Spread Eagle Sex Position Forces Her Orgasmic Submission

In the spread eagle sex position, your woman is laid out with all four limbs spread out as wide as possible.

She can face up (supine) or down (prone).

She can lay down on a bed, or stand against a wall or saltire cross.

Use this position to give your goddess an erotic massage, devour her pussy, or dominate her orgasms.

I recommended all 3.

Many brush this position off because at first glance, it can seem like it’s an invitation for her to play the role of a dead fish.

This couldn’t be further from the truth.

This position can be exactly what your woman needs in order to have the strongest orgasms of her life.

Why The Spread Eagle Sex Position Makes Women Come So Much Harder

Think about the last time you jerked off.

Maybe you were watching porn…

Or maybe you were using the power of your imagination.

Other than watching or imagining something arousing, where was your attention?

Were you thinking about your taxes, chores, work?

Probably not.

Other than the stimulus – the woman you’re watching or imagining – you were likely focused solely on what you were FEELING.

The sensations of arousal in your body.

If you did start to think about your bills or what you need at the grocery store, you wouldn’t stay hard for very long.

The same thing is true for women.

In order to be fully aroused and orgasmic, your woman needs to be focused on what she’s FEELING.

If she starts thinking, it’s game over.

Her pussy will be as dry as a desert and her orgasm will be impossible.

Many guys ruin their woman’s orgasm, not because of bad technique, but because they make her think.

They take her focus away from feeling… and they get her thinking.

They ask what position she wants, what kind of sex she’s in the mood for, or if she’s getting close to orgasm.

All these questions take her focus away from FEELING sexy, horny, and orgasmic… and they force her to think.

Being dominant is not about being mean, selfish, or degrading… it’s about removing the burden of having to think, and allowing her the focus solely on the pleasure she’s feeling.

This is why dominant men tend to give women the strongest orgasms.

As I’ve said many times on this blog, the position you choose can set the mood for the type of sex you’re having.

Some positions are better suited for making love and others are better for dominating.

The spread eagle puts your woman into a submissive position and give you total control, so you can dominate her focus, her pleasure, and her orgasms.

Dominate Her Orgasms With The Spread Eagle Sex Position

As you’re about to see, there are many different variations of the spread eagle position.

There’s also several different ways to use these variations.

Before we get to them, here’s how to take advantage of her submission (in a positive way) and heighten her senses for more pleasure.

Multiply Her Pleasure By Manipulating Her Senses

Sensory deprivation is one of the most powerful tools in a dominant lover’s playbook.

It’s when you reduce one or more of her senses in order to enhance the others.

Examples of Sensory Deprivation:

Use restraints

Tie her to the bed, wall, or cross.

Use handcuffs, rope, ties, or even her own clothes.

When lifting her shirt, don’t take it off.

Lift it to her wrists and use it to tie them up.

Deprive her vision

Keeping up with the last example of lifting her top to tie her hands, instead you can lift it up to her eye level and stop it there.

This lifts her arms up and also covers her eyes.

I use this one regularly and highly recommend it!

If you don’t have any clothes around, you can always use a blindfold, a necktie, or just put a pillow or sheets over her face.

Anything that removes her vision is great because it builds massive anticipation.

She can’t see what you’re doing and starts to anticipate what’s tome come.

Fill her mouth

I’m not talking about your cock… yet. Be patient.

Again, by limiting what she’s able to do (in this case talk), you’re making it easier for her to focus on what she feels.

Use a ball gag or put her panties in her mouth after taking them off.

Just make sure you’re cautious.

If her hands are tied, she won’t be able to pull whatever you’re using out of her moth if she needs to.

If you’re using her panties, just put a bit of them in her mouth and let the rest fall out.

Amplify Her Other Senses

Now that you’ve deprived one or more of her senses, it’s time to amplify others.

Here are some of the best tools for doing this.

Use a feather

If she’s blindfolded and restrained, she’ll be able to focus much more on what sensations she’s feeling.

Start off slow and gentle with something very light like a feather.

Gently run it across her neck, chest, thighs, and every other erogenous zone to get her focused on feeling sensations.

Wartenberg wheel

Another great tool of arousal is the wartenberg wheel.

You can find them online for about $10.

It’s a medical device used to test nerve sensitivity but when used in the bedroom, it gets your woman to focus on her the pleasure and sensations those nerve endings deliver.

Roll it across every erogenous zone on her body and watch her arousal skyrocket.

Use A Vibrator

Now that your woman is warmed up, pick it up a notch and grab her favorite vibrator.

Turn it on and give her a few seconds to hear it. Remember, anticipation!

Of course you can use it to make her come, but sometimes, use it just to build her arousal.

Placing it on her outer lips, above her clit, against her vaginal opening are all great ways to get her hips grinding and pussy throbbing with anticipation for more.

It’s your call if you want to use it to make her come yet.

Either way, switch it up.

Don’t follow the same routine every time cause this will kill the anticipation.

Hot and Cold Stimulants

Candle wax is definitely not for everyone but if your woman is into it, slow dripping some wax on her erogenous zones can really spice things up.

Use it on her chest, belly, thighs.

Just avoid her vulva.

To give her some variety, use an ice cube.

Gently rub it across her body.

The heat of her body will make them melt all over her and really amplify her sense of touch.

Spread Eagle Sex Position for Erotic Massage

One of the first steps in making a woman come is to help her get release stress and tension in the body.

That’s why massage is such a great way to prime a woman for orgasm.

Start by giving her a regular massage in the most common “tight spots” such as her shoulders and neck, upper back, legs, and feet.

Once she’s totally blissed out, start massaging her more erotic hot spots such as her breasts, hips, and butt.

Work your way towards her vulva and move through each “layer” one step at a time.

Place your hands on her outer lips and massage up and down.

Put a bit of pressure with your index fingers and start to move each lip up and down in opposite directions. This “sandwiches” her clit in between her lips and stimulates it indirectly.

Make a V shape with your index and middle fingers.

Place one on each side of her inner lips and with a bit of pressure, slide them up and down, squeezing her clit gently.

Stimulate her clit directly with her favorite technique.

Some women prefer to be rubbed up and down, some like it side to side, and some need a circular motion.

The motion you use should not depend on what you like, but rather what her body responds to best.

Adapting your technique to match her unique preferences is what makes the difference between regular orgasms, and the best she’s ever had.

Watch this video to learn how to do it.

Devour Her With The Oral Eagle

In the oral version of the eagle sex position, your woman lifts her legs, bends at the knees and rests the soles of her feet on the bed.

Get on your stomach and go to town.

Again, your technique should depend on her preferences, not yours.

If you haven’t already, watch this video to master any pussy.

One quick tip is to put a pillow under her pelvis for better access.

Use The Captain Sex Position

In the captain, you’re steering the ship.

Grab her by the ankles and lift them in the air.

Get on your knees in front of her and enjoy the view.

In order to align your goods, you’ll need that pillow under her hips.

It’ll raise her butt up in the air just enough for you to enter her.

It also tilts her pelvis in such a way that you’ll hit her g-spot directly with every thrust!

The Prone Eagle Position for Deeper Orgasms

The prone version of the eagle is the same as the traditional version only she’s on her stomach instead of her back.

Unlike the prone bone position, her legs are spread and yours are on the inside of hers.

The benefit to this position is that you go very deep.

You’ll feel HUGE inside of her while amplifying the dominance of the eagle because you’re entering her from behind.

Hold her arms down and put your head close to hers for some dirty talk.

If You’re Long, Try The Peace Sign Eagle

In the peace sign, your woman’s legs are closed together while her arms are spread out.

She can face up or down.

Closed legs will make her tighter but you won’t go as deep so it’s best for guys who are longer in size.

Take It Outside The Bedroom With The Upright Eagle

Spontaneity is key to an exciting sex life.

Even kinky sex can start to feel stale if it’s always in the same place, at the same time.

A great way to mix things up is to start your session in the middle of the day, in the middle of the kitchen, living room, or laundry room.

The mindset here is that your woman is so hot and sexy that you just can’t help yourself anymore.

She’s making you so hot and hard that you just need to take her now!

In the upright eagle position, she sits on a countertop, washing machine, or any other piece of furniture or appliance that has the right height.

Lift and spread her legs while you slide in between.

Remember, this isn’t the most stimulating position for your woman but it is highly arousing.

It’s the emotions that make it hot.

The fact that you can’t make it to the bedroom and that you just need to have her right then and there.

Of course you can also use this version to squat or get on your knees and go down on her.

Split Hog Eagle

In the spread eagle sex position, all 4 of your woman’s limbs are spread out wide.

The Hog tie position is different in that all 4 of her limbs are tied together.

In the split hog, her legs are spread while her arms are tied.

Tie her hands with rope, cuffs, or use the shirt trick I showed you above.

Alternatively you don’t even need to tie her hands, just pin them down with yours.

Remind her that she is yours and dominate her orgasms.

Conclusion

In this article we talked about why the spread eagle sex position is great for leading your woman with dominant sex.

By being dominant, you remove the burden of having to think, and you free your woman to focus solely on what she’s feeling.

This is why dominant men tend to give women the strongest orgasms.

Here’s the catch…

In order for you to dominate in bed, your woman must choose to submit.

She won’t submit if she thinks you’re going to abuse that power and do things solely for your pleasure.

She has to believe that her pleasure, desires, and orgasms are important to you.

I made a video to show you exactly how to peer inside a woman’s dirty mind and discover exactly what she wants and needs in bed to have the most pleasurable sexual experiences of her life.

Click here to watch the make her come first video and be the best lover she’s ever had.

How The Corkscrew Sex Position Turns Average Men Into Sex Gods

If you want your woman to see you as a sex god who satisfies every one of her desires, you need to start using the corkscrew sex position on a regular basis.

In the corkscrew, your woman lies on her back but her lower body is twisted to one side.

Her legs are folded at the waist and you kneel to enter her from behind.

Because of her “twisted” (screw like) position, you enter her at a unique angle and can hit some new territory of pleasure.

Since her legs are closed together, it makes for a tight fit.

Tighter for you.

More filling for her.

But that’s not why this position makes you a great lover.

To explain why this position is so powerful, we have to start with a few higher level sex strategies.

Stick with me for a minute while I explain and you’ll never be the same lover again.

One of The Key Elements To Satisfying All Your Woman’s Needs In Bed Is To Create Variety

Variety is the spice of life.

It’s also one of the key ingredients to a great sex life.

Even the best lover can become boring in bed if he doesn’t know how to give his woman a variety of sexual experiences.

When most guys hear the word variety, they immediately think of using different sex positions.

That’s why blogs like this one exist.

Switching up your repertoire of positions is a quick and easy way to mix things up and start turning around a boring sex life.

Using different positions can give you woman completely new sensations.

They can hit new pleasure spots she’s maybe never felt before.

And they might even be exactly what she’s missing if you’re not giving her the orgasms she desires and deserves.

But there’s another – even more powerful – reason why a variety of positions is so important.

Different Positions Create Different Emotions, And Emotional Variety Is What Women Crave Most

Some positions (such as missionary) are great for making love.

You’re face to face.

Your entire bodies are glued together.

You can feel each others heartbeats, warm skin, and breath.

Other positions (like doggystyle) make it easy for you to take charge.

Give your woman rough, hard sex.

And make her feel taken and ravished.

Some positions make her FEEL more submissive, sexy and wanted.

Others make her feel more connected, loving, and cared for.

Giving your woman a variety of sensations AND emotions is the trick.

Now, here’s how this might look in the real world.

The Best Lovers Use Both Short & Long Term Variety

If you’re in a long term relationship, it’s crucial you give your woman variety in the long term.

Make love to her sometimes. Other times have hard, dominant, rough sex.

Have sex at night before bed. And sometimes have sex in the middle of the day.

Get it on in the bedroom. Get it on in the kitchen or car.

These are all examples of long term variety that keep a womam craving sex as a relationship matures because she’s knows it’s a new and exciting thrill every time. It’s not gonna be the same ol routine again.

But another great way to make sure your woman can’t get enough is to create a variety of experiences and emotions in a single session.

Sometimes, start your session with slow love making and by the end, you’ve transitioned into rough, dominate fucking.

Sometimes you start in the kitchen, then make your way through the hallway, and finally end in the bedroom.

This is short term variety.

Short term variety is something that very few men ever use and it instantly sets you apart as a great lover who meets all her needs and never leaves her longing for something more.

Now here’s why the corkscrew sex position is so powerful for short term variety…

The Trick To Short Term Variety Is Smooth Transitions

When you’re making love, you don’t want to transition into rough sex by suddenly choking her, slapping her ass and fucking her hard.

It would break the mood in a way that just doesn’t feel natural.

Instead, you want to transition gradually.

You want to start slow (for example) and gradually get more passionate, rougher, and more dominant.

Side note: One of the reasons women love rough sex is because it makes them feel sexy and wanted.

It makes a woman feel like she sexy and makes you so hard that you’re barely able to control yourself.

On the other hand, women also enjoy slow love making because it makes them feel special, cared for, and loved.

So start by making love because she’s beautiful, you love her, and want to be close.

But as you start making love, you start getting harder and more turned on, to the point where you’re barely able to control yourself.

YOUR emotions have GRADUALLY shifted from loving her and wanting to be with her, to being so rock hard and feeling a deep desire to fuck her.

This “darker” arousal usually builds over time. It doesn’t just turn on like a light switch.

How To Use The Corkscrew For Mind-Blowing Transitions

The same way that some positions are better for love making while others are better for rough sex, some positions are great for transitioning between the two.

The corkscrew is one of those positions.

Here’s how you might use the corkscrew to transition from slow love-making position, to a rough sex position.

Start in a kneeling butterfly.

The butterfly position is great for giving g-spot orgasms or, if you don’t want to make her come just yet, you can use it to warm her g-spot up for a much more intense orgasm later on.

It’s also a relatively “romantic position” cause you can look your woman in the eyes, gently caress her body, while you hold onto her legs.

After warming her up with slow thrusts along her g-spot, keep one of her legs against your chest and spread the other, laying it down on the bed.

Keep penetrating her slowly in this version but gradually start to get a bit more passionate.

Moan a little more and let her know (with your sounds, words, and actions) that you’re getting more and more turned on.

Now take the leg that’s against your chest and put it down, resting on the other. This is the corkscrew sex position.

Again, turn up the arousal and dominance a bit more.

Grunt and moan from deep within your stomach.

Slap and squeeze her ass while letting her know how sexy it is and how much it’s turning you on.

Grab a boob, pinch a nipple or two, and if she’s into it, give her breast a little slap.

Remember, you’re starting to get much more turned on by this point and your actions are in sync.

Finally, flip her over onto her stomach into the prone bone position.

This is one of my favorite positions because it hits the g-spot directly and produces some incredibly powerful orgasms.

By this point your arousal is at a 10.

You might be pinning her arms down – which women LOVE during rough sex cause they can submit and feel your arousal.

Keep fucking her hard and deep until she comes.

If at any point you feel like you might come before you’re ready, or you just need a break, gradually slow down, pull out of her, and go down for a bit.

Go down in the forbidden fruit until you’re ready to get back on top.

But remember, she’s in a rough sex state so keep the emotions congruent.

Grab her hips – women love this cause they feel like you have total control over their body.

Slap her ass a bit and let her know how sexy it looks.

Once you’ve cooled down, get back on top and ride her to orgasm!

Remember, the corkscrew sex position puts her body in an unusual position where you’ll likely hit new pleasure spots inside of her.

You might be hitting pleasure spots she never even knew she had.

So pay attention to her feedback and make note of anything that really gets her going.

If you want to know exactly how to ready her body like a book (even if she doesn’t give any feedback at all), watch this video to learn my dirty-mind-reading technique.

Go Deeper Than Doggy With The Leapfrog Sex Position

The leapfrog sex position (AKA Face Down Ass Up) is the deeper, rougher cousin of doggystyle.

Women LOVE rough sex and doggystyle just as much as we do.

It’s primal.

It hits all the right spots.

It makes her feel needed, sexy, and taken.

Doggy checks all the boxes for hot, orgasmic sex.

But too much of anything can get boring… and that holds true for sex positions as well.

The leapfrog is a slight variation on the classic pose that gives variety in both position and sensation.

Think of the traditional doggy style only instead of being on all fours, your woman rests her head, arms, and chest on the bed.

It’s the face-down-ass-up version of doggystyle.

Her legs are spread wide while yours are in between hers… although you can switch to make her tighter or if your pelvis’ aren’t aligned.

Unlike traditional doggy, she doesn’t have to hold herself up with both hands. She’s free to reach underneath and rub her clit while you’re stimulating her insides.

Instead of hitting her g-spot, the leapfrog targets the lesser know (but highly orgasmic) posterior fornix!

It’s an area deep inside of her that isn’t stimulated often but can be responsible for some of the strongest orgasms a woman can have.

Doggy Is Painful For Some Women – Leapfrog Might Be The Solution

Some women can’t enjoy doggystyle because it’s painful. Depending on the reason, the leapfrog sex position might be the solution.

Here are the 2 main cause of painful doggy.

It hits her cervix.

A small percentage of women experience tremendous pleasure when you hit their cervix… but for the vast majority, it’s extremely painful.

By getting off her hands and onto her chest, it changes the angle of her vagina and you can avoid the cervix completely.

Air is entering her.

If you’re on the smaller side, air can enter her when you pull out and cause pain when pushing back is.

The trick to this is to use “tighter fitting” positions.

Switching from doggy to the leapfrog can do the trick.

If that doesn’t do it for her, try the closed leg leapfrog. Close her legs and place yours on the outside of hers.

Closed legs will make her feel even tighter, you feel bigger, and it’ll be less likely to let air make its way inside.

Reward And Encourage Submission

The leapfrog is a very vulnerable position for your woman.

She has little to no control.

Her ass and pussy are fully exposed for your inspection and potential judgement.

She can’t see what you’re doing (or about to do) and that can turn anticipation into anxiety if you don’t first…

Take the time to ease any insecurities she might have.

Tell her to get into position.

Lightly caress her butt cheeks with your fingertips.

Tell her how gorgeous her ass looks in this position.

PRO TIP: Compliments are much more believable and effective when you use specifics.

Saying “your ass looks great” is one thing. It’s nice to hear and she’ll appreciate it. But it can get stale and unbelievable.

Saying “your ass looks great in this position” is much more believable and hot to hear simply because it’s more specific. Even if she doesn’t like her ass, she thinks “Oh, but it looks better in this position.” And her subconscious allows her let go of any insecurities she might have so long as she stays in position.

It’s a dark part of human nature and psychology but we might as well use it to make her feel sexy and good about herself.

Now lightly trace your fingernails on her cheeks for a few seconds, then lift your hand and give her ass a nice smack.

The mismatch of sensations create a “super-sensation” that most women absolutely adore.

Take some time to go down on her while you continue lightly scratching her butt and thighs with your finger tips.

When you’re finally about to enter your goddess, make her whimper by gently swiping your length between her folds.

Press the tip of your hard-on against her opening a bit without going in. This is one of my favorite ways to make a woman soaking wet and begging you for it. It makes her imagine and crave you inside of her. Much like imagining a specific food when your hungry amplifies your desire for it.

The Leapfrog Sex Position Is For Hard Fucking, Not Lovemaking

The foreplay tips in the last section are great for getting a woman warmed up and eager for more.

But when it comes to penetration in the leapfrog sex position, don’t be so gentle.

Some positions are better suited for slow, romantic, lovemaking.

The leapfrog isn’t one of them.

If you try “making love” in this position, your woman will feel a lack of congruence and won’t be satisfied.

So save the love-making for another position.

Instead, ratchet-up the dominance.

Amplify her submission.

Make her feel taken and ravished.

Slap and grab her ass. If you did this during the warm up while telling her how sexy her ass looks, you can repeat the same move again during sex without saying a word and she’ll feel the same emotions when you gave the compliment.
Get a firm grip on her hips. Remember, even if you aren’t pulling her onto you, just the feel of your hands grasping her hips amplifies the “rough sex emotions” she needs in this type of position.
Hold, tie, or cuff her hands behind her back. Being physically constrained allows her to submit her body and focus on the sensations that lead her to orgasm.

How To Last Longer In Leapfrog & Other Dog-Like Positions

Some positions are notorious for making guys lose control quicker than others.

The leapfrog isn’t immune to this.

The 3 tips can help you last longer in many positions but especially the leapfrog.

Use a Standing variation

When you’re kneeling behind your woman, you need to use your hips to thrust. It engages your entire core and makes you more likely to come quick if you’re already prone to it.

By standing, you can thrust with your entire body. Use your legs and hips to rock your entire lower body and you’ll cut down the “stress” on your core that makes you come faster.

Pull her to you

Keep still while you grab onto her hips and pull her onto you. Or – even better – get your timing right and pull her while you thrust forward.

Again, it’ll help relax your core and as an added bonus, it’ll give her the extra hot and arousing sensation of being taken. Very powerful!

Stay deep and use shorter thrusts

Long thrusts that stimulate your entire shaft lead to premature orgasms. By shortening the length of your thrusts, you increase your staying power.

Go as deep as you can and only pull out half way before thrusting forward again.

You’ll last longer and she’ll get that deep, fulfilling pounding this position is intended for.

Try These Different Leapfrog Variations To Find The One That Blows Her Mind

I often say on this blog that it’s often not about what position you’re using, rather how you’re using it. Many women will LOVE a certain position with one guy but hate it with another. The reason is often due to the smallest, subtle differences, and the fact that the better lover takes the time to find her favorite. To master your woman’s unique preferences, watch this video.

Bound Leapfrog Position

We talked about using the leapfrog in a dominant way. The bound leapfrog is the superior version of this.

Use a spreader bar, necktie, handcuffs, or rope to tie her hands together in between her legs.

Instead of holding her hands behind her back (as shown above), tie them together UNDER her and in between her legs.

Other than focusing her attention on the pleasure you’re delivering, the only thing she’ll be able to do is rub herself if she chooses.

Standing Leapfrog

We covered this one above. It’s pretty straight forward. In this version you have your woman at the edge of the bed so that you can stand behind her instead of kneeling.

Again, if you struggle with premature ejaculation, this version will be best since you can thrust with your entire body rather than just your hips.

The Squatting Leapfrog AKA FDAU Bulldog

Instead of standing or kneeling, you squat down.

It’s just like the bulldog position only she’s in the face down ass up position.

Squatting will completely change the angle of pleasure and can make you go even deeper.

Obviously, you won’t be able to last as long in this version so try it out, gauge your woman’s reaction, and if she really likes it, save it for an explosive finish.

The Leg Up Leapfrog

Stand or kneel with one foot while lifting and bending the other at the knee.

This one creates the most drastic change in what she’ll feel.

Not only does it make you go extra deep, it also makes you hit at a slight side angle.

If your woman’s deep spot is off to one side – watch this video if you’re not sure – this is the version you’ll want to use.

It might take a minute to get your rhythm going but once you do, watch out!

IMPORTANT: Leapfrog After-Care

Again, the leapfrog sex position is best used during rough, dominant sex.

If you’re in a long term, committed relationship, it’s crucial that you finish a rough-sex session with proper after-care.

Feeling objectified and wanted for nothing but our bodies can be an incredible turn-on… DURING SEX.

But…

We also want to feel special, cared for, and loved.

If you just get up and leave immediately after rough sex, it will leave your woman feeling used.

Not good.

You MUST invest a little extra time after rough sex to make sure she knows you love her and don’t see her as just a sex object.

Lie her flat on her belly gently touch, kissing, and appreciating her entire body as she basks in her after orgasm glow.

Lightly scratch her butt and thighs.

Sprinkle in some kisses.

Slowly work your way up her back till you reach her neck.

Kiss her neck, whispering sweet nothings, and spending a few minutes holding her and letting her know that you love her and aren’t simply “done with her” now that you got your rocks off.

Being the best she’s ever had means satisfying the physical AND emotional parts of her.

This is true for every woman.

But HOW you do it changes from one woman to the next.

In this video I show you how to fine tune all your strategies and techniques in order to match your woman’s unique preferences and subtle differences.

When you fine tune your techniques to match all her unique differences, you truly satisfy every one of her needs and desires.

Watch this video to learn exactly how it’s done and make sure you’re giving her the best sex of her entire life!

#1 Most Dangerous Mistake Men Make In The Cowgirl Sex Position

According to some scientific studies, the cowgirl sex position is one of 2 most likely to lead women to penetration orgasms.

But even the best lovers, using the best positions, can make mistakes.

In fact, there’s one major mistake many men make in cowgirl that completely ruins a woman’s chance at reaching a climax.

On this page, you’re going to learn exactly what this costly mistake is, why we make it, and most important, what to do instead so that you can make your woman come every time.

Or more accurately, so that you don’t prevent your woman from making herself come on you.

But before we get to that…

Here’s how the cowgirl position works.

You lie on your back while your woman gets on top and rides you to bliss.

Like most sex position, there are many different variations of the cowgirl.

Which one you use is not a matter of what you’re in the mood for, rather what will lead your woman to orgasm.

Well get to that in a minute, but first…

Let’s get to the single most important thing you need to know about cowgirl, and virtually every woman on top position.

The Biggest Mistake Men Make In The Cowgirl Sex Position Is: Fucking From Below

Here’s the deal…

The type of penetration that makes men come, typically doesn’t do the job for women.

What’s needed for men to orgasm is a simple and consistent in and out motion.

For women, that motion doesn’t do much other than tease and eventually frustrate them.

Going straight in and out doesn’t make you rub against her clit, g-spot, or a-spot.

Unless you’re huge, she won’t feel much at all.

And if you are bigger than average, she’ll only feel a fraction of the pleasure she could.

When a woman gets on top to ride, her natural instinct will be to grind you.

Why?

Cause that’s the type of motion that makes her come.

The mistake so many men make is that once she starts grinding, we grab onto her and start fucking from the bottom.

We hold her in place and start pounding straight in and out.

Imagine how frustrating this is for women.

She gets on top and has full control.

She starts grinding in the way that feels incredible to her and will eventually bring her to orgasm.

But all of a sudden, the guys she’s on top of grabs her and starts penetrating in a completely different way.

A way that feels nowhere near as good as what she felt when she was in control.

How do you think that makes her feel?

She feels like he’s taking pleasure away from her. This breeds resentment.
He doesn’t understand what she wants and needs. This breeds a lack of trust.
She’s not getting the pleasure she knows is possible. This makes her feel frustrated.
She feels like he doesn’t care about pleasing her and is only using her for his pleasure.

Now think about it…

How likely do you think she is to want sex with him again.

In fact, you don’t have to imagine.

Take a look at this reddit user who posted about her frustration with guys who don’t let their woman ride.

And here’s another with some equally insightful responses from other women…

The bottom line is, when your woman gets on top, let her get off on you.

Keep your hips and pelvis still.

Now this does NOT mean you should play the role of a dead fish.

On the contrary.

Here’s What To Do In The Cowgirl Sex Position

Many women get insecure and nervous when on top.

Unlike the majority of positions, when she’s on top, she feels an added pressure to perform.

Add to this the fact that many women have never been able to find the motion that feels best for them.

Either she doesn’t know exactly what to try, or her past lovers were making the mistake we talked about earlier and didn’t allow her to try.

What you’re left with is a woman who doesn’t know exactly what to do and on top of that, she isn’t confident in her ability to do it without interference.

Your mission in cowgirl is twofold:

Allow and encourage her to discover what feels best
Reward her with positive reinforcement when she does so

When guys first hear me say “encourage her to discover what feels best”, they often think that just telling their woman “do whatever feels right to you” will do.

The problem is that she might not know what feels best or know how to figure it out.

Below, I’m going to show you what’s most likely to feel best to her and how to encourage her with your words as well as your actions.

Woven into each move, I’m going to give you some advanced techniques to reward her for doing so.

Here’s a hint: the most effective rewards have little to do with the words you use.

So let’s get to it.

Cowgirl Position for Clitoral Orgasms

Her position: She leans on your chest (as if she’s hugging you).

Ideal motion for her orgasm: A twerking motion that slides her clit up and down against your shaft and/or pubic bone.

Encourage her to find her bliss: It’s quite simple in this position. If she’s on her knees, there isn’t much she’ll be able to do other than twerk.

Reward her: Since your heads are so close together, you’re in the perfect position to use some dirty talk. Hold her close to you and tell her how much you love the way she moves her ass on you.

Cowgirl for Clitoris and A-Spot (AKA Deep-Spot) Stimulation

Her position: She gets upright with a slight lean and places her hands on your chest (as if giving cpr).

Ideal motion for her orgasm: Keeping you all the way inside while grinding herself back and forth, rubbing her clit against your pubic bone.

Encourage her to find her bliss: Again, if she’s on her knees, she should be able to figure out her ideal motion quite easily. If she doesn’t, put your hands on her hips and tilt them back and forth. Imagine grabbing a keyboard by the sides. Hold it straight up. Now tilt it slightly and then return to starting position. This is the motion you want to make.

Reward her: Once she nails the movement and is really enjoying it, know that she’s moving for her pleasure. Make her feel confident in her moves and get her to focus on her pleasure by telling her to. Say “You look so sexy the way you ride me. Use that cock, baby. Get that pleasure. Fuck yeah baby, get it!”

Cowgirl Sex For G-Spot Orgasms

Her position: She gets on top and leans back, putting her hands on your knees, thighs, or the bed.

Ideal motion for her orgasm: Imagine her staying completely still while tilting her pelvis up and down. Each time, she basically drops her g-spot on your tip.

Try this version lying down, and also try it sitting up in a couch or against the head of the bed. It’ll put your shaft at an angle and make g-spot stimulation even more dramatic.

Encourage her to find her bliss: When she’s on top, just tell her how sexy it would look if she leans back for a bit.

Reward her: Again, tell her how sexy she looks when she rides you. Moan, groan and let her know not just with your words, but also your sounds and facial expressions.

Keep in mind this position is tough and she likely wont be able to last very long.

If you’re close enough, try putting your arms around her and giving her that extra support to make her last a bit longer.

Cowgirl For Your Pleasure

Her position: She squats on top of you and bounces up and down on your cock.

Ideal motion: If she’s doing this version, it’s all about your pleasure. She’s going to be squatting up and down on your cock so she won’t get much in terms of physical pleasure but you will.

Just know that she’s unlikely to come in this version but if she keeps going long enough, you will.

If she’s already come in another version or position, this can be a fun way for you to finish.

The Betty Rocker

The betty rocker is a reverse cowgirl sex position which provides completely different types of stimulation.

Use the same principals of letting her find the ideal motion for her pleasure and use positive reinforcement.

The real key to making this position great for her is to make her feel confident about her ass.

Slap her it and let her know how sexy it looks.

Let her know how hard she’s making you.

Since she can’t see you or your facial expressions, get a little louder with your words and sounds.

How To Give A Woman Multiple Orgasms With The Anvil Sex Position

Of all the positions on this site, the anvil sex position hits our top 10 list because of how easy it can be used to string together a series of intense, multiple orgasms that reverberate throughout her entire body.

With just a few small tweaks, you can give her a clitoral, g-spot, and deep spot orgasm, one after the other.

There are 3 types of multiple orgasms:

Repetition Orgasms – This is when you give her the same type of orgasm over and over again.
Simultaneous Orgasms – This is when you give her different types of orgasms at the same time. It’s also the most difficult to achieve because your timing has to be just right.
Varied Orgasms – The easiest to give, this is when you give her different types of orgasms in one session.

On this page, you’re going to learn why it’s so easy to give a woman varied orgasms in the anvil position and exactly how you can do it tonight!

But first…

A WARNING On The Anvil Sex Position:

Before we get started, I have to warm you to START SLOW in this position.

The anvil position makes you go DEEP! Much deeper than most positions.

There are only 2 reasons some positions make you go deeper than others:

Nothing is in the way that prevents you from going balls deep (such as her ass stopping your hips and leaving out some of your length).
Her position “folds” her body in a way that compresses and shortens the distance of her vaginal canal.

When it comes to the anvil position, BOTH of these are true.

So even if you’re not very big, you will go very deep inside of her.

Sounds great (especially if you’re not very large) but the problem is that you might hit her cervix and that’s very painful for most women.

So when you first start using the anvil, GO SLOW!

Very slow.

Until you know that you’re not going to hurt her.

If you do hit her cervix, you might be too big for this position or… you can modify the position using some of the examples below until you find the one that’s just the right fit.

Now that you know what to watch out for, let’s move onto why you’re here.

How To Give Her Multiple Orgasms In The Anvil Sex Position

First things first.

The most extreme version of this position will require your woman to be a little flexible.

And as with anything requiring flexibility, you should never stretch cold muscles.

So make sure she’s warmed up first.

Before using the anvil, build up a sweat in another, less demanding sex position.

Ideally, you’ve already given her at least one orgasm before penetration.

Foreplay In The Anvil

Start by laying her down on her back and climb on top of her.

Pin her arms above her head with one hand and start kissing her.

Pinning her arms down is a sign of that you’re in control and lets her know that it’s okay to submit to you.

You’re going to need her total submission if you’re going to make her come multiple times.

Now gently pull her hair so that her head tilts to one side and kiss her neck on the other.

Work your way down by kissing her collarbone, breasts, belly, and pubic bone.

When you get to her vulva, skip over it.

Skip to her thighs.

Spread her legs a little and spend a bit of time on each of her inner thighs. This hot spot is one of the most sensitive and erotic erogenous zones on a woman’s body so take advantage.

Now get on your knees and lift one of her legs in the air.

Kiss and caress her ankle, calf, and thigh.

Repeat on the other leg.

The point here is to get her relaxed and turned on while her legs are up in the air and stretching.

Now hold both her legs in the air and switch back and forth between the two.

Work your way between her legs and use your mouth to warm her up and really get her craving more.

PRO TIP: Something that really helps to give you better access during oral is to put a pillow under her pelvis. It gives you a lot more access and will help with the penetration when you get to it. More on that below.

Go down on her for a bit.

Don’t make her come just yet. Instead, build up an orgasm and get her close.

ADVANCED: If you don’t know exactly how to bring her to the brink of orgasm without using your dick, watch this video now.

By this point she’ll be begging to feel you inside her.

Tease Penetration Before Giving It To Her

Free up one of your hands by using the other to hold both her feet together, or have her hold them.

Because of the pillow under her butt, her pelvis will be raised up in the air and should align with yours quite well.

Gently swipe the tip of yourself against her opening.

Swipe up and down.

Between her lips.

DO NOT ENTER HER YET.

Get your tip wet with her juices and use it to rub her clit.

Rub it up and down.

Side to side.

And in circles.

Now go back to gliding just your head in between her lips.

As she’s breathing heavy and likely begging for it… SLOWLY enter her.

Slowly enter her with the head of your cock, then slowly pull back out.

Do this a few times and go back to rubbing her clit in between.

This will drive her wild and get her throbbing to feel you inside.

Start thrusting just your tip into her again.

With every thrust, start to gradually go deeper until you’re going balls deep.

How To Give A Clitoral Orgasm In The Anvil Position

By now her clit is warmed up and ready tome come.

Now you’re going to give it to her in a way that’ll also “warm up” her g-spot and deep spot.

Lift her legs and spread them wide.

Get on your knees and lean over her.

Now here’s the trick…

Instead of thrusting in and out, stay all the way in and grind your pelvis against her clit and vulva.

It’s that simple!

Now just find what movement makes her come.

Up and down.

Side to side.

Or circles.

Also remember that the clitoral head is just one part of the clitoral anatomy.

The sensitive nerve endings in her clit that lead to orgasm run throughout her entire vulva.

So make sure you’re rubbing her clit and the entire region surrounding it.

If you did a good job of building up and teasing her clit with oral and rubbing your shaft against it, she will come FAST!

Now, it’s time to give her clit and legs a rest while you…

Give Her A G-Spot Orgasm In The Anvil Sex Position

Because the clitoris and g-spot and connected through the sensitive nerve endings that make women come, it’ll be easier to giver her a g-spot orgasm now that’s she’s already come with her clit.

For this version of the anvil, you’re going to get off of her and onto your knees.

Instead of pressing down on her legs (like you were in the previous version), get on your knees and let them rest them against your chest.

Remember that pillow you put under her butt during foreplay? This is where it’s really going to help.

By resting her butt on the pillow, her pelvis will tilt at an angle.

This way, when you thrust back and forth, you’ll slam straight into her g-spot.

You might need to add a second pillow, spread your legs wider, or a combination of the two in order to get the perfect angle.

Play around with the amount of tilt in her pelvis, and the height of your shaft to find her ideal.

The lower your pelvis is, the more upward your cock will go… aiming right at her g-spot.

Once you do, you’ll hit her g-spot with ease.

Finish Her Off With A Deep Spot Orgasm In The Anvil Sex Position

And now for the grand finale!

Get on top of her in a plank or push-up position and instead of grinding, thrust straight up and down.

The trick here is to find out how aligned your heads should be.

Should your head be closer to the wall (or headboard) than hers, should you both be the same distance, or should you be further away?

Depending on who’s closer to the head of the bed, the angle of penetration will change drastically for her.

As with everything related to sex and orgasms, not 2 women are the same.

Depending on the size of your dick, her anatomy, your body sizes, one of these variations will work better than the others for her.

Find the one that hits her deep spot best and you’ll thrust straight into it, giving her the deepest, and most powerful orgasm possible!

A truly epic finish to your 3 piece orgasm.

Conclusion:

Throughout this article, I’ve encouraged you to try many different techniques, angles, and movements.

That’s because no 2 women are exactly the same.

The real “trick” to giving a woman the best orgasms of her life lies in adapting to her unique sensitivities and preferences.

Until now, there hasn’t been a reliable way to do it.

But that’s exactly what I want to show you.

It’s simple and scientifically proven.

It’s called Adaptive Orgasmic Response and it’s the core of my Make Her Come First Formula.

Click Here and Watch the Make Her Come First Video Now!

Give Her ADDICTIVE Orgasms with the Spooning Sex Position?

Whether your woman is wiggling her butt against you during a movie, or you wanna get rid of some morning wood, the spooning sex position is great for giving “lazy” g-spot orgasms.

It’s really simple.

You both lay down on your sides with you behind her.

Enter her from behind, and voila!

Master this position and you’ll not only give her a strong finish, you’ll also make her feel more cared for and loved than she’s ever felt before.

Science has shown that cuddling is so powerful it floods the brain with oxytocin (also know as “the love chemical”).

It’s the literal chemical that makes us feel loved.

Also, because of the angle you’re going to learn on this page, you’re going to be rubbing against the entire length of her g-spot, rather that just poking it on and off.

Combine these 2 factors together and this position is the perfect some seriously intoxicating orgasms.

Challenges of the Spooning Sex Position

It’s not all roses and orgasms.

It seems like a simple position, but it can actually be a little tricky to get into if your bodies don’t line up together just right.

If things don’t line up just right, try putting a small pillow or folded blanket under her hips to raise them to the perfect height.

If she has a big butt or you have a smaller cock, you won’t get very far, if you enter her at all.

Fix this by create distance between your upper bodies.

By bending forward at her waist, the distance between your woman’s ass cheeks and pussy shortens and it takes less length to enter her.

Think of it as doggy style on your sides.

If she’s too tight for you to enter, create distance between her legs.

Lift and hold her upper leg up in the air.

Have her guide your erection into her.

Try thrusting in this position for a minute to see how she likes it but beware it’ll get tiring for both of you real quick!

If she doesn’t get much from it, put her leg back down.

If she responds well to it, have her bend her knee and place the sole of that foot flat on the bed.

To really hit her g-spot, try having her bend her legs at the waist.

This puts her pelvis at an angle where you can easily thrust into her g-spot.

If she needs g-spot stimulation to come, this is likely the version for her.

Warm Her Up – The First Step Of Spooning

The spooning sex position is often used as first position cause it happens “by accident” early in the morning or while snuggling up on the couch.

The same way you should never work out cold muscles early in the morning with stretching, make sure you warm your woman up before penetration.

As always, you want to “warm her up” in 2 realms.

Warm Her Up Physically.

This one is exactly what you think.

Get her blood heading south before penetration.

Use you hand to play with her nipples and breasts.

Move down towards her crotch.

Don’t touch her clit directly until you know she’s ready for it.

Lift her upper leg over yours and place you hand on her vulva.

Split your index and middle fingers and place them on her outer lips.

Gently rub them up and down.

This simple move is a guaranteed way to send blood rushing to her genitals and get her roaring to go.

Warm Her Up Emotionally.

Feeling your skin pressed against hers while you hold her creates the light, loving emotions that makes her feel safe, special and cared for.

Feeling your throbbing erection between her butt cheeks, gives her the dark emotions of feeling wanted, sexy, and erotically powerful.

Play up both types of emotions.

Let her feel your erection and arousal rise and get more powerful.

When you’re just starting out, gently stroke her body with your finger tips and whisper sweet nothing into her ear.

As you get harder and more aroused, get a little rougher.

Start to grab her boobs.

Put your hand around her neck and give it a gentle squeeze.

Go from gently massing her outer pussy lips with your fingers, to sliding your stiff cock between her lips.

Go from talking sweet to talking dirty.

The key here is to make sure that your actions are congruent with HER level of arousal.

Don’t start choking her and talking nasty when she’s still dry.

Keep everything congruent!

How To Penetrate In The Spooning Sex Position

Because your bodies are so close together, you don’t have a great deal of distance to work with.

That’s ok.

In fact, it’s a good thing cause it’s an opportunity to see just how powerfully your woman responds to short, deep thrusting.

See us guys typically come by moving all the way in and almost all the way back out during penetration.

But unless you’ve got a magic dick, that’s just not the kind of penetration that makes women come.

Women come from entering her at unique angles and rubbing against the right spots.

By staying deep inside of her and only pulling out slightly before thrusting back in, you create a powerful vibrating sensation deep inside of her.

If you’re using one of the above versions that targets her g-spot, you’ll be rubbing against the her g-spot the entire time you’re inside her instead of just poking it on and off.

Transition From Spooning Her G-spot To Total G-Spot Domination

If you’re a member of the All Start Email List and read this blog regularly, then you’ve likely heard me talk about the importance of switching positions smoothly.

Fumbling around and clanking heads with your woman when switching positions is a massive mood killer.

Imagine you spent the last 20 minutes thrusting into her g-spot and building her orgasm, only to drop her off the bed while trying to switch into her favorite position.

Total mood killer.

Her arousal drops.

And now you’ve got to start building her up again from the beginning.

The way to keep building your woman’s orgasms during multiple position sex is to make sure you switch positions as smoothly and naturally as possible.

How?

By making one small move at a time.

At this point, you’ve been using the spooning sex position to consistently rub your orgasm giver against her g-spot.

If she hasn’t come yet, she’s likely very close.

Some women just can’t come in certain positions and switching might be exactly what she needs to go over the edge.

Pull out of her, get on your knees and move her upper leg forward.

Transition # 1 The Screw Position

This position not only gets you up and gives you more range in your thrusts, it’s also just one simple transition for her.

It also reminds her that you’re in control because of how easily you change her position with one simple move of her leg.

Give her a couple of minutes in this position so she can get used to it.

Start getting a little rougher and more aggressive.

Push her head down into the bed.

Moan and groan a little louder.

Press down on her hips to let her feel how much she’s turning you on.

Once you’re ready for the final transition, pull out of her and put a pillow on the bed beside her pelvis.

Grab her upper arm and pull it in the direction needed to land her face down.

Make sure her pelvis is on the pillow. It’ll tilt her in a the perfect angle for what’s to come.

If you need to, straighten out her legs so that she’s flat on her tummy, ass side up.

Take a minute to admire her ass.

Give it a slap.

Tell her how sexy it is.

Spread her legs and go down on her for a bit.

It’s called

The Forbidden Fruit Position

Not only does this let you regain your composure (if you need to), it also amplifies her emotions.

It makes her feel more wanted and sexy,

It gives her confidence in her body, reminding her just how sexy you think her ass and pussy are.

Once your appetite is satiated, put her legs together, straddle her thighs and enter her from behind.

Welcome to the wonderful world of

Final Transition The Prone Bone Position.

This is one of the best positions for g-spot orgasms and if you haven’t tried it yet, you absolutely need to asap!

2 things make this position so powerful.

First, the pillow lifts her pelvis and puts her g-spot in the perfect position.

Second, get as high up as you can (meaning your head will be higher than hers) and thrust DOWN.

Do this and once again, you’ll pound straight into her g-spot!

Finally, if you want to make sure you blow her mind and give her the best sex of her life…

Make her come BEFORE sex to increase her chances of coming again DURING sex

To really blow her mind in any sex position, your highest leverage point is to make her come before penetration.

Not only do you increase the chances she comes again (during sex) you also increase the power of that second orgasm.

Every orgasm you give a woman builds on the last and becomes more powerful and pleasurable.

Giving her at least one orgasm BEFORE sex is the single biggest difference between a great session and one that leaves her out of breath, unable to speak, and wondering “what the hell just happened!”

The trick is to find out what gives your woman the best orgasms.

Some women come hardest from oral.

Others prefer having their clit rubbed.

Some won’t come unless you rub their g-spot.

Finding out what moves give your woman the best orgasms is the greatest homework assignment and best investment you can make in your sex life.

Watch this video to learn the secrets of Adaptive Orgasmic Response and guarantee your woman has the best orgasms of her life!

The Butterfly Sex Position Gives Big D Skills To Smaller Sized Guys

If you’re average or slightly below in size, you need to try the butterfly sex position.

It might just be one of the best positions for giving women powerful g-spot orgasms with and average (or slightly smaller) tool.

On this page you’ll discover exactly why it works so well and how you can use it to give her one of the strongest orgasms of her life… regardless of your size.

First, let’s cover the basics.

To get into the butterfly, your woman lies down at the edge of a bed, table, or counter top.

You stand in front of her, lift her legs and rest them against your shoulders.

Grab her butt with your hands and lift her slightly off the surface. This is the real magic to this position. More on why in a minute.

The challenge with this position is finding a surface that’s the perfect height.

If the surface is just a bit too high, you can spread your legs to lower yourself a bit. If your working surface is low enough, you can kneel to get the right height.

Why The Butterfly Sex Position Is A Secret Weapon For Smaller Guys

First of all, she gets to relax in a comfortable position which is required if she’s going to come.

It’s also fairly easy for you. No complicated or strenuous position to hold and it doesn’t require you to use much strength.

All in all, it’s a comfortable and easy position on both of you.

But here’s where this position really shines.

By lifting her core in the air, you tilt her pelvis.

Without this angle, you’ll thrust straight in and out of her without really touching her g-spot at all, unless you’re well hung.

By tilting her pelvis, you create an angle that makes it easy for you to thrust straight into her g-spot.

Pelvic Tilt — By lifting her butt (even just a tiny bit) you tilt the angle of penetration and hit her g-spot directly!

This slight shift in her position turns you into an instant stud that easily hits her g-spot without needing a huge dick and with no special moves or tricks.

Add to this the fact that her body is completely relaxed while she can look you in the eyes and you’ve got the perfect recipe for a powerful g-spot orgasm.

You might even make her squirt so have some towels nearby.

Here’s How To Blow Her Mind In The Butterfly Position

The butterfly is great for a lunchtime quickie on the dinning room table, but it’s also a great finishing move because it makes her come so hard.

So sometimes, save it as your finishing move.

As she’s lying on the bed, put your hand on her hips and pull her to the edge.

In Jiu Jitsu, controlling the hips of your opponent is essential.

When you control the hips, you control the body.

When you grab your woman by the hips and pull on them, she feels the control you have over her body.

Consciously or not, she thinks “if he can control my body, he can control my orgasms”.

Now that she’s in the right spot and willing to submit because you know how to control her body, grab her ankles and lift her legs up in the air.

Kiss the back of her calves and work your way down.

Tell her to hold her legs high and wide as you get down to your knees.

Now kiss, lick, and tease the back of her thighs as you work your way closer to her pussy.

Back off a bit and go back to her legs to create tension and desire.

Warm Her Pussy Up Before You Make Her Come

Using your thumb and index finger, pinch her outer pussy lips together.

What you’re doing is pinching her clit INDIRECTLY, through the skin of her lips.

Now gently start stroke her clit, as if it were a tiny dick.

This massages her clit indirectly which is key because she might not be warmed up enough for direct contact yet. If she is, you’ll just get her more amped and rearing to go.

Once she’s aching for more, slowly start to lick the hood of her clit. Again, don’t make direct contact. Just the hood.

When she’s ready for direct contact, start with one slow lick directly on her clit and pay attention to her response.

If it’s positive, keep going.

Of not, go back to playing with her indirectly until she’s ready.

Use her favorite oral technique to give her a clitoral orgasm.

Once she comes, give her a minute to cool down.

Tell her how sexy she looks when she comes.

Let her know how delicious she tastes.

Kiss and stroke her legs.

Stand Up, Grab Her Butt, And Get Into The Butterfly Sex Position

Since you just gave her a clitoral orgasm, her clit will be too sensitive to touch.

Her g-spot however, will be swollen and aching to feel you.

Rub your tip up and down against her opening for a few 10 – 20 seconds to build her desire.

Slowly enter just your tip inside of her.

Now pull it back out.

Do this a few times.

This will get her soaking wet and craving to feel all of you.

With every stroke, go just a bit deeper.

Start slow like this and build it up faster, harder, and more passionately.

Remember, the real trick to this position is the angle of her hips.

If you don’t want to hold her up anymore, put a pillow under her pelvis.

Now you’re free to pin her arms down, or pinch, twist, and pull her nipples… if she’s into it.

If ever you feel yourself getting close to coming before you’re ready, just pull out and go down on her again.

Try The Crossed Butterfly

As with every position, you wanna try different variations to find out which one works best for your woman.

A popular twist on the butterfly is to cross her legs so they make an X.

It tightens her up and make you feel bigger.

But remember, contrary to popular belief, bigger isn’t always better.

So try them both but read her feedback and don’t assume she’ll like one better than the other.

If the crossed version feels too tight, you can also try:

The One Sided Butterfly Sex Position:

Instead of crossing her legs, close them together and put them over the same shoulder.

This will make her tighter but not as tight as the X version.

This one also makes it easy for you to hold both her legs in place with one hand.

Now the other is free to roam.

Use it to play with her breasts, grab her neck, or hold one of her arms down.

Finally, another version of the butterfly that creates a completely unique sensation for her is:

The Curled Butterfly Position

Instead of having her legs straight up and against your chest, this version has her legs curled.

Fold her legs up towards her head and bend them at the knees so she can rest her feet on your chest.

This one folds her body in such a way that you might not even need to extra elevation of the pillow or your hands. Again, test out all versions to find her favorite.

Increase Her Odds Of Orgasm In The Butterfly Sex Position

Without question, the butterfly is one of the best positions for giving women g-spot orgasms… especially if you’re average or a little below in size.

That said, there is one simple strategy you can use to increase your odds of making her come.

Earlier, we talked about switching between oral and penetration in this position.

But do you know what type of oral works best for your woman?

Some like circular licks to the clit while others like it up and down.

Some get more pleasure when you suck on their clit.

Some women need you to finger them during oral in order to have the strongest orgasm.

If you’re wasting your time on a technique that doesn’t make her come, it doesn’t matter how good you are at it.

She won’t come.

If she does, it’ll be a weak orgasm compared to her potential.

To make sure you give your woman the most pleasurable and powerful orgasms possible, you need to adapt to her unique sensitivities and preferences.

Watch this video to Make Sure She Comes Every Time!

Do NOT Let Her Come In The Zombie Sex Position. Do This Instead…

The zombie sex position is what you get when mixing the 69 position with a downward dog yoga pose.

You sit with your feet flat on the floor while your woman stands with her ass in your face.

She bends over at the waist and puts her hands on the floor.

Her head is in position to take you in her mouth while you take her in yours.

She does need to be a bit flexible to pull this off.

If she’s not quite able to reach full zombie, she can bend her knees, you can lean back, or you can do a combination of both.

leaning zombie — Zombie position with the guy leaning back slightly.

Do NOT Try To Make Her Come In The Zombie Sex Position

I know this sounds odd coming from a blog always preaches the magnitude of making women come first, but here’s the deal…

It’s a very difficult position for her to climax in. If she does come, it’ll likely be a very weak orgasm.

She’s got to focus on holding a somewhat difficult position. This makes is harder for her to focus on the pleasure that leads her to orgasm.
Her pussy and ass are completely exposed to you. While we men love it, it’s often a source of high insecurity and anxiety for many women.
She won’t be able to give the best blowjob in this position so she won’t be feeling very confident.

All these things together make it highly unlikely she will orgasm in this position, even if you’re using the perfect technique.

Instead, use the zombie to prep her for an incredible orgasm.

Use this position to turn her on and warm her up for what’s to come.

Naturally, she’s going to be stretching which is always recommended before any intense physical activity.

Here’s how you can stretch and warm up her emotions, arousal, and orgasms:

Arouse Her Emotions

As I said before, having her pussy and ass so exposed can make her self conscious. If she has any insecurities about her naughty bits (like many women do), she’s going to need some positive reassurance in order to relax and get turned on.

Use this opportunity to make her feel confident and sexy.

Compliment her.

Tell her how beautiful her ass is.

Let her know how delicious she tastes.

Make sure she knows that you’re incredibly turned on by having her business all up in your face.

Don’t just use your words.

Non-verbal communication is just as (if not more) effective.

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Moan and groan.

Let her hear how aroused you are through non-verbal communication and she will get turned on as well.

Reframe Her Struggle Into Desire

Once again, unless she’s a high level yogi or performs in the Cirque Du Soleil, it going to be tough to give you a show stopping blowjob.

She’ll be to focused on making sure she doesn’t fall over.

So don’t expect a great blowjob.

Also, don’t lie and tell her she’s giving you a great blowjob. She knows she isn’t and you’ll only reduce her trust. You’ll also condition her to give bad oral.

Instead, reframe her struggle to give you great head as a strong desire to give you great head.

When she reaches for your cock and struggles to take it in, say something like “You really want that cock don’t you?”

Now, instead of focusing on how she’s having a hard time and unable to please you, she’s focused on how much she wants to please you and take you in her mouth.

It’s a subtle but highly powerful difference.

Tickle Her Erogenous Zones

The most obvious target for your hands in the zombie sex position is her ass.

Grab, slap and caress her ass to increase physical and emotional pleasure.

Remember how we said that relieving her anxiety by complimenting her ass is crucial. Massaging, grabbing and slapping it while you deliver those compliments has double the effectiveness.

But one of the most powerful erogenous zones that many guys ignore, is the insides of her knees.

Anywhere the human body has folds, such as insides of knees and elbows, are extremely sensitive and very powerful erogenous zones.

Try this on yourself right now.

Using just the very tips of your fingers, drag them lightly across the inside of your arm.

Now, keep going until you reach the inside fold of your elbow.

Notice how much more sensitive it is.

The same thing is true in the folds of our knees.

Take a few seconds to drag your fingertips across the entire bottom of her legs. Slow down and spend a little extra time when you get to the insides of her knees.

Do this while you’re moaning with her in your mouth, and you’ll get her focused on all the pleasurable sensations you’re giving her body.

Prep Her Clit For An Intense Orgasm

Again, odds are she won’t come while in the zombie sex position.

So use this time to build an orgasm that you can deliver after switching into your next position.

When most guys give their woman oral, they go straight for the clit.

But you know better.

Rather than rushing right to the goods and overstimulating her, use indirect stimulation to make her crave clitoral contact before you give it to her.

Swipe the tips of your index and middle fingers between the folds of her lips.

Avoid touching her clit directly.

As she gets more aroused, use a little more pressure when you get to the clitoral hood.

Now, place the insides of your index and middle fingers on each side of her clit.

Squeeze a little and move your hand up and down.

It’ll feel like you’re masturbating her clit and will get her riled up like nothing else.

Now use a precise, pointed tongue tip to lick on her clitoral hood.

Avoid making direct contact with the clit.

Pleasuring her clit indirectly like this will increase blood flow and get her ready for direct stimulation without overstimulating her.

Once she’s ready for more, start mixing in random slow, full licks with a flat tongue.

Don’t overdo this.

Remember, your goal in this position is to get her wet and wanting more.

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2 Keys To Blow Her Mind In The Pearly Gates Sex Position

The pearly gates sex position gives your woman the control of cowgirl, with the closeness of missionary.

It might look difficult and not worth the effort but enough women swear by it that it’s definitely worth a try, at least once.

Think of it like spooning, while facing the ceiling.

Lie flat on your back, lift and spread your legs, bending them at the knees and placing the souls of your feet flat on the bed.

She gets on top with her legs spread and bent with souls on the bed for balance.

It’s a position that offers g-spot and p-spot stimulation.

If she’s not completely comfortable being exposed to you or letting you watch as she plays with herself, the pearly gates allows her to do so without you seeing. It’ll increase her comfort gradually, which is key.

Many women say this position makes them squirt quite easily. If she’s a squirter, it’s all the more reason to give this one a shot.

As mentioned, her balance is key in this one. By keeping your legs spread and grounded, she has a solid foundation to lie on.

To increase her balance, she should spread her legs and place them on the ground as well. She can also stretch her arms out to her sides and put her hands on the bed.

2 Secrets To Mastering The Pearly Gates Sex Position

There’s really 2 keys to making this position incredible for her.

Let her do the thrusting.

You can thrust from the bottom and some women will like it, most don’t.

Why?

Cause she knows the best way to move in order to git her O spot. She will instinctively move in the right way. She might grind, gyrate, pump up and down, or one of many other options.

If you start taking control from the bottom, you don’t let her find her rhythm.

So let her do her thing and instead of trying to fuck from below, focus on how you…

Use your hands.

Sounds simple but this really is the key to making this position mind-melting for her.

You’ve got full access to all her naughty bits. And it’s coming from an unconventional angle.

It’s a totally different sensation.

Play with her boobs.

Put your hand around her neck.

Rub her clit. (She can even stop thrusting for a bit and stay still while you rub her to orgasm!)

Smack her ass from the sides.

If you are doing the thrusting, grab onto her hips. It’ll make her subconscious flex her vaginal muscles and come even harder!

Grab a handful of hair and pull her head to one side (carefully of course). Kiss and nibble her neck.

Silence Is Death In This Position

Silent sex is always awkward, but when your mouth is right by her ear, it becomes even more noticeable and important.

So get close up to her ear and talk to her.

Moan and groan to let her hear your excitement.

Breathe naturally and let your mouth make whatever noises feel natural.

Make noises that let her know how much she’s turning you on.

Variations of the Pearly Gates

As with all positions, you’ll want to try out slightly different tweaks to find out what works best for you.

Remember, not all women are the same and you need to split test to get the best results.

Here are a few versions worth trying.

Test legs spread wide vs tight.

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If her legs are spread wide, you’ll go deeper inside of her.

As guys, we tend to assume this is best but it doesn’t always hit that perfect o-spot, especially if you’re bigger than average.

By spreading your legs and having hers closer together, she will feel tighter and you’ll feel fuller inside of her. Apart from losing a bit of depth, she’ll also have less balance. Keep this in mind and make sure she doesn’t tumble over.

If her legs spread wide works best, the next question is does she prefer her legs spread wider than yours (on the outside), or less (on the inside)?

Kneeling Gates

This is another version that looks hard and not worth the effort at first glance but once again, many women swear by this tweak so it just might be worth trying.

Personally, I don’t bother with this version unless she initiates it.

Arched Gates

Here she bends her legs fully, plants her feet flat on the floor and uses her leg muscles to hold her lower body.

While resting her upper body on top of you, she can grind away while you lay back and enjoy.

She’ll have the most control over movement and motion.

Just know that she’ll get tried quickly here and keep an eye out for cues so that you’re ready to switch it up.

Transitioning in and out of The Pearly Gates Sex Position

It’s highly unlikely that your woman will just tell you to lie down and then get on top in the pearly gates.

This is a position that’s typically transitioned into from other positions.

Also remember that how you change positions will determine if you come across as smooth and natural in bed.

Here are a few of the best transitions for the pearly gates.

Split Sinner

This one could have been put under a variation but it is a transition if you’re feeling extra adventurous and want to try the full nelson.

From the basic version, just lift her legs a bit and get a hold of them.

She won’t be able to do any thrusting here so that’s going to be on you.

Spooning Sex Position

I started this article by telling you how the pearly gates is like spooning on your back.

All you have to do is tilt your body to a side and she’ll fall over in a spoon position.

Couldn’t be easier.

This is also the first step if you’re trying to transition into one of the all time greatest positions, the prone bone.

Give her a bit of slower, love-making in the spoon first, then flip her all the way over to drill her hard in the prone bone!

Piledriver Position & The Secret to Giving DEEP Fornix Orgasms

You’ve likely seen the Piledriver position (AKA Butter Churner) in porn.

It makes for a great view. The woman is fully exposed and the penetration is easily visible.

In the real world, this position isn’t so popular.

It’s tough on the guys legs.

It’s uncomfortable for her (unless she’s a yoga junkie) and might even be impossible to get in without the flexibility.

And it’s more prone to injury than other positions.

So why bother? Cause you can go deep!

It allows for vaginal and anal penetration.

If you’re doing anal, get a toy in her pussy and give her that double stuffing!

This position is also incredibly male dominant so if your women likes being submissive (like the vast majority do), the thrill of this position might be worth giving it a try at least once.

Because her head is lower than her heart, blood will also rush to her brain giving her the added sensation of a “head rush”.

Here’s how to do the PileDriver Sex Position:

She lies on her back and lifts her legs towards her head.

She keeps going until her butt raises up off the floor.

If she’s flexible enough, her feet will touch the floor on each side of her head.

She’s essentially getting into a yoga plow pose.

You then stand on top and squat down into her.

Pile Driver Injury Warning:

One of the challenges with the pile driver is that it can put serious strain on your penile suspensory ligament (PSL).

What the hell is that? Imagine bending an erection all the way back, Ouch!

The solve for this is to lean forward. The more you learn, the less pressure you’ll feel on the ligament.

By leaning forward, you can also hold onto your woman’s ankles and help her stay in position.

Just make sure you’re not pushing too far.

Start Slow and Progress:

First things first, make sure she’s warmed up first.

Use a position like the Valedictorian first and press down on her legs to stretch them a bit.

Once she’s stretched, get her into position and go down on her first.

Gauge her response and if she’s comfortable and responds well, move into penetration.

Don’t start with the full pile driver.

Try the quarter version where her body is only slightly folded and feet don’t fully touch the ground.

Make it more comfortable by putting some pillows under her lower back.

If she continues to respond well, slowly push down on her legs to go even further.

Make sure you’re getting feedback and never push her past her limit!

A simple tip that makes this position much easier and more comfortable for a lot of women is to do it against a piece of furniture like the headboard of a bed of back of a couch.

With the extra help, she doesn’t have to focus on holding the position.

Lean forward to grab her ankles and she it’ll be even easier for her.

Modified Versions of The Piledriver Sex Position

Once you’ve tried the position and she digs it, try a few variations to see what hit the spot best.

Reverse Pile Driver Position:

Same as the regular pose except that you’re facing the other way.

It’s not as hot because you’re not able to oogle each other but it’ll make you hit the other side of her insides.

Make sure you get your feedback and decide if it’s worth that trade-off.

Tighter Pile Driver:

Instead of having her feet on each side of her head, both are on the same side.

The real benefit here is that it makes her much more tight.

So not only will you dive deep inside her, it’ll also feel like your wider too!

Sideways PileDriver:

Some women get the most pleasure from that slightly angled stimulation.

If that’s your woman, try out this version.

You’ll hit a completely different spot inside of her that might just be the missing ingredient to her orgasm.

Try both sides to see which on works best.

Try leaning forward and back to make sure you test every inch of her insides!

What Version Makes Her Come?

The piledriver can be lots of fun with the right girl… but it’s not a great position for giving orgasms.

There are tons of great positions that increase the woman’s chance at orgasm.

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