off of her and onto your knees.

Instead of pressing down on her legs (like you were in the previous version), get on your knees and let them rest them against your chest.

Remember that pillow you put under her butt during foreplay? This is where it’s really going to help.

By resting her butt on the pillow, her pelvis will tilt at an angle.

This way, when you thrust back and forth, you’ll slam straight into her g-spot.

You might need to add a second pillow, spread your legs wider, or a combination of the two in order to get the perfect angle.

Play around with the amount of tilt in her pelvis, and the height of your shaft to find her ideal.

The lower your pelvis is, the more upward your cock will go… aiming right at her g-spot.

Once you do, you’ll hit her g-spot with ease.

Finish Her Off With A Deep Spot Orgasm In The Anvil Sex Position

And now for the grand finale!

Get on top of her in a plank or push-up position and instead of grinding, thrust straight up and down.

The trick here is to find out how aligned your heads should be.

Should your head be closer to the wall (or headboard) than hers, should you both be the same distance, or should you be further away?

Depending on who’s closer to the head of the bed, the angle of penetration will change drastically for her.

As with everything related to sex and orgasms, not 2 women are the same.

Depending on the size of your dick, her anatomy, your body sizes, one of these variations will work better than the others for her.

Find the one that hits her deep spot best and you’ll thrust straight into it, giving her the deepest, and most powerful orgasm possible!

A truly epic finish to your 3 piece orgasm.

Conclusion:

Throughout this article, I’ve encouraged you to try many different techniques, angles, and movements.

That’s because no 2 women are exactly the same.

The real “trick” to giving a woman the best orgasms of her life lies in adapting to her unique sensitivities and preferences.

Until now, there hasn’t been a reliable way to do it.

But that’s exactly what I want to show you.

It’s simple and scientifically proven.

It’s called Adaptive Orgasmic Response and it’s the core of my Make Her Come First Formula.

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How To Use the Faceoff Sex Position to Make Her Fall In Love… HARD!

The faceoff sex position might not seem like much, but it’s one of the best positions for building intimacy and sexual trust.

If you’ve been reading this blog for a while, you already know that women are desperate to experience many different shades of the sexual rainbow.

I’m not talking about women wanting to get it on with other women, although that is a common fantasy.

What I’m talking about is giving your woman a variety of erotic emotions.

Women crave “dark emotions” like lust and uncontrollable desire… and they also crave light emotions such as feeling cared for, special, and loved.

IMPORTANT: In this context, I’m talking specifically about women who are in committed relationships.

If you’re just hooking up with a one night stand, there’s a high chance that she doesn’t want to feel the lighter emotions like love. She might even be afraid to experience them with you. Unless you know her O type and you know she needs light emotions to orgasm, going light with a one night stand is usually a turnoff. Stick to the dark emotions for one night stands and fuck buddies.

On the other hand, if you’re in a committed relationship with a woman you love, NOTHING will satisfy her more than a VARIETY of sexual experiences.

Sometimes she craves being tied her up, brought to the brink of orgasm, and then denied that orgasm at the last minute.

Sometimes she craves a spontaneous quickie in the car or kitchen.

Sometimes she craves being completely dominated and given a hard fucking.

And sometimes, she wants nothing more than to make sweet, slow, romantic love that penetrates her soul and fills her up with love and connection.

The faceoff sex position is one of the best positions for light-emotion sex.

Now that we’re clear on when you should and shouldn’t use this position…

Here’s How To Pull Off the Faceoff Sex Position

To get in the faceoff, sit down on a chair, the edge of a bed, a couch, or in a car. Only parked cars count!

Facing you, your woman sits and kneels on top of you.

It’s that simple.

The part where guys get hung up is when it comes to the thrusting.

How She Comes In the Face Off

A common mistake guys make whenever their woman gets on top is to grab onto her and start pounding really hard and fast from the bottom. Some women like this… but for most it just ruins her orgasm.

See the type of stimulation that makes a guy come isn’t the same type of stimulation that gets a woman off.

Straight in and out penetration gives us the friction we need to come but women need to have their clit, g-spot, or one of the deep spots stimulated.

Going straight in usually doesn’t do it for her. Unless you’re packing so much meat that Ron Jeremy would be jealous.

Any time your woman gets on top, let her move and grind in the way that works best for her, or give her some time to find that perfect motion and then take control only if and when you can mimic it perfectly.

In the faceoff, you won’t be able to “thrust back” since your ass is stuck to a surface.

That’s a good thing.

Let her take control.

Let her ride.

Let her come.

Most likely she’ll find that one of these 2 motions works best for her:

Grinding you so that your pubic bone rubs against her clit.
Rocking back and forth (slightly) so that the tip of your penis rubs against one of her deep spots.

In the latter version, it won’t feel like she’s doing much at all. In fact many guys who don’t understand what she’s doing might get frustrated and impatient, longing for some in and out action.

But you know better.

You understand that those seemingly minute movements have a powerful effect inside of her.

Use The Faceoff Sex Position To Build Intimacy & Sexual Trust

In the beginning of this article I mentioned how women crave a variety of sexual experiences and emotions.

One of the keys to using giving your woman variety is to make sure everything is congruent.

When using a light position and thrusting style, don’t pull her hair and use raunchy dirty talk.

When fucking her hard in doggy, don’t talk in a low voice and tell her how much you love her.

Keep everything congruent.

Got it?

Since the face off is best for light love making, add in congruent “bonuses”.

Side note: oxytocin is known as the love hormone. Our brains produce more of this hormone when making love and when our bodies are so close and pressed up against each other.

Keep it congruent and amplify oxytocin production by:

Looking deep into each others eyes.
Whispering sweet nothings into her ear.
Having her wrap her arms around your neck while you wrap yours around her waist and hold her close.
Passionately kiss her lips, her neck, and her breasts.
Get present and FEEL YOUR BODY while you’re inside her. Mirror neurons ß find science link – will fire and she’ll start to do the same. When she does, you’ll feel each other on a deeper, almost spiritual level. I know it sounds corny, but trust me… nothing will make her feel more loved, special and connected.

Transition Positions

Finally, as I always try to cover in the blogs, make sure you transition smoothly from one position to the next.

Here are 2 simple yet powerfully effective transitions from the faceoff.

Cowgirl

Not much to this one. Just lean back, let her make the adjustments necessary and then ride you to orgasm.

transitioning into cowgirl — Faceoff to Cowgirl transition

Reverse Lap Dance

While you stay in the same position, tell her it would be really hot if she leaned back.

By doing this, it’ll position her g-spot directly above your penis head. With just a bit of movement, she’ll quickly realize that she can “drop” her g-spot directly onto you for incredibly pleasurable penetration.

You can easily reach over and play with her boobs or clit for that extra boost in pleasure.

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Forbidden Fruit Sex Position AKA Oral Doggy Style

If you love eating out and eating ass, you’re in for a sweet treat with the forbidden fruit sex position.

It’s the ultimate position for ass loving, oral aficionados.

In this cunnilingus position, your girl gets on all fours while you kneel behind her and go to town.

She can get into the traditional doggy with her knees and hands on the bed, or get into a face down ass up version where she lies her chest and head on the bed. By going with the face down ass up version, she can relax more of her body and achieve orgasm more easily. Her pelvis also tilts in the version, giving you easier access.

Another variation of the forbidden fruit is for her to lie flat on her belly with her legs spread. The only problem with this version is that it can be tough on your neck. Put a pillow or sex wedge under her pelvis to raise and tilt her core, giving you easier access and relieving some strain on your neck.

Why use the forbidden fruit sex position?

You can use your fingers, a toy, and your mouth all at the same time to give her simultaneous pleasure.
If she’s in the face down ass up version, she can put an arm under her belly and play with her clit while you penetrate her pussy and stimulate her ass.
You’ve got the best view in the house!
But the biggest benefit to this position is that it’s a perfect intro to anal!

If she’s never tried anal, or if she’s hesitant to do so, the forbidden fruit just might be the move that changes her mind!

Start by giving her an oral orgasm or two in this pose. Once she’s in an orgasmic state, lick her ass. If she’s never experienced this before, she’ll be shocked at how pleasurable it is and will start to wonder what other pleasures her end zone can experience.

WARNING: Never, I MEAN NEVER, try to stick anything in her ass without her permission. If you take advantage of the fact that she’s exposed her ass to you like this, she will never trust you again. And she shouldn’t.

But, you can make her crave anal penetration by giving her a taste of what anal stimulation can feel like.

Once you’ve licked her ass and she gave you some positive feedback, wet your finger tip and lightly press against it against her ass while massaging it in circles. AGAIN, DO NOT enter her ass… the goal here is to give her pleasurable anal stimulation and make her crave more.

Use a dildo or vibrator on her pussy while licking and gently rubbing her anus.

If this doesn’t make her willing to try anal right away, don’t push it. If you made it a pleasurable experience, she will think about it later on and likely start to become more open to the idea.

Use the Forbidden Fruit Sex Position to Last Longer In Doggy and Give Her Double Orgasms!

We all love doggy style. Both men and women often say it’s their favorite position.

The biggest problem men have with this position is that it can be tough to last long in.

By switching back and forth between doggy style penetration and doggy style cunnilingus (AKA the forbidden fruit), you can give yourself a break and “cool down” whenever you need to, WHILE continuing to build her orgasm with oral!

Here’s a full forbidden fruit sex position routine you can use to enjoy doggy and give her 2 orgasms! Some of these tips might seem basic, but I’ve added in a few advanced tricks to really take things to the next level so read ever word that follows!

Step 1. Get her into the doggy position and go down on her. Take short breaks to massage and slap her ass while telling her how sexy it is.

Step 2. Stand up and tease her with your cock by rubbing it against her clit. DO NOT INSERT YOUR PENIS!

Step 3. Go back to oral. This time, start incorporating your fingers. Start by licking and sucking her clit to get it wet with your saliva. Now replace your mouth with your fingers. Use 2 fingers and place them one on each side of her clit. Gently stroke her clit back and forth trying to keep the same type of pressure and rhythm you had with your mouth. Now use your tongue to lick up and down her slit.

Step 4. Start rubbing the tip of your finger against her opening in an up and down motion.

Side note: Since she can’t see what you’re doing, her excitement and anticipation will go through the roof. Use that to your advantage and always keep her guessing by switching things up!

Step 5. Slowly enter the tip of your thumb or finger. Make sure your thumb (or finger) print is facing up, towards her butt. Slide in 1 to 2 knuckles and gently pull up. This mimics the sensation of being penetrated much more than jabbing a finger in and out. Keep doing this for 20 to 30 seconds while you tell her how wet she is, how hot her moans are making you, and how much she wants you inside of her.

Step 6. Tell her she isn’t ready for it yet. Pull your thumb or finger out and go back to giving her oral.

Step 7. By this time she’ll be soaking wet and dying to feel you inside of her. It’s time to give her what she wants… but just the tip. You’re going to drive her wild with anticipation and desire. Slowly enter just the tip of your penis inside her, and pull it back out. Then slowly enter her again with just your tip and pull out. Do this 9 times. On the 10^th time, go all the way in. Even if you’re average size, you’ll feel MASSIVE to her! Now pull out and start over with 8 shallow thrusts and 2 deep. Keep following this pattern until you’re giving her only deep, powerful thrusts.

Step 8. Pull out and go down on her whenever you start to feel your orgasm approaching. Don’t wait. The longer you wait the more time it’ll take you to recover. Do this every time you feel your orgasm approaching and soon you’ll have strengthened your stamina and be able to pound her as long as you want!

Step 9. Make her come! While many women can have penetration orgasms fairly easily in doggy style, you’ll drastically improve her chances when you give her a foreplay orgasm first. The only question is, what technique is most likely to give her that first orgasm? That’s what this video will show you.

If you want to make sure she comes first every time, you need to follow the 5 scientific steps of female orgasm and you need to fine tune them to match her preferences.

Not all women like the same things.

Some like to have their clit sucked gently while others prefer quick flicks of the tongue.

Some come easier from “jilling off” their clit and others need to be rubbed in a circular motion.

Watch this video to find out exactly what makes your woman come the hardest!

Use the Betty Rocker Sex Position when She Needs A Good Spanking

A woman will sometimes act out in hopes you’ll give her a much deserved spanking. When done in the right context, many women love (even yearn for) a good spanking. The Betty Rocker Sex Position is one of those contexts.

It’s similar to reverse cowgirl only she’s on her knees and leaning forward.

Another way to think of it is that she gets into a doggy style position, while you lie down underneath her.

Put some a few pillows under your head and you’ve got a view any “ass man” would kill for.

If your hips are too wide or this version simply isn’t comfortable, spread your legs, lift your hips and place them on the outside of her legs.

Here’s what you need to know in order to make this position as pleasurable and orgasmic as possible.

Let Her Take Charge in the Betty Rocker Sex Position

Unlike most rear entry positions, she gets to call the shots in this one. She’s in total control of the rhythm, angle, speed, and depth. Let her have this gift. DO NOT try to fuck her from the bottom… unless she specifically asks for it. Men and women don’t typically orgasm from the same type of thrusting. So let her thrust in the way that feels best for her… or… tell her how to thrust for your pleasure. She can rock back and forth, grind you, or even twerk on your cock. She can go fast, slow, or mix it up.

Once she has found something that works for her, amplify her emotions by telling her she loves it. Saying things like “you love bouncing on my cock like that don’t you baby?” or, if she’s doing more of a grinding motion “you love grinding on my cock like that don’t you baby?”. If you can do it without messing her grove, put your hands on her hips and pull her onto you… but only if you can stay in sync with her movements!

Spanking Sex

If ever there was an ideal position for spanking, this is it. When spanking your woman’s bottom, you want to aim for the most center part of it. This is where there’s the most fatty tissue. Avoid the sides of her butt. They have less fat and will lead to pain rather than pleasure. Start with lighter spanks and ask for feedback. Between spanks, lightly rub her butt in circles to soothe & heighten the sensation.

Clitoral Stimulation in the Betty Rocker Sex Position

When it comes to clitoral contact, the Betty Rocker doesn’t provide it naturally (like other positions). If your girl needs clitoral stimulation to get off, you’re going to need some help in order to make it happen in this position. Thankfully, I’ve got a couple of suggestions for you. Put on a vibrating cock ring with the vibrator on the bottom of your shaft. Right on your balls. When you’re fully inside her, she’ll have that sucker right on her clit! This works best when she stays completely on you and grinds her pelvis. The vibrator will be sandwiched between your balls and her clit. Either of you can also hold a vibrator in the same place.

G-Spot Stimulation

If g-spot stimulation is what she’s going after, she’ll have the best results by arching her back at sticking her butt up high in the air.

Deep Posterior Stimulation

We all know about the g-spot and the a-spot (sometimes called the deep spot), but most men (and even women) don’t know about the posterior fornix (sometimes called the cul-de-sac). It’s on “the other” wall of the vagina and produces INTENSE pleasure and orgasms. While most women never find this spot without the help of a very specialized toy or advanced lover, the Betty Rocker position can help her discover it. In order to make it more likely she’ll find it, use a sex wedge or pillow under your butt to tilt your pelvis. BTW if she really likes this, she’s much more likely to be open to anal penetration, or at least some light anal play.

Speaking of such things…

Anal Play in the Betty Rocker Sex Position

If you’re both into anal, the Betty Rocker is a great position for it.

If your woman isn’t into full on anal penetration but does like a little anal play, you’re in for a treat! Since her ass is right there in front of you, it’s an easy opportunity to tickle her fancy while she rides you to bliss.

Wet the tip of your thumb and lightly rub it in circles on her anus. Notice I said ON and not IN. Just the light rub of a wet finger or thumb pad will feel exquisite.

If she does like a little penetration, insert the tip of your thumb, finger or use a small toy or anal plug. You’ll give her one of the most common female fantasies, double penetration, without having to share you woman with some other dude. Unless of course that’s what you’re into.

Don’t Forget To Compliment Her Ass

Finally, make sure you compliment her ass. Other than the Betty Rocker sex position, there aren’t many others that exposes a woman’s ass as much so make sure you make her feel good and confident about it. It doesn’t matter if she knows it, or you tell her all the time how great her ass is… women thrive on compliments and need them regularly. So let her know just how incredible her ass is!