Men: If you’ve ever wanted to get banged without having a dildo shoved up your butt… you need to try the amazon sex position!
Women: If you’ve ever fantasized about how powerful you’d feel pounding your man, the amazon is for you!
The amazon position is one of the most challenging you’ll ever try. Both physically and emotionally.
In this advanced, woman-on-top position, the man lies on his back with his legs spread, while the woman towers over him and does the bump and grind.
She thrusts.
She dominates.
She runs the show.
This spiced-up cowgirl is role-reversal at its finest.
The man must be comfortable enough to get into such a submissive position and “get fucked”, while some women can find it difficult to take charge and dominate.
In terms of physical challenges, the man must be flexible and the woman needs endurance.
The 2 keys to this position are to get in the right mindset, and find the ideal variation of the position.
Step 1. Ease into role reversal gradually
If the man is used to being dominant, it can be a challenge to let go and be the submissive.
The easiest way to do this is for the woman to start taking the lead in less dominant ways.
Tell your man to lie down.
Tie him up.
Give him a lap dance.
Show him (through your actions) that you’re in charge and it’s okay for him to submit to his goddess.
Get on top of him and rub yourself against his manhood.
Ask him “Who’s cock is this?”
If he tries to enter himself into you, grab you, or take control in any way, slap his hand away and let him know you’re in charge!
Before you start to penetrate him, take a moment to get present and really feel the shift in power dynamic.
You might start with a dominant blowjob while you pin his arms down.
Don’t blow him like you usually would.
Instead, fuck him with your mouth.
Show him how much pleasure he can experience when you take control.
Step 2. Find your ideal version of the position
There are lots of variations to the Amazon sex position.
Some are more challenging than others…
Some will hit the right spot just perfectly…
And some will have you falling over.
Keep testing and tweaking until you find the one that works for the two of you.
Here’s something you must keep in mind when testing out new variations.
This position can put a tremendous amount of strain on your guys Penile Suspensory Ligamant (PSL).
Too much strain and it could tear, putting him out of commission for months.
So please, BE CAREFUL and always be conscious of his angle.
In this first variation of the man’s position, you can see that his cock is straight up.
This is as far back as he can comfortably go.
Now take a look at what happens (in the second image) when his pelvis is tilted with the help of a prop such as a pillow or his hands.
If the prop is placed under his butt, his pelvis tilts towards his face.
His erection can’t go as far back but this could be much more stimulating for you if you’re going to be leaning over him.
If the prop is placed under his lower back (see the third image), it makes the pelvis tilt away from his head and his erection can go back further.
This version might be ideal if the woman is going to face away from him.
Again, the key is to find your ideal version and always be conscious (and careful) of how far back his erection can comfortably go.
The second variation for the man’s position comes down to his leg placement.
Are his legs spread wide and low (around the woman’s waist?).. are they closer together by her upper body… or are they straight out as close to his head as possible?
Again, each variation makes a huge difference in the sensations you both feel as well as the comfortable tilt in his penis.
Now, let’s take a look at variations in the woman’s position.
She can kneel, be on her feet, or have one knee and one foot grounded.
She can face her man, face sideways, or face away from him.
She can be straight up, leaning away from him or leaning over him.
There are an endless number of ways to enjoy the amazon sex position.
Again, the key is to find the variation that works for you and your partner.
Step 3. Know your role and play it!
Now that you’ve gotten into the right mindset and found your ideal position, play your role.
Guys, being submissive is not about being “less than” or being dictated to… it’s about letting go of control and putting all your focus on the sensations that you’re woman is making you feel.
Allow yourself to fully FEEL whatever emotions and sensation come up for you.
If you start to judge or label what you’re feeling IE: “This is emasculating” or “This isn’t right, I’m the man. I need to take charge”… let that go.
Stop thinking.
Get back to feeling.
Enjoy the sensations.
Enjoy the fact that your woman is taking control of your (and her) pleasure.
Ladies, you’re in control here so play it up a bit.
Lead.
Show your man how much you want him and how he makes you lose control.
Pin his hands down.
If he tries to touch you or move you in a way other than what you truly want, slap his hand away and tell him that you’re the boss.
Let him know that you’re in charge, not just with your actions, but also your words.
Talk dirty to him.
Tell him you’re in charge.
Tell him how good it feels when you ride him.
This is what the amazon sex position is all about.
Remember, his erection can only bend so far back comfortably and when you’re in the heat of the moment, it can be easy to lose sight of this.
So make sure you establish a safe word before using this position and if he ever uses it, respect it immediately, ease up on the pressure and stop right away until you know what the problem is.
When you’re done in this position, give your man some aftercare and make sure he knows this was just a role you were playing.
Maybe return to a male-dominant position and let him return to taking the lead.
Finally, have fun!
Don’t set high expectations.
Like any position, the amazon sex position isn’t for everyone.
You might tumble.
You might not find the perfect version.
Don’t worry about it.
Laugh it off and get into another, easier female-dominant position like cowgirl.