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What’s A Service Top Position?
Traditional girl-on-top positions (like cowgirl) are highly educational because you can relax and observe how your woman moves in order to orgasm. You can feel and watch the precise motion, rhythm, and speed she uses in order to get herself off.
Service-top positions are different because your woman doesn’t move in ways that will make her come. She moves in ways that *she thinks* will make you come. Or in ways she thinks will tease, please, and turn you on. She’s on top and in full control but she doesn’t use that power to pleasure herself, she uses it to pleasure and service you.
So, if the lap dance sex position isn’t useful at teaching you what makes your woman come, what is it good for? The answer is turning her on and priming her for stronger orgasm in other positions.
Here’s why.
Nothing Turns Her On More Than Turning You On.
The only reason a woman gives you a lap dance (other than cold hard cash) is to turn you on. It’s to get you thinking with your little head instead of your big one. Why does she want to have this power? Because it makes her feel sexy, beautiful, and wanted.
So give her those feelings.
Make her feel beautiful, sexy, and wanted, by giving her the rise she’s trying to get out of you. When she sees (and feels) that her seductive moves are working, it makes her confident, wet, and liberates her to do all the nasty things you want without feeling any shame or guilt.
When she gets on top and gives you a lap dance:
- Stroke and caress every inch of her body.
- Compliment the way she moves.
- Let out NON-EXAGERAATED moans and groans of pleasure and arousal.
A Quick Warning On The Danger of Trying To Get A Rise Out Of You
Have you ever been with a woman and taken her moans, groans, and movements as a sign to go harder, faster, or deeper… only to have your change in pace absolutely butcher her mood?
The same thing can happen here.
If you’re doing a great job of letting her know she’s turning you on, she might feel the urge to crank things up a notch.
As I said a minute above, the type of fucking that makes men come is usually very different from the type that makes women come. When You Watch Penetration Orgasms Made Easy, I’ll Show You That Difference. If a woman gets on top of you in the lap dance sex position and starts going in the way most likely to make you come (fast, full length, and hard), it could be very dangerous. One tiny slip and you could be in prime position for a major accident.
So make sure to keep the lap dance sex position going at a safe pace where the risk of an accident is reduced as much as possible.
If she does get too excited, grab a hold of her by the waist, hold her back, and tell her to slow down.
Pro Tip: Telling her that she’s making you too excited can fuel her confidence but telling her that SHE is getting too excited gives you a great segue to switch into a more dominant position where you can safely take back control of the thrusting.
So let’s get to it…
Variations of The Lap Dance Sex Position
As with all positions, there are many different versions. Here are a few of the most common your woman might try and what you can do to level up on them.
Champagne Room Position
This is the closed leg version of the lap dance where she’ll feel the tightest. It’s extremely difficult (if not impossible) to get into so she might have to spread her legs at first, get in position, and then close her legs once you’re inside.
In my experience, most women opt for a subtle grind instead of bouncing up and down. Match this pace by ‘hugging’ her from behind, putting your arm around her neck, or placing a hand on her pubic bone and applying a bit of pressure.
This is the ultimate “trying to turn you on” version so remember to encourage her and help her feel successful. Breath and moan, whisper in her ear how much she’s turning you on, and let her know how sexy her body feels as you caress every inch of it.
Reverse Lap Dance
As the name suggests, it’s similar to the regular lap dance only your woman is facing you instead of facing away. She puts her feet on the couch on each side of your butt and rocks her pelvis up and down.
If she leans back while doing this move, she’ll “drop” her g-spot directly onto your shaft, making her come fast and hard. The key here is that she will need some support to hold that position. She can put her hands on your thighs, you can wrap your arms around her waist and back, or she can hold up on a table or other furniture.
Spread Lap Dance Sex Position
Unlike the previous version where she keeps her legs closed tight, this version has her legs spread wide and open to all kinds of extra stimulation. This version actually can be all about her pleasure and making her come if you aren’t intimated by a little extra help.
Yup, I’m talking about using a toy or your hand to give her clitoral stimulation while she sits relatively still on your cock. You can actually make her come quite easily while you’re inside of her if you let your shaft sit still and let a toy do the work.
Swiss Ball Blitz Sex Position
It’s lap dance on an exercise ball.
What more is there to say here other than BE EXTREMELY CAREFUL with this one. The risks we talked about above are even more present here so you might want to tell your woman not to pull off more then half way. The less length you’re working with, the more I would recommend you stay away from this version.
The Position Most Likely To Make Her Come
This entire blog is about studying different positions and finding the best ones for every scenario.
Depending on your size, your shape, how you and your woman “fit” with each other, some positions will naturally make her come more easily than others.
But there is one sex strategy that’s even more orgasmic than the positions you use.
Women from around the world agree it’s more important than the positions you use, your size, or even your stamina.
Use this 1 fucking technique and give any woman the most powerful orgasms of her life… guaranteed!