In the plumber sex position, your woman lies on her back while you get on top and straddle her face. Lean forward, get on all fours and enjoy!
From here you’ve got 2 options.
You can take control and thrust in and out of her mouth, or you can stay still while she blows you.
The problem with staying still while she does the work is that it can be very hard on her neck and shoulders.
Be mindful of this.
Pay attention to her body language and stop her the moment you sense she’s getting tired.
The second option is for you to do the thrusting.
In this version you need to…
Keep in mind just how incredibly vulnerable she is in the plumber sex position.
She has absolutely no control and nowhere to go. In most blowjob positions, she can just move back if you go to far. In the plumber position, she can’t do that.
If you go too far, there’s nothing she can do but try to push you off.
Obviously, this creates a lot of vulnerability. She has to trust that you won’t push her past her limit and choke her.
Here’s the good news… you can use this opportunity to build trust and improve your sex life exponentially.
Telling someone they can trust you is one thing. Showing it is another.
Show her that you will NEVER push her past her limits.
This will build her “sexual trust”.
Build trust in the bedroom and with just a bit of time, she will do any and every nasty thing you want!
Not only that, she’ll love it!
She’ll also feel safe to let go with you, surrender control, and thus surrender her orgasms.
When a woman is worried about what you think of her sexual expression, if you’ll hurt her or take advantage of her, she cannot orgasm.
Her mind takes control of her focus and her body is left hanging.
In order to orgasm she must get out of her head and this is only possible if she knows that she can trust you… or she’s really drunk.
So use the vulnerability of the plumber sex position to build sexual trust, submission, and orgasmic potential.
Establish a safe act.
It’s like a safe word, but action based. Kinda necessary when her mouth is full with your manhood.
Nothing fancy needed.
Just a tap on your thighs, or a push on your stomach will do the trick.
Here’s how to do it and start building trust before you ever use it.
- Get into mid position. In other words straddle her face but stay upright instead of leaning over and putting your hands on the floor or bed.
- Look her in the eyes and say “if you want me to stop at any time, just do X” IE: Slap me here with your hands.
- Practice the move. This is crucial. Actually do the move with her. Tell her to open her mouth, inch inside of her, then take her hands and slap yourself with them exactly how you want her to do it.
- IMMEDIATELY pull out of her and give her some positive reinforcement. Give her a smile and tell her “just like that, ok?”
Until you do this, you won’t believe just how powerful this is.
Why?
A lot of girls get told “just tell me if you wanna stop” but they don’t actually do it because they feel guilty, ashamed, insecure, etc.
Just because she didn’t tell you to stop, doesn’t mean she didn’t feel it.
If she wants you to stop but doesn’t say so, it can have some NASTY effects.
- She can begin to resent you for it… even though you said the right thing and were willing to stop.
- She’ll be nervous about trying it again in the future and will look for ways to get out of it.
- If it happens too often, she will start to associate sex with you to having those negative emotions. Not good.
These four steps are powerful because they Show Her she can trust you.
She’s already done it and not only were there no negative consequences, but there was actually a positive one because you gave her that positive reassurance.
A lot of guys might think “won’t that make it more likely she’ll use the safe act then?”
No.
Here’s why.
The main reason a woman uses a safe word or act is because she feels nervous and in danger.
She panics.
She’s not certain that she could get out of the situation quickly, if needed.
When you physically make her use the safe act you’ve agreed to, and then pull out of her right away, it proves to her subconscious mind that there’s no need to panic.
She just has to do her safe act and you will listen and bring her to safety right away.
This builds trust.
This is how you get a woman to surrender her body and orgasms to you.
I’ll say it one more time just in case…
When she uses her safe act, stop IMMEDIATELY.
Or in this case, pull out immediately.
Obeying this rule will build her trust in you but breaking it will kill her trust more than anything… and you might never be able to get it back.
The Very Best Way To Establish Sexual Trust Is…
Adapt your techniques in the bedroom to match her preferences.
We all know women are different.
There are some universal truths about women’s sexuality that applies to all women, but there are also many areas where women are different.
They have unique sensitivities and preferences.
If you want to blow her mind, give her the best orgasms of her life and establish total sexual trust, you must adapt your techniques to match these differences.