Youâve probably heard that oral sex is the easiest way to get a woman off, but if youâre struggling to make it work for you woman, the kivin method might be exactly what you need.
Traditional cunnilingus positions only deliver a fraction of pleasure potential and often to the wrong place. The kivin method provides way more pleasure and does so exactly where itâs needed, resulting in much stronger and quicker orgasms.
What is the kivin method?
The kivin method is more of a position than a technique. Hereâs how it works.
Like usual, your woman lies on her back, legs spread. But instead of lying on your stomach and coming straight on from in between her legs, you come in from the side. Hereâs what it looks like:
Now, when you lick up and down, itâs going to stimulate her side to side instead of up and down. It might not seem like it at first, but this is a total game changer.
Hereâs why:
Your tongue makes contact with much more of the clit at once. It takes a lot less time to cover the entire clit and make its way back. Take a look and both these animations. Imagine the blue line is your tongue making its way up and down. Notice how long it takes to cover the entire clit in the first version and how quickly you engage the entire clit in the second. A lot more pleasure, faster.
All this extra pleasure is only delivered where itâs welcome so you donât overstimulate her. Until your woman is really aroused, the clitoral head is often too sensitive for direct contact. Traditional oral ignores this by licking up and down, head to shaft. This can deliver short bursts of pleasure interspersed with shorter hits of too much sensitivity. Not good. By going sideways, you can ignore the head and focus only on the shaft until her arousal is up and her clitoral head is eager for action. Then you can move over towards the head and include it in your play to provide direct stimulation to both parts instead of just one at a time.
You can add labia licks too! The labia (aka outer lips) are the female equivalent of the male testicles. Not knowing this, most guys completely ignore them. When you start licking your girl kivin style, you can send your tongue a little further with every stroke, including her labia in the fun.
Easier access for your hands. In the old school (between both legs) position, incorporating your hands can be a challenge. Your chin is in the way on the bottom, and playing on top just requires a odd and uncomfortable placement for you hands. But kivin makes hand play easy. When performing sideways oral, both sides are unobstructed and easy to access.
Many women report cumming much faster and easier when introduced to the kivin.
Take reddit user PokerBabe25 for example.
In this post about the kivin, she expresses her frustration in not making her wife cum from cunnilingus. ‘I’ve always enjoyed performing oral sex on my partners, often with “good results” but with my wife my usual techniques almost never bring her completely to orgasm. She gets very close, but I could barely ever get her there.’
Before finding kivin, she poured in tons of effort while falling short to deliver: ‘I often go 15-20 minutes and have her teetering on the edge without managing to get her to come.’
After a bit of tweaking with the kivin method: ‘She came within about 5 minutes of me finding the rhythm and best hand positon! This was definitely a big change’
With results like that, the kivin is a must try!
Is the Kivin Method guaranteed to work?
Maybe, with some women. For others, no. Itâs such a radically different experience for a woman that you just need to try it. It can be the difference between giving her light, playful orgasms that âfeel goodâ vs earth shattering eruptions of bliss that literally change her life forever. So for gods sake, try it!
How can you tell if your woman likes it more? Well relying solely on your girls feedback is not always the best move. She might bend the truth to spare your feelings or she might not know that more pleasure is possible. While you should absolutely encourage feedback, you want to learn the pleasure signals that do not lie. The physical cues she canât control. In the make her come first formula, you learn all these unconscious âtellsâ but for now, here is one of the easiest to use in the kivin method.
Place your thumbpad or finger tip on her taint (the area right between her vaginal opening and anus.) As she approaches orgasm, her taint will produce involuntary contractions. In other words, youâll feel it pulsate. She canât fake this. Once youâve done this a few times, youâll also start to notice some other tells she does naturally when nearing her peak. Maybe her eyes roll back in some unique way or her lips do something funny. Tuck that nugget of info in your memory to read her orgasm next time you donât have a finer on her taint.
Conclusion:
The kivin method will either prove to be the best way to go down on your girl or not. Either way, you owe it to yourself to try it out. It just might have the biggest impact on your sex life of anything you ever do.
When youâre ready to master every aspect of going down, check out the make her come first formula and give your girl the best oral of her life, guaranteed!
If you lean over her in a pushup position, itâll feel completely different from being upright. Try both and see what she responds to best. Lean back a little or twisting your core to one side vs the other. Test a slight shift in her angle. Lying perfectly on her side or mid way between her side and on her butt can make all the difference. The slightest shift in your positions can be the difference between âI was closeâ and âOMG!! No one has ever made me come so hard!â
One of the great benefits you get from splitting the bamboo is the easy access. You both have plenty of access to all her naughty bits with plenty of room to play.
