The pearly gates sex position gives your woman the control of cowgirl, with the closeness of missionary.
It might look difficult and not worth the effort but enough women swear by it that it’s definitely worth a try, at least once.
Think of it like spooning, while facing the ceiling.
Lie flat on your back, lift and spread your legs, bending them at the knees and placing the souls of your feet flat on the bed.
She gets on top with her legs spread and bent with souls on the bed for balance.
It’s a position that offers g-spot and p-spot stimulation.
If she’s not completely comfortable being exposed to you or letting you watch as she plays with herself, the pearly gates allows her to do so without you seeing. It’ll increase her comfort gradually, which is key.
Many women say this position makes them squirt quite easily. If she’s a squirter, it’s all the more reason to give this one a shot.
As mentioned, her balance is key in this one. By keeping your legs spread and grounded, she has a solid foundation to lie on.
To increase her balance, she should spread her legs and place them on the ground as well. She can also stretch her arms out to her sides and put her hands on the bed.
2 Secrets To Mastering The Pearly Gates Sex Position
There’s really 2 keys to making this position incredible for her.
- Let her do the thrusting.
You can thrust from the bottom and some women will like it, most don’t.
Why?
Cause she knows the best way to move in order to git her O spot. She will instinctively move in the right way. She might grind, gyrate, pump up and down, or one of many other options.
If you start taking control from the bottom, you don’t let her find her rhythm.
So let her do her thing and instead of trying to fuck from below, focus on how you…
- Use your hands.
Sounds simple but this really is the key to making this position mind-melting for her.
You’ve got full access to all her naughty bits. And it’s coming from an unconventional angle.
It’s a totally different sensation.
Play with her boobs.
Put your hand around her neck.
Rub her clit. (She can even stop thrusting for a bit and stay still while you rub her to orgasm!)
Smack her ass from the sides.
If you are doing the thrusting, grab onto her hips. It’ll make her subconscious flex her vaginal muscles and come even harder!
Grab a handful of hair and pull her head to one side (carefully of course). Kiss and nibble her neck.
Silence Is Death In This Position
Silent sex is always awkward, but when your mouth is right by her ear, it becomes even more noticeable and important.
So get close up to her ear and talk to her.
Moan and groan to let her hear your excitement.
Breathe naturally and let your mouth make whatever noises feel natural.
Make noises that let her know how much she’s turning you on.
Variations of the Pearly Gates
As with all positions, you’ll want to try out slightly different tweaks to find out what works best for you.
Remember, not all women are the same and you need to split test to get the best results.
Here are a few versions worth trying.
Test legs spread wide vs tight.
If her legs are spread wide, you’ll go deeper inside of her.
As guys, we tend to assume this is best but it doesn’t always hit that perfect o-spot, especially if you’re bigger than average.
By spreading your legs and having hers closer together, she will feel tighter and you’ll feel fuller inside of her. Apart from losing a bit of depth, she’ll also have less balance. Keep this in mind and make sure she doesn’t tumble over.
If her legs spread wide works best, the next question is does she prefer her legs spread wider than yours (on the outside), or less (on the inside)?
Kneeling Gates
This is another version that looks hard and not worth the effort at first glance but once again, many women swear by this tweak so it just might be worth trying.
Personally, I don’t bother with this version unless she initiates it.
Arched Gates
Here she bends her legs fully, plants her feet flat on the floor and uses her leg muscles to hold her lower body.
While resting her upper body on top of you, she can grind away while you lay back and enjoy.
She’ll have the most control over movement and motion.
Just know that she’ll get tried quickly here and keep an eye out for cues so that you’re ready to switch it up.
Transitioning in and out of The Pearly Gates Sex Position
It’s highly unlikely that your woman will just tell you to lie down and then get on top in the pearly gates.
This is a position that’s typically transitioned into from other positions.
Also remember that how you change positions will determine if you come across as smooth and natural in bed.
Here are a few of the best transitions for the pearly gates.
Split Sinner
This one could have been put under a variation but it is a transition if you’re feeling extra adventurous and want to try the full nelson.
From the basic version, just lift her legs a bit and get a hold of them.
She won’t be able to do any thrusting here so that’s going to be on you.
Spooning Sex Position
I started this article by telling you how the pearly gates is like spooning on your back.
All you have to do is tilt your body to a side and she’ll fall over in a spoon position.
Couldn’t be easier.
This is also the first step if you’re trying to transition into one of the all time greatest positions, the prone bone.
Give her a bit of slower, love-making in the spoon first, then flip her all the way over to drill her hard in the prone bone!