If you’ve been reading this blog for a while, you already know that women are desperate to experience many different shades of the sexual rainbow.
I’m not talking about women wanting to get it on with other women, although that is a common fantasy.
What I’m talking about is giving your woman a variety of erotic emotions.
Women crave “dark emotions” like lust and uncontrollable desire… and they also crave light emotions such as feeling cared for, special, and loved.
IMPORTANT: In this context, I’m talking specifically about women who are in committed relationships.
If you’re just hooking up with a one night stand, there’s a high chance that she doesn’t want to feel the lighter emotions like love. She might even be afraid to experience them with you. Unless you know her O type and you know she needs light emotions to orgasm, going light with a one night stand is usually a turnoff. Stick to the dark emotions for one night stands and fuck buddies.
On the other hand, if you’re in a committed relationship with a woman you love, NOTHING will satisfy her more than a VARIETY of sexual experiences.
Sometimes she craves being tied her up, brought to the brink of orgasm, and then denied that orgasm at the last minute.
Sometimes she craves a spontaneous quickie in the car or kitchen.
Sometimes she craves being completely dominated and given a hard fucking.
And sometimes, she wants nothing more than to make sweet, slow, romantic love that penetrates her soul and fills her up with love and connection.
The faceoff sex position is one of the best positions for light-emotion sex.
Now that we’re clear on when you should and shouldn’t use this position…
Here’s How To Pull Off the Faceoff Sex Position
To get in the faceoff, sit down on a chair, the edge of a bed, a couch, or in a car. Only parked cars count!
Facing you, your woman sits and kneels on top of you.
It’s that simple.
The part where guys get hung up is when it comes to the thrusting.
More on that in a minute.
If you’re not very big “down there”, you’re going to love this position…
The faceoff allows you to go deep inside your woman… very deep!
The wider you spread your legs, the deeper you’ll go.
Now she’s going to have her legs on the outside of yours so you won’t be able to spread yours too wide, but don’t worry, even a slight spread will make you reach the deepest parts of her.
The faceoff sex position helps you last longer.
Struggling with premature ejaculation is humiliating, I know, I’ve been there… a lot! The face off increases your staying power exponentially.
As you’re about to see, she’s going to be doing the penetration in this position and it likely won’t be the kind of penetration that makes you come. She’s not going to bounce up and down and create the constant in-and-out friction that makes you lose it.
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How She Comes In the Face Off
A common mistake guys make whenever their woman gets on top is to grab onto her and start pounding really hard and fast from the bottom. Some women like this… but for most it just ruins her orgasm.
See the type of stimulation that makes a guy come isn’t the same type of stimulation that gets a woman off.
Straight in and out penetration gives us the friction we need to come but women need to have their clit, g-spot, or one of the deep spots stimulated.
Going straight in usually doesn’t do it for her. Unless you’re packing so much meat that Ron Jeremy would be jealous.
Any time your woman gets on top, let her move and grind in the way that works best for her, or give her some time to find that perfect motion and then take control only if and when you can mimic it perfectly.
In the faceoff, you won’t be able to “thrust back” since your ass is stuck to a surface.
That’s a good thing.
Let her take control.
Let her ride.
Let her come.
Most likely she’ll find that one of these 2 motions works best for her:
- Grinding you so that your pubic bone rubs against her clit.
- Rocking back and forth (slightly) so that the tip of your penis rubs against one of her deep spots.
In the latter version, it won’t feel like she’s doing much at all. In fact many guys who don’t understand what she’s doing might get frustrated and impatient, longing for some in and out action.
But you know better.
You understand that those seemingly minute movements have a powerful effect inside of her.
Use The Faceoff Sex Position To Build Intimacy & Sexual Trust
One of the keys to using giving your woman variety is to make sure everything is congruent.
When using a light position and thrusting style, don’t pull her hair and use raunchy dirty talk.
When fucking her hard in doggy, don’t talk in a low voice and tell her how much you love her.
Keep everything congruent.
Got it?
Since the face off is best for light love making, add in congruent “bonuses”.
Side note: oxytocin is known as the love hormone. Our brains produce more of this hormone when making love and when our bodies are so close and pressed up against each other.
Keep it congruent and amplify oxytocin production by:
- Looking deep into each others eyes.
- Whispering sweet nothings into her ear.
- Having her wrap her arms around your neck while you wrap yours around her waist and hold her close.
- Passionately kiss her lips, her neck, and her breasts.
- Get present and FEEL YOUR BODY while you’re inside her. Mirror neurons ß find science link – will fire and she’ll start to do the same. When she does, you’ll feel each other on a deeper, almost spiritual level. I know it sounds corny, but trust me… nothing will make her feel more loved, special and connected.
Transition Positions
Finally, as I always try to cover in the blogs, make sure you transition smoothly from one position to the next.
Here are 2 simple yet powerfully effective transitions from the faceoff.
Not much to this one. Just lean back, let her make the adjustments necessary and then ride you to orgasm.
While you stay in the same position, tell her it would be really hot if she leaned back.
By doing this, it’ll position her g-spot directly above your penis head. With just a bit of movement, she’ll quickly realize that she can “drop” her g-spot directly onto you for incredibly pleasurable penetration.
You can easily reach over and play with her boobs or clit for that extra boost in pleasure.