The side straddle sex position is one of the most important in a great lovers sexual arsenal.
Not only does it give unusually unique and pleasurable sensations for your woman, it also creates one of the most important elements of a satisfying romp… smooth transitions.
In this article you’ll learn:
- Why “transition positions” are such a key ingredient to being an amazing lover… and why the side straddle is one of these key positions.
- How the side straddle automatically prevents one of the most common penetration mistakes men make.
- How to use the side straddle to give your woman one of the most pleasurable, exciting, and orgasmic experiences of her entire life.
First, let’s take a look at…
How To Get Into The Side Straddle Sex Position
Since she’s on her side while you’re on top, it makes you enter her at a very unusual angle… but one that’s deliciously pleasurable.
Since you both have your legs spread and you enter at an angle you’re going to go much deeper inside of her.
Because of this, you’re going to hit all different kinds of deep pleasure zones that she might have never even known were there!
Meanwhile, depending on weather you hold her leg or just let it rest against you, you can have 1 or both hands free to roam.
Grab her ass with one hand while fondling her breasts with the other.
Or use a hand to play with her clit, while you rub her insides with your tip.
It Makes You Last Longer… WHILE Making Her Come Quicker!
Unlike other positions that make it easy for you to thrust straight in and out very fast, this one makes that hard to do.
Inexperienced lovers might think this is a bad thing, but it’s actually one of the keys that makes this position so great!
Why?
- It slows you down and prevents you from coming too quick.
- It forces you to thrust in a way that makes women come.
See, women don’t often come from the same kind of penetration that men do.
For a guy to come, he just needs to thrust straight in and out. The faster and harder, the sooner he comes.
But women don’t get much stimulation to their “orgasm triggers” from that type of thrusting.
In order for a woman to come, you need to thrust in a way that stimulates the right spots, such as the clit or g-spot.
Notice when a woman gets on top to ride you, most don’t bounce straight up and down on your cock. Unless she’s a pornstar or stripper, this just isn’t what get’s women off.
What does a woman do when they get on top?
She GRINDs you.
She gets on top, and rather than focusing on your dick going in and out, she focuses on rubbing her clit against your pubic bone and shaft… WHILE you’re inside of her.
Bottom line, this position makes it hard to “pump” in and out of her – the kind of stimulation that makes us come…
And it makes it easy to grind her – the kind of stimulation that makes her come!
So when you’re in the side straddle, grind, don’t pump.
Why The Best Lovers Use The Side Straddle Sex Position So Often
If you’ve been studying how to be a great lover for any amount of time, then you know about the importance of variety.
Women NEED a variety of sexual experiences in order to stay hungry for sex.
This applies to
- the emotions she feels during sex
- the types of orgasms (IE: oral, fingering, vaginal, anal, etc)
- the types of stimulation (IE: clitoral, g-spot, a-spot, etc)
- the positions you use.
In this article, we’re focusing on positions and emotions.
If you’re always using the same 2 positions, she’s eventually going to get bored.
Most guys know this.
What isn’t talked about as often by sex educators and “gurus” is the importance of smooth transitions from one position to the next.
If you’re fumbling around and clanking heads to switch positions, it’s going to throw her off her game.
It messes with the emotions needed to orgasm.
All that positive, erotic emotion you built up can dissolve in an instant with one bad fumble.
Transitioning smoothly between positions keeps her in an erotic and orgasmic state. And when you do it right, it even amplifies her pleasure and arousal.
So how do you transition from one position to another?
One step at a time!
Here’s an example.
2 of the most commonly used positions are missionary and doggy.
Use The Side Straddle To Transition From Missionary To Doggy
Start off slow in the missionary position to make her feel safe, care for and loved.
Kiss her.
Whisper some sweet nothing in her ear.
Get present and FEEL your arousal build. Because women are so intuitive, it’ll cause her to feel the same.
Now, SLOWLY pull out of her while looking her in the eyes (with a flirty grin on your face) and keep feeling your arousal.
Put a hand on the bed (for support) and lift one of your knees over one of her thighs to straddle her.
Grab her other leg and slowly lift it up towards your chest while gently kissing it a few times.
When you do this, her core will naturally start to rotate and tilt her upper body on its side.
Now rest her leg against your chest, and start to tease her clit with your tip.
Rub it against her clit side to side, up and down, and in circles.
Now rub your tip against her opening for a minute.
Tell her she isn’t ready for it yet to build her desire.
When you’re ready, slowly enter her again.
Now’s the time to start turning up the emotion and arousal a bit more.
Slowly and gradually start to build up the intensity and fuck her a little harder.
Grab her boobs a bit more passionately.
Turn your sweet nothings into slightly dirtier talk.
Feel your arousal getting more intense as your actions follow.
Notice hers doing the same.
Try to stay inside of her while doing this.
Now turn everything up to the next level.
Get a little rougher again.
Grab her boobs a little harder (always being careful not to hurt her of course).
Maybe tug on her hair a bit or slap her ass.
Remember, keep dialing up the arousal, dirty talk, and movements all in sync to make the transition as smooth as possible.
Grab her upper arm and pull it towards the bed to flip her completely over and take her from behind.
And that’s it!
This is how you use the side straddle sex position to transition from “love-making” missionary to rough from behind doggy.
But these same concepts can be used to transition to and from lots of positions.
Here are the keys to remember.
- Do it gradually. In increments.
- Find a leverage point to move her around easily (in this case it was her leg)
Make sure to keep the emotions & actions in sync. Don’t make slow, gentle love while pulling her hair and telling her you love how slutty she is. Keep everything congruent!